My boyfriend is in iraq he told me he was going to be there for a whole year. I dont know what to do and I dont know how to handle it. Im still in school finishing it but its getting hard for me I feel so alone I want him to come home Im afraid of him getting hurt or dying out there What should I do how should I handle it I miss him so much I love him alot I dont want anything to happen to him. I dont know what will happen to me if he ever died!?!
2007-02-06 13:30:42 · 10 answers · asked by Monique 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Monique... he'll be alright in iraq less soldiers get killed it's actually outside that more dangerous and if you have doubts stick to your religion and pray for his safety... find comfort in your god and you shall soon see that he's always beside you and in your heart even though his far away... I'm so envious of what you guys have...
Pray monique thats the only thing you can do for him until he comes home... oh but don't forget to write with each other he might think you forgot about him! ^_^
I will also pray that he return to you safely, in one piece and alive! ^_^
You will survive this endevour that you now bear! Good Luck and God Bless!~
2007-02-14 13:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jean Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what it will be like when he's home. Bake him (and his buddies) some cookies, or send a goody bag! Believe me, those goody bags are very welcome. Write him and give him loads of encouragement. Keep yourself busy preparing for his return... maybe plan a party and get your friends and relatives involved. Don't think about what "might" happen. Take it a day at a time. You could go to an elementary school and see if they would allow the children to send him letters. You could go to a church and speak with the pastor and see if they wouldn't send letters to him. Do some volunteer work for the guys over there. Send cards to let them know someone is thinking about them and get your friends to do the same. Keep busy, above all. And don't think the worst.
2007-02-14 21:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by lucy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in '72, when my boyfriend drew his A1-7 draft card, I remember feeling a lot like that. It turned out, the draft was cancelled a week before he was scheduled to go to boot camp. That is, I never endured the worry that you have right now. My story was funnier. We went to college. He got tired of waiting for me and married someone else.
However, to put myself back into your shoes, I think it is really cool that you care. You need to determine just how much you care about him and why. You need to manage your own expectations. However, if you two left with the expectation of getting married (or similar permanent expectation), then you will need to occupy the time (shool work and money-earning work will do nicely), write frequently, and if you believe in prayer... Hey, I have found myself praying for my nephews-in-law who are caught up in this war.
But also (it depends on how serious you are), it probably would be good to find some time to hang with National Guard and other military wives, to draw support from each other and share the experience. If you are really serious, you might set your mind on a career that will enable you to be the primary breadwinner, just in case something bad were to happen. You know, save up some money, learn financial planning...that sort of thing.
Just a thought. It was brave of you to voice your feelings on this open a forum.
2007-02-14 19:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by shakey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont even sweat it he will be fine with how advanced todays military is your shouldnt have to worry about it. im in the military i wont be gonig to iraq for a little while but. just stick with it you love him keep supporting him. i hate seeing people break up over the military like me and my ex i loved her alot she loved me but she couldnt deal with me being away for so long. keep your friends cloe to you. they will help you get through it and when he gets back it will be worth the time he spent away. but he will be fine. just pray for him a let him know you love him and everything will be ok
2007-02-06 21:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it in the hands of the Man upstairs-- Enjoy your life and don't worry--It won't do him or you any good- Let him know you care - Concentrate on your school but enjoy your young life too-- Before you know it it will be over and you will have little ones of your own--I am very proud of ours boys over there- encourage him- but don't put your life on hold- You seem to be a very sweet person--Keep up the good work--Mom of many
2007-02-14 20:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by ebsscsc55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry he probobly wont even see combat
either way the press exagerates the deaths of americans so it looks so dont get to worried. you should talk to someone who also has a bf or husband in iraq so you could share your feelings
2007-02-14 21:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that your bf is in iraq, but you have nothing to worry about! Do you watch the news? well if you do you will see that they hardly ever shoot, sometimes they protect people!!!
2007-02-14 13:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by smith_kallissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue going out with him
he will need something to live for at iraq
2007-02-14 18:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stay with him...support him....and most of all love him cuz thats what is going to bring him home safe in your arms...and not to scare you but if he does die then you should know he will always be with you and he most likely wants you to live a long and happy life...love never dies...i'll prey for his safety for you
PS....sorry if i upset you in anyway....
2007-02-14 19:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by ocsaries89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you come from england don"t vote for tony blair next time.
if you are come from usa do not vote george bush.
they are murderers.
so next year your bf will not fight in iraq on v-day
2007-02-14 10:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋