if u didnt trust ur husband because of infidelity in the past but u where begining to trust him back cus everything was going good and then u go thru his phone and there is a phone call that he erased and u tell him to go to the phone company and get the bill that way he can prove that hes not cheating and that erased call is just something else. but he doesnt want to go do that and u tell him ok its either we go to the phone company or im leaving u, and he just says that u need to take his word for it, so u have a baby on the way and he instead of saying ok lets go to the phone co. he says he will drive u to ur parents house and its the end of it just because u couldnt take his word for it. so u guys are separated already would u just get the divorse or wait to see what hapens.
2007-02-06 12:53:28 · 9 answers · asked by lazybutt916 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get the divorce, grl. obviousely the guy cheated on yuo becuase he;s not willing to prove it to you. besides, the child doesn't need a qoute on qoute dad around and you probably don't want to have to answer all the questions on why your seperated to this child. he's cheating on you, get the divorce
2007-02-06 12:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by monkeyluver13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if you really can't trust him there will never be a marriage. I think if my husband were to ever cheat I would always be suspicious.
If he has done nothing wrong there shouldn't be a problem in getting the phone records for you.
He has to understand that you have been really badly hurt once before because of him and him sneaking around erasing number only makes you feel more insecure.
You should go to your parents for awhile and if he really wants you he ill get those phone records but I wouldn't hold your breath.
Good luck
2007-02-06 21:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not always the final solution to your dilemna. You are right now in a relationship where trust is hard to gain since the husband already broke that trust when he cheated. It needs work to earn trust. If he asks you to trust him and you are still worried about it. Then its a big problem .Love and trust needs to come together to create harmony.Divorce will not solve the problem it will just bury the problem. Is ending the relationship worth it to give you peace of mind? If you can't trust him then you never will.
2007-02-06 21:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God Lady! Talk about lack of trust. Love keeps no mark of wrongs. Obviously you don't love him unconditionally. Better off with divorce. Either that or you will cause alot of pain for a long time "sticking around" for the kid. Maybe see a marriage counselor.
Don't get me wrong, there is always two sides of the relationship... but you took him back. That means that you were starting over again. Don't look in his phone anymore. I think that if all is false it will eventually be revealed. Good Luck. I mean that.
2007-02-06 21:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world did you have a baby with this man? You obviously didn't trust him or you wouldn't be going through his phone. What is this garbage about dropping you off at your parents house? You should have told him that you were going to your house and he could be the one to leave if he wanted to. At this point I don't think it is your decision. Go back to your home and let him do what he wants to do. Since you had a kid you are bound to this man for the next 18 years.
2007-02-06 20:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust takes a long time to rebuild after you've been betrayed. His reluctance to help you ease your mind about the phone number seems suspicious to you. It doesn't help that he's offering to drive you to your parents home.
He seems as if he's putting the blame on you for the separation and for your not trusting him.
Is there a way you can contact the phone company yourself about this phone number?
Good luck.
2007-02-06 21:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant, he has cheated, he would rather dump you at your parents house, then prove he didn't cheat again,(which he clearly did), Get the divorce, he left you at your parents house rather than try to work it out?? Sorry he is a cheating, lying jerk, you are going to be a mother, you deserve better, make sure you file for child support immediatly, even before the baby is born.
2007-02-06 21:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, trust is very important in any relationship, if you can't trust him you can't be with him.
2007-02-06 20:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously have trust issues with him and rightly so, be honest with yourself can you see yourself 100% trusting him again then i think you will have your answer.
2007-02-06 20:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Buffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋