My ex changed his mind about us so fast, is it really that easy for guys? We talked about always being together and everything seemed to be going really well. But then he stopped calling me for a week. A few days later he told me half of him still loved me and half of him wanted to just be friends so we broke up. After that he has givin me every reason there is to why we didn't work. We didn't mesh well, we weren't meant to be together, he didn't like how I talked about the future(he did to), he dosn't love me at all, we will never be together,... and things of that nature. How can his mind change in just two weeks? He had talked about how I would be a great mother, how he wanted me to take his last name, this was all two weeks before he stopped wanting to be with me. He even told his best friend that I was the girl he was going to marry. The only problem during the relationship is he didn't think he was good enough for me. How could his mind change in just two weeks?
2007-02-06 13:48:23 · 21 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when guys do that it means "THEY JUST ARENT THAT INTERESTED IN YOU!" and they probably found someone else and decided they didnt want to be with you anymore
2007-02-06 13:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by jinxygrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, so I can't give a guy's perspective, but I do know that real honest love cannot be turned off and on like a water faucet. Some guys (and girls) say whatever it takes to get what they want or until something better comes along. Talk is cheap so stop listening to him. Instead, look at what he does. His actions will tell you the real story. BTW, every time a guy told me he didn't think he was good enough for me, he was right ... but I had to find that out the hard way.
2007-02-06 13:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too emotionally immature to really love you or anybody else. He probably really did love the fantasy he spun around you, but he can't deal with the reality of loving someone. That "I'm not good enough for you" line is a huge red flag. Anyone with such glaring self-esteem issues is going to sabotage a relationship, and the sad thing is you can't boost someone else's self-esteem for long--at some point they've got to do that themselves.
This person has some serious problems, and they shouldn't be viewed as standard male attributes. Women who claim this is the way men always behave are likely dealing with similar issues and setting up self-fulfilling prophecies.
2007-02-06 14:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my BF...or don't know where we stand. 6 mos ago, something petty happened, and at the moment, he stopped telling me he loves me or showing any affection. We've been together 7 yrs.. He evaded committment, and could never open up intimately. I'm realizing he has security issues about himself and I deserve better. He manipulated me and verbally controlled me. Not sure if any of these fit you, but am realizing I'm not the problem, and I am a good person, many feel that about me. You sound like a sweet girl, don't dwell, as hard as it is, move forward, a better someone is out there for you. I'm trying to do the same at this moment.
2007-02-06 13:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by SMILEYGIRL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened to me. I still cant work it out. Men hey!?. Maybe he got really insecure and still thinks hes not good enough for you and hes making up excuses for his insecurties?. Or maybe he wanted to cool things of a bit so he could see what else there is out there?. If this is the case don't take him back when he comes crawling back. I made that mistake then got hurt again!. Or then again maybe he really is unsure and just needs you to let him know how special he is to you and how much you really like him. Either way hope everything goes well for you!.
2007-02-06 13:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by MizK♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when I like someone, I like them for a while. I had a crush on a guy in 6th-8th grade. I liked a couple other guys for several months, up to a year or two. The guy I like now, I've liked him for 4 months, since the first day I met him. I don't see myself not liking him any time soon. And I only quit liking them because they just wanted to be friends. not all girls are like that, don't base ur opinion on us by certain people.
2016-03-29 08:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be either of three things. (1) To be honest it sounds like he ran into someone else who got his interest. (2) His hormones was high and he said many of those things as a way to seduce you into love making, now after he had his fill he is looking for someone else (sound crude I know but some guys are like that). (3)He has a inferiority complex and he does not want any commitment right now.
2007-02-06 14:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are yall? if he changed his mind in just 2 weekz he doesnt really love u or maybe he has been thinking about how to tell u and since he couldnt find a better way he is deciding to act lyk this. guys are silly and dont really know how to express their feelings. talk about it with him... and if he gets annoyed at the same questions. u know he dont love u
2007-02-06 13:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by ~Jayda~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't LOVE you one day & change their minds the next week. Truth is he just wants you one day, and wants something else 2 days later, don't bother with him, there are more mature, nicer guys, you would really care for you.
2007-02-06 13:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me..after a year and a half, always together.."I love you's"...he goes and dumps me, and a week later , he's with a new gf...acting like we never existed... My theory..guys are heartless..you aren't as important as you think you are...also,..he always said that he couldn't live up to my standards too..guys!!
2007-02-06 13:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by ursoolastsumer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he got scared. You said he didn't think he was good enough for you, so that could be it. He probably thinks that you could do better than him and doesn't want to get hurt if later on you were to find someone better, so he decided to break things off first.
2007-02-06 13:56:16 · answer #11 · answered by icu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋