Why wont anyone ask me out?

Question

I am smart, nice, funny, and pretty(I guess). My only problem is that I'm a little shy. Why wont anyone ask me out? And there is this guy (my best friends cousin) who asked me out (sorta) but I said no, bcuz I'M SHY! And he's kindof young. I think he's in 7th grade, and I'm in 9th. What should I do!?!?!

Oh, and I like him!

Answer 1

Just remember that he is a person just like you--and he may be just as shy! It probably took A LOT of nerve to ask you out--especially since you are an "older woman." lol

Try setting up a "group thing"--you & your friends all go out as a group to get pizza & watch a movie, or (in the summer) to play putt-putt golf, or bowling, or attending a sporting event/game, or any other sport/event/game/movie (etc) that everyone enjoys! This takes the pressure off you guys when (if) there is a lull in the conversation--there are other people around to help round out the conversation! :)

Good luck! Sounds like he is a cutie!

(And btw...I didn't have my first date until my Sr yr in HS--that's how lame (and shy) I was!) :)

Answer 2

Good question. I would say that you should do an experiment that might help you be less shy. Start out small. Go out somewhere like the mall with your friends and pretend that you aren't shy. Make up a persona for yourself (Let's call her Samantha). Samantha isn't afraid of anything. She'll say hi to the cute guy in the shoe store, dance to the music in the cd shop, tell a guy she doesn't know that he has a cute butt, etc. While you're pretending to be your persona, nothing you do is embarrassing or will make you shy because it's not you... it's a character you've made up and you're an actor. After you've played around with your friends, try it out at school. For a day, be Samantha. Talk to the "in crowd" as if you don't care what they think. Ask a guy on the basketball team how the last game went. And say hi to as many people as you can in the hall between classes. Make eye contact and smile at more people. Most important, remember that it is an experiment. Even if it doesn't go so well, no one will remember in a week. I expect that it will go well. It's likely that boys don't ask you out because they are shy too. If you start a lot of conversations, it will give guys an opportunity to get to know you better and maybe ask you out. If you try this experiment, I think it will also give you the courage to call up the guy you like and ask if he wants to hang out after school sometime. Good luck.

Answer 3

Even if he is too young for you, I think you should accept a date with him. You will be able to relax, without so much pressure as if he were a serious date,..But just go out and have fun being silly or whatever.. Look at it as a practice date, to get out and just be with a guy..Then if sparks happen to fly, then age doesn't matter!

(just be careful that you don't hurt him, or lead him on unless you mean it)

Just tell him, ' I took a raincheck the last time, but do you still wanna go for a burger? " (or to a game, or movie, what ever you guys like)

Answer 4

If you like him, then why'd ya say no? You really don't have anything to lose. He's 7th grade and you're older ... you don't have to be shy! Have fun and get to know him ... first dates prepare you for second dates!! I'll bet you can even be confident if you try!!

Answer 5

if u like him, find ur inner confidence, boost ur self-esteem and say yes, because u neva know how his feelings will be in the future. if u think about it, if he went off with someone else because u turned him down, u would be really disappointed and wish u had had the courage to hav just said yes, so u should make sure u have no regrets in the future and just go for it !!! :-)

Answer 6

go out with him will be a great improvement on your personality..

shy is ok..
but keeping away good things because of that shyness is not ok..

never mind if he's kinda young..
all you need is a new experience that will bring you to the next level..

Enjoy!!

Answer 7

go out with him what do you have to lose???