ok i dot know if this is considered cheating but it definently makes me nervous. about a week ago my girlfriend came to me and asked me if i would be ok if she went out with her ex, as friends. she said she wanted to hang out with him at his house, alone, and she said that they might go out for ice cream too. that same day i also found out that she had been going to a gym with another guy too, and she never told me. when confronted she just said that she didnt want to make me mad? i dont know what to do. the guy whose house she wants to go over too is her ex and i called her one time when she was "playing tennis" with him, and he picked up and told me to call back later because they were "busy" and when i asked her about this she said that he was just kidding? is this cheating or am i just over protective? idk what to do, help!
2007-02-06 13:31:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is a hard one but if u dont like what she is doing then tell her tell her how u feel and if she keeps this up dump her it is the best thing to do
2007-02-06 13:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by loves brown eyes♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are two kinds of jealousy. Legitimate jealousy, and delusional jealousy. Decide which category your in.
Sounds to me like she is cheating. Sometimes you can cover up cheating by telling some of the truth, but not the whole truth. Just enough of the truth so that if anyone else saw them out together, it would be covered. Cause you technically know, just not the extent of it.
If you are serious about the relationship, tell her that you don't want her to see him without you around. Naturally, if she is cheating, she will take offense of your not trusting her. The guilty ones are always in defense of their innocence. If she's not cheating, she should be ok with it, or at least compromise.
If she continues, just break it off for obvious reasons. No relationship is worth being stressed out and worried all the time about whether your partner is cheating. If she loves you, she will understand how you feel. Ask her how she would feel if you were hanging out with your ex all the time instead of her.
2007-02-06 13:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid 2 kisses and he or she needs to proceed to be acquaintances with this dude, she for sure needs this dude yet needs to keep you as well. She cheated then and the subsequent ingredient she is going to make a screw up a nap with him. She is utilising you for in spite of reason perhaps you provide her each and every thing she needs or in spite of. yet once a cheater is continually a cheater she has no appreciate for herself nor for you. go away that thang on my own toddler detect a woman that in common words needs to kiss you. O yeah you probably did'nt deserve that no human being benefits to be cheated on, she would have only advised you you've been being a butt head or in spite of you do not flow and kiss somebody else.
2016-11-25 21:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be. It was nice of her to tell you about this (in her favor), but by backing him up (with the phone call thing and "busy"), she was disrespecting you. She "allowed" him to be a jerk to you, and that's could be a really good indication of cheating. Shifting of loyalties, not that she played tennis or got ice cream with him.
TALK TO HER. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you think she is spending a lot of time with him and it makes you uncofortable with that. THAT'S COMPLETELY NORMAL by the way.
Get her reaction and go with your gut feeling on this.
IF she doesn't respect your feelings then i say, MOVE on. Good luck.
2007-02-06 13:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing that you said that would indicate that she was cheating. however, 'cheating' varies from person to person, from relationship to relationship. it's what you set as rules of the game - your relationship.
if you haven't established, besides the obvious, the rules of the game, it's really not cheating.
communicate with your girlfriend and establish a rule that's comfortable for both of you. if either breaks the rules, then it's clear that someone has cheated.
2007-02-06 13:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by interlude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like cheating but you never know. Anyway, she obviously doesn't take you seriously, so move on to a girl that will care more about you and give u the respect u deserve.
2007-02-06 13:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Gist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dump her, or at least say ur not ok w/ it. girls no that its not ok 2hang w/ ex's n they no ne time we hang out w/ a guy that our bf doesnt no we hav 2tell our bf about it. n vice versa. if my bf is going over an ex's house n wants 2b alone w/ her i'd b so pissed n id dump him in a heart beat. how dare she think thats ok, of course u did tell her it was ok....u need 2 tell her how u feel n leave her b4 she leaves u 4 her x
2007-02-06 13:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope there's a cheap spy cam with audio we can get to find out whats really happening. There's only one way to find out and that is to spy on her. But dont take my word it might worsen the situation.
2007-02-06 13:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by art_wur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if its bothering you and you really like this girl than you need to have a respectful conversation with her about it, if she really likes you than see with respect your feelings and stop seeing this guy. If not than she is not worth keeping around
2007-02-06 13:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
itz cheating listen 2 wha u jus rote
2007-02-06 13:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋