should my boyfriend and i have sex?

Question

we are 17 years old and have dating for almost a year. i love him more than anything and i know he does too. i consider him my best friend. most everyone we know tells us we are the perfect couple. we've never fought or gottn mad at eachother--there has been no need for that. and even you know we go to different school and only see eachother on the weekends, we somehow have held on. everyone always jokes around about us getting married, and we plan on dating thorugh college and see where we go from there. i think we are ready for sex, but im not sure if i wnat to take that risk and complicate our relatinship with sex. it denst seem to bother him, but i think we both feel we wnat some from eachother lol what should i do?

Answer 1

you don't have to go all the way sexually.. if you wanna take the next step, start with maybe naked cuddling and kissing.. touch each other, maybe even masturbate together.. see how it goes.. if it feels uncomfortable, then that is a sign that you are not ready for sex. 17 is still very young. it may seem perfect now, but very few people end up marrying their high school sweetie..

guess it all depends on how anxious you are for sex. there is always that risk that it will change things.. personally, if you have to come onto a site like this for advice, it is a clear indication that you aren't 100% convinced.

bottom line, sex is something you really need to be 100% comfortable and ready for. if you are nervous or unsure, then you won't likely enjoy doing it..

but yah, i'd start with baby steps.. intercourse should be the last sexual thing you do, after you are comfortable doing everything else...

most importantly, talk to him about it. make sure you decide exactly how far you want to take things each time.. and after you do things, continue to talk about it. see what works and what doesn't. relationships are always about communication and are about sharing wants and needs together..

Answer 2

Nope. I always thought fights were essential for a relationship. I mean, what happens where you two are married and something huge comes between you? How are you going to react? If you can work through fights thats good. Not having them at all leaves an unknown for the future.

Ok, so you plan on dating in college... you don't plan on having anything happenening between you two to ruin the relationship, but no one does.

I love your optimism, but I think you should wait until you know this guy a little better.

Answer 3

Sex sometimes does complicate things. But only when you let it. Ya'll just need to sit down and talk about it. If you two have sex now then it will be hard because you would want more and more. And with you two living in different areas then that just makes it harder. Do what you feel is right. Just sit down and you two talk first. Don't plan too much of it. Just talk about it. Good Luck

Answer 4

When it comes to making that decision you should really be prepared for any consequences that might come up in the future. You 2 really need to think about this and talk about it. And besides you two should not be rushing into something like this. Everything takes time, but if you decide on doing it remember to be prepared and protected. Good Luck! Hope you make the right decision.!

Answer 5

"should my boyfriend and i have sex?"

why should you anyway?
sex will be a great thing for your relationship after you got married..

it will be a mark of sincerity & commitment of love..
when both boys and girls say:
"Hunny, this is for you.. and only you.."
after they got married..

Answer 6

no it is a really big complication in a realtionship

Answer 7

if you think you are ready for it then you should tell him to wrap it up (use a condom) for both of your protection