My little sister is 12 (in 6th grade) and she gets beat up and teased every day. She has no friends and eats lunch alone every day. I don't know what to say to her. Can anyone help?
2007-02-06 13:00:04 · 15 answers · asked by t s 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
One of the problems is that she dresses like a boy and looks like a boy. My family doesn't have a problem with this; we love her but obviously other middle school kids think its a good reason to pick on her. She's not interested in "girlie things" and before middle school all her friends were boys. Now none of those boys are comfortable hanging out with her and I have trouble relating to her or spending time with her because we have no similar interests.
2007-02-06 15:32:24 · update #1
you know you might actually learn a bit about your sister if you hung out with her doing some of the things that she enjoys doing . Why not be selfless and have a day where you get to know her interests a little better, dont try to change her she needs to be supported to be able to just be herself. You kind of hinted that she was a bit of a tomboy and I hope that if she is searching for her identity socially, sexually etc that you would be accepting of all her choices. She may just be really bored with stupid girly talk and find the boys more fun and interesting. I agree she needs to have some sort of self defence training but then I think all girls should.
2007-02-10 18:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes me sad to read your question. I don't know the particular circumstance in regards to other parts of her life but I'll try to help. It's great that you've taken a step to help your sister.
You sister doesn't sound like a popular person. Maybe doesn't have much social skills and lack confidence and self esteem. She needs to socialise more and the best way is for you to spend more time with her. As an older sister, she looks up to you. Teach her to be more open and confident. Discuss girlie things with her like tv shows, clothes, music. This will teach her to communicate better and hopefully open her up more to make friends. Try and spend regular time with her like have a tv show you two watch and can discuss. Go to the mall together once a fortnight or something. You can decide. However. you do have to be careful and not include her in everything like taking her out with you and your friends. It's great to an extent but you don't want her to rely on you and be your shadow. This will only hurt your relationship with her and make you want to help her less. Get her involved with sports or any other group activity that requires interaction. This way it will give her an opportunity to make friends. If she joins a team sports, make sure your and if possible your parents are there to help encourage and support her. Give her plenty of encouragement so she goes out with confidence.
As with the school bullies, the best way to deal with this is to inform the teachers at the school. If she isn't comfortable with this, you can arrange a meeting with her home teacher or even the principle and explain the situation. Sit them down on a one on one conversation. No distractions. This shows them your serious and the matter is serious. They should show great concern and if they don't that's a really bad school. Worse case scenario is to change schools.
I really hope the situation improves. I wish you the best of luck and think you're great for trying to help your little sister out.
2007-02-06 13:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by barflairer 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get your parents to contact: first, the school principle. Next: the Police should be told of the physical violence perpetrated against your sister, and the proper action be taken, i.e., the parents of the bullies be spoken too or arrested, since they are responsible for the actions of their children until they turn 18! Next: remind the teachers of what happened at Columbine H.S. ...not that your sister would do that, but that was caused by the faculty of that school turning a blind eye to bullying and harrasment until it made a student(s) "break" and turn to murder!!!!
2007-02-12 03:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by stop n'stare airbrush artist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through a similar thing, i wasn't beat up tho. but i didn't have many friends in school. is there any way she can change schools? so she can start off new and maybe make some friends? also, a new hair cut, new clothing style may help her fit in a lil more. tell her to try to stay away from the kids that are mean and if she can make jokes and maybe learn to laugh at herself also, it will help. but if she's crying whenever they do it. that is what makes them keep going. popular kids are MEAN.
2007-02-06 13:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by codylynn_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the teachers about this. Tell your parents about this. Tell anyone who cares. This happened to my best freinds big brother
and he got taken out of public school and into home schooling. Personally if it happens every day I think she should go into home schooling. I can't think of what to say exactly to her. You can encourage her to toughen up and hit back. Or have you heard about kick boxing and karate? Your sister can take that and she can have a chance to make freinds there while learning to fight. It is for defense only and thats what she needs. Help her.
2007-02-11 08:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rydon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe learning a self defense. At the library there may be a tape on this and she can study different forms. It sounds like she would be very good at this. If she wanted maybe mom could put her into a martial arts class. Nothing is wrong with your sister, it is the children who are mistreating her who have issues.
It sounds to me like your sister needs an interest and Martial Arts may be a good one~
2007-02-07 05:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get this reported to her teachers and the school administration immediately, if not sooner. Make sure your parents follow-up on this and don't let the issue get swept under the rug. Bullying is a tremendous problem in schools and there should be policies to deal with it (each state's laws differ but it is illegal behavior)
2007-02-12 05:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by fenhongjiatu1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is being assaulted at school, a teacher and/or principal need to know immediately. Outside of that, tell her to not give a rip what other people think. Keep her head high and know that this will pass and she can look back on it knowing she did the right thing by simply ignoring them. I know it is hard at that age, but it is important to not give others attention by responding.
2007-02-07 02:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her some Karate lessons (not to use for fighting) but for some self confidence, plus she'll make some friends in the class.This way if she gets in to a big fight and she knows that she's not going to be able to get out of it with words she'll be able to at least protect herself. Tell your folks too. I know if she tells on them at school this might cause more harm then good. Tell her to be careful, and best of luck
2007-02-06 13:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kellie R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to report it and get her into boxing(not kidding) I think that kids these days need to learn how to protect themselves. When my children are a little older I will be putting them into boxing, just in case the day comes when a bully comes up and throws a punch, my kids will be prepared, and hopefully never be bullied again.
2007-02-06 13:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by beaner 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋