Well, I don't necessarily need a solution, just more of an understanding. Almost every time I have come close to dating a guy, we really seem great. The out of nowhere, I get the call or text or whatever it may be saying "We are better off friends" or "I don't want a relationship right now." Honestly, I am not a bad looking girl by any means. In fact, I am rather pretty [please don't take that the wrong way]. On a normal basis, I don't be judgmental or superficial or anything, so I dont see what I may have done wrong. UGH! I am so tired of these stupid responses about just being friends. I'm open to any and all points of view.
2007-02-06 12:36:30 · 26 answers · asked by kandys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-06 12:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by hisownufo 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
The best that i can tell you is that you are putting yourself out there a little too strong and too much.. Just draw back a little. Let them wonder about you. Try being a little more mysterious. I don't really know what to tell you... I got it...... Even though a lot of your friends probably know you are, Try not to look available (not trying to seem snooty). Just make plans with yourself to go out to a movie or something... Just be unavailable or something the right guy will come around.
2007-02-06 12:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not necessarily be something you did wrong, or anything about you, maybe the person just got out of a bad relationship or just isn't interested in relationships.
But I would suggest trying to get to a point where you don't need a relationship in order to feel satisfied/happy; relationships can really mess you up.
2007-02-06 13:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that maybe you just want a relationship too much? You might be coming across a little too strong. I wonder what these guys are responding to in the text or phone calls. You need to be a little laid back about dating. Guys like to do the pursuing ( at least most of them ). If you come across too anxious they will probably run ...lol... And that's the truth : )
2007-02-06 12:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that their could be a variety of reasons that the guys are not wanting to date. Could be their age, maturity, or simply that they aren't that into you in that way, but still like you as a person. Best advice, you might not like, but it is to be friends. When the time and person is right, you'll know it and you won't have this issue.
Friends are a great thing, so don't let that get you down. One day your prince will come!
2007-02-06 13:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by ♣IRiSh♣ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same issue - a lot of femal friends bu no one special my GF of six years was like the 4th person I'd been out with - Love finds you and it finds you better if your not looking so for no sit back enjoy being single with all your friends and MR Right will be with you soon
2007-02-06 19:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you need to loosen up a bit. I could be totally wrong, this is just a guess, but for whatever reason you seem like someone who always wants to be the best. I don`t mean that you`re concieted, just really hard on yourself to be the best you can possibly be. There`s nothing wrong with that, its great, just remember to try to loosen up once and a while and have a good time. They could be getting bored.
2007-02-06 12:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Friend you can never have enough good friends and eventually you will come across the perfect mate however do not be disappointed if the men do not wish to engage in any deeper relationship. Be patient till the right man comes along and good luck!!
2007-02-06 12:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your lucky! It is better than throwing it all away on a guy that is not all that interested! Wait, as you say, you are pretty and the right one will come along. Whay are you so keen to be a gf to one of these boys? Just take your time til a special one comes - you will both know when it is right
2007-02-06 12:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be not to worry so much about boys and to concentrate on yourself. Have fun and enjoy being young and having friends, without the highs and lows of a serioius relationship with a boy.
2007-02-06 12:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Enya♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how this might make you feel, but there isn't enough information here to really give you the advice you deserve.
My best suggestion is that you get some counseling from the Brook Advisory Service For Young People. Ring their helpline on 08000 185023 and see what they can suggest for you.
Good luck.
2007-02-06 12:51:15 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Granny♥ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋