my dad gets violant when he's angry sometimes, he's shoved me in to the wall or elbows me! and when he's drunk its worse; he chopped off a huge chunk of my hair in my sleep, he's dumped water on me in my sleep! he's spit on me! he's very verbaly abusive telling me I'm the worst thing thats ever happen and its all my mothers fault! IDK what to do anymor the only diffrence now is that now I know its not my fault he is how he is! but sometimes the thought that every thing is my fault still enters my mind how do I stop it!?!? and how do I prevent his violants toward me?
2007-02-06 13:14:19 · 12 answers · asked by ஐKatஐ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh please know that this isnt a everyday thing also!
2007-02-06 13:27:12 · update #1
Your father is being abusive.
It doesn't matter if it happens just once ... it is abuse.
You need protection from this man!!
I know you love him, but he is way out of line and needs to be dealt with. Please report him, and tell someone.
2007-02-06 13:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a mother in the mix of this or another adult in the household?
I would talk to a counciler at school, an aunt, an uncle etc. Anyone whom you feel comfortable talking to.
Sweety, this behavior is not acceptable. He needs help for his addiction and the only thing you can do as a child is attempt to talk to someone who can get you out of the situation until he can receive the help he needs.
Please dont let this continue past today. Talk to someone, anyone who you have contact with.
There are also help lines for abuse in the phone book. Or you can opt to call the police if he hits you again in a drunken rage.
There is no excuse for it.
But in the meantime, stear clear of him. Hide if you have to in order to avoid any negative confrontations with him while he is drinking. Do this until you can find someone to help you.
In the meantime, know this is not your fault, just an addiction with him and that he needs medical help to get over it.
Good luck hun.
2007-02-06 13:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When undealt with, violence generally becomes worse. If you tell someone, you have to understand that there is a good chance you will be put in foster care. You need to decide if the problem is that bad - it sounds like it is - but I don't know how you feel about it. You could ask your mom to get involved, or hide or lock the door when he is drunk. What is your relationship with him like when he is not drunk? Is it an option to go to him the next day [or whenever he's sober] and talk to him about what happened? You might also want to contact alateen. They might be able to give you some good advice.
2007-02-06 13:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing I would tell you is to get help. The things you describe are violent and scary. How old are you? Talk to someone at school, or a counselor. If you feel that you can't seek outside help - I would suggest staying as far away as possible when he is drinking. Go to a friends house, go to your room and lock the door - just stay out of the line of fire. You can't rationalize with someone like that. Call the police, and let them deal with him. Good luck
2007-02-06 13:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it happens everyday or not it IS STILL ABUSE! You need to tell someone and fast before it turns for the worse. Where is your Mother? She needs to protect you from this!! How old are you? If you are old enough you need a place of your own but if you are not old enough maybe you have an aunt or uncle or grandmother you could stay with? Either way, TELL SOMEONE, this is not normal behaviour and IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
2007-02-06 13:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody that answered before me is RIGHT. Honey, you have to tell somebody - a teacher, your preacher, a friend's mama, SOMEBODY. Once is one time too many for something like that. Get some help from somewhere before you are hurt worse than you can take. And it's NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT your fault! HE is the parent - YOU are the child. Please tell somebody. And don't tell yourself, "Oh, it won't happen again" - it will, and it will get progressively worse.
2007-02-06 15:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your school counselor. They can really help. Also, try keeping a diary of everything that happens and maybe one day you'll get the courage to show it to him, when he's sober. If you see him drinking, try to get out of the house. Go sleepover at a friend's or your nearest relative's house. Hang in there sweetie! I know how you feel.
2007-02-06 13:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with blonde beauty. You need to tell someone. If you can't tell your mom or another family member , tell your school teacher or counselor at school. You need to get out of this house before something really bad happens. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Please get some help.
2007-02-06 13:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by justin f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you for one and for two tell someone what he is doing..he has no right to treat you like this. Where is your mother she should be keeping you safe from all of this..I would get away from him and quick!!
2007-02-06 13:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother should be helping you- if she is not then she failed to protect you. if you have a relative that you can move to. if you don't have one you may have to move to a group home or foster home. but someone should call the police and have a restraining order against your dad
good luck
2007-02-06 13:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by manblind1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋