my boyfriend of a yearand half broke up with me in nov. we were having communication issues etc. However, when we broke up we said I love you to each other. Then out of the blue i get a letter this past week, asking how i am and that he misses me. However, he states that he doesn't want me to take him back because he enjoys being single. But then he mentions that he misses and thinks about me everyday. He tells me to give him a call. I thought it was a closure letter so I didnt. Three days letter he calls my phone 2x, thursday he leaves a message to call him, friday he calls twice hanging up after one ring. I fingally decide to call, but i get his mom, he eventually calls me back four hours later and leaves a message. It was sat. night so i didnt return his call. I call the next day but he was out with friends. I left a message, but it has been two days and i havent heard from him. What is going on? I am so confused, i want to call but i know i shouldnt. Help? I am confusd
2007-02-06 12:49:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is probably enjoying the single life and is just looking for a chance to make a booty call while being friends. You know, the whole friends with benefits thing. Everytime that he calls you he is looking for something and when you don't answer he is either out with his friends or he found what he wanted. Then when you call him back, he is probably doing what it was that he wanted.
2007-02-06 12:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by forealztho69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so he is playing hard to get with someone who has not been trying to get him. Try writing him a letter in return thanking him for letting you know how he has been doing. Don't chase a guy tht still lives with his mother. You guys are obviously either young, or aren't ready for a serious relationship. If you want to see him, keep it on the down low. Ask him that if he wants to get together as friends and hang out with some other friends that i would be cool. That way you can find out what his real ulterior motives are. Good luck.
2007-02-06 20:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar thing happened to me. Except that when he broke up with me he did it in a very mean way. He really really hurt me. Anyways, no news from him in 1 year, then he send me a mail. on and off like that for another 8 months. then I decide to meet him. I have this uge argument, and tell him all I have on my heart. He actually admit treating me quite bad but that I was still staying with him and that I never judged him, and I was the best woman for him. I told him I now knew how men who love women can be kind and caring and giving. Then, another 4 months with no news. Then he invites me over to visit him (he is in Singapore, I'm in HK). And then, he tried chasing me for having sex the whole weekend. I told him no. He didnt have a choice. I told him if he wanted to start something with me he would have to win me back and it wasnt because all of a sudden he changed his mind that I would come over and be with him again. I had changed and I knew what I wanted out of a relationship. He isnt ready to make any effort for a woman. He called me a few more times but then he said something about him wasting his time...but please...calling for 2 minutes every 3 weeks, how much time wasting is this? I didnt answer anything back. He was my first love and I know I will always carry him with me. Maybe he also took all the love I had, because everthough I have a new boyfriend now who is adorable, my feelings arent the same at all. I still think of my ex, but I know I will never be with him again also.
For you, wait for him to call you and finally get to talk to you. If he really wants you back, he has to prove it to you. He has to make the effort. It seems the 2 of you have been "accidentally" avoiding each other's calls. Live your life, meet new ppl, if your bfriend really wants you back (and not just for the sex...since he even told you clearly he wants to stay single!), and sees you are being happy on your own, maybe he will want to be in a relationshup with you again. Maybe not now, maybe in a few years...who knows. You shoulndt have to worry about him. I know you heart is with him, but go on with your own life.
2007-02-06 21:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Skyblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone, you both broke up and do you really want to get into that type of thing again? Let him try to contact you but don't return his calls or any of his messages because he is past and he lost his chance.
....unless of course you want him back.
2007-02-06 20:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and if he dont answer leave a message and say that u REALLY need to talk to him and that u r confused about the situation that ya'll r in.
Good luck!!
2007-02-06 20:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your ex is weird or he's just playing w/ you. Or it's just coincidence that he's out when you call. just answer the phone when he calls to you again and just tell the truth that you are confused on what he is doing
2007-02-06 20:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥YaN♠ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you sexually involved?
The specific times he called you, he was horny.
The letter was to formally declare his willingness to receive booty call visitation rights.
Get someone new, he's obviously too confused himself to keep you really happy.
2007-02-06 20:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some of these questions scream for a crazy reply.
2007-02-06 20:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hes probably teasing
2007-02-06 20:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by italiano 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't waste your time - he is just wondering if you are "over" him.
2007-02-06 20:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Bob 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋