Okay, here is my problem. I am forty years old and I am turning 41 in April. I make a very good living, I take 3 months of holidays and I travel every year, I own my own home, but I’m 40 and I am attracted to women in their 20s. I meet a nice woman and we start to hit it off. She asks me how old I am and I say, “Guess”. They usually guess somewhere in the early thirties (I have even had 29 a few times) and I don’t correct them. If I tell them I’m 40 right after meeting them, that’s usually the end of the conversation. If they find out I’m 40 after they get to know me, no problem.
So, do I lie when I first meet them?
In addition, what about on line?(like lavalife and such)
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2007-02-06 13:57:43 · 25 answers · asked by Walter D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! That’s a lot of quick responses. You all got the answer right, so I’m not going to pick one. Let voting decide.
For the record, I never lie about anything.
2007-02-06 14:30:27 · update #1
online at least be honest because some women won't mind. Honestly most men are attracted to girls in their 20's.. but what about when this sweet girl you met in her 20's is in her 30's...will you still care then?
be honest otherwise you're the reason why 40 year olds have a bad name, maybe preface it with.. 'well i think that you'll think im a dirty old man' or a warning that you know you're a lot older but you want to get a chance. I have a good friend that this happened to, and the man let her believe he was much younger than he was... when she found out they broke it off. not because of his age but because she couldnt believe he would lie to her for so long.
good luck
2007-02-06 14:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie. As a young woman (about to turn 20), a 40-year-old lying about his age would be a quick turn off, and will give a bad impression. Be truthful, there are plenty of young women who prefer older men (they already have careers, houses, not going through that "Who am I?" phase, ect.) And since you look young, that is another plus. Be honest, it will work out better for you.
2007-02-06 22:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by CrystalEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever lie. You can't build a relationship on lies, that's like trying to build a house on water. Unless it's a boat it's guaranteed to sink. I'm 57 been told I look like I'm in my 40's and from 1 to 10 I might be a 6. But I've had to lovingly explain why the 31 year old daughter of an ex model needed to stay with her boyfriend; because he loved her and her daughter and was able to care for them better than I could. When I first met her mother, she, (the daughter,I'll call her Ann) said,"I'm watching you."I replied,"Good. That tells me you love and are concerned about your mothers safety." Two weeks later Ann hugged me, in tears and said "I love you." And I had strong feelings for this young woman but realized that she was better off with a younger man who I met and knew to be a better man than I for her. The relationship with her mother and I was not working out. Ann has chosen to call me Dad. I met a beautiful woman from West Virginia who wanted to leave her husband to be with me. I guess becaue of being honest he agreed with his wife that as he was gone sometimes for weeks at a time she should be with me. I talked with both of them and told them that she was the most beautiul woman that I had ever seen in my life(which is true). I said we could be nothing more than brother and sister and promised that if anything ever happend to either of them I would be their for the other. I could go on but I think I've made my point. I am single and do not date. I have had many younger sisters who would have prefered more but I don't play that game. If the right one comes along, well then only GOD knows. I don't believe that age matters, only what's best for the woman.
2007-02-06 23:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by windwalker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't lie. Smile and tell them you don't want to tell. It sounds like putting the question off has been working. Pretty soon your age may be more prominent and the game'll be over anyway...or not!
I don't do i'net chats, couldn't advise you there. However, some people appreciate that honesty's the best policy. I don't like to think of girls lying about their age, saying they're older - ew. Hey, you can say your age is similar to some rock stars (LOL! Mick Jagger is, what, 60something?!)!
2007-02-06 22:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 25 and my husband is 41. Honestly, I love him so much I dont even care.. And NO he is not Fortune Five Hundred. Just loves me, and cares for me deeply. Most girls, think older ew, but they waste so much time running after immature young guys.. If they are smart they wont run away from age.. His 41, but looks 30. Sometimes, its hard on him, especially when I get hit on. Some guys dont think, his with me.. So you have to take that into perspective as well.. But its worth it...
2007-02-06 22:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by beygrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man your age should not have anything in common with a 20 years old. You need to date women in their 30s or your age.
A 20 years old young lady is not yet fully mature, but I guess the one that you have ran into were because as soon as they learned that you are in your 40s, they ran.
Lie and you will have to live with your lies.
Sick!
2007-02-06 22:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's best to be honest. I never minded dating an older man. You will find someone that is right for you. Be honest. I would bet any woman worth keeping would like you better if you told the truth up front. Good luck.
2007-02-06 22:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by MsAdventure 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lie even on line, you want the women to like you for you this means disregarding what age you are, as they always say anyway age doesn't matter. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with them if i know they wouldn't be with me if i told the truth, If you know what i mean. Find someone who accepts your age, be grateful that they think your younger and work with that, ie " thanks but i'm 40, i like to keep in shape" etc. it will make you feel better toknow ur telling hte truth and won't be messy when it is uncovered in the future. good luck.
2007-02-06 22:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by what_would_i_know 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen dude i am a girl (FYI) and i can tell u that the thing i hate most is a guy that lies to me from the first time i meet him! if u want a real relationship tell her how old u really are. if she dosnt want to date someone older than her than she will tell u so and well then maybe nothing maybe she will decide just to be friends. but if u lie first and then tell her later she is likly to get really angery and cancel and realationship that u have started to have! dont lie!
2007-02-06 22:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by cryist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My vote . . . NEVER lie about your age . . . or other important basic information about yourself.
When a person lies about their age it shows a lack of respect for another coming to know them, not valuing themselves or another, insecurity of that person lying as they feel that can't stand solid within their own personality, character . . .
I'm, wonderfully so, 50, as of last Autumn. People are stunned when they learn this as they think I'm in my early 30's or at most 40. . . I never lie about my age to attract a different type of man.
This is who I am . . . I want a person to come to know the real me . . . right from the beginning. . . If they don't like something about me. . . then they can just walk away and find someone else who suits them . . . I'll not lie about myself to attract another.
If I discover a man has lied about himself of basic core info. ~ ~ That speaks to me of his character and that he is insecure...I'll not continue coming to know him. . . I'd send him on his way.
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2007-02-06 22:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by onelight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋