a cousin of mine is a single parent and in college. After years of working two FT jobs to support her three kids with no support from their father, and no family help she decieded to work as an escort . While not condoning her choice of employment she has gotten off gov help, paid off her debt, gotten straight a's, bought her first home, and rasing her children in a better and safe neighborhood and provideing them all the opportunity they need in life to become good citizens. While doing this kind of work she has been the perfect mother a child can hope for and since she can set her own hours she is always there for her children. On the other hand no one knows of her secret life but I am scared it will come back to haunt her one day or bite her in the butt. Would you suggest she quit this type of employment even though it has provided her with better opportunites in life.
2007-02-06 12:01:30 · 11 answers · asked by nene 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My gut reaction is yes. That being said, she's still in school, getting As, so she probably has more in mind than a career as an escort. The only reason I say yes at this point is because it's dangerous. But she probably knows that already, so I don't know how big a difference your advice is going to make. Just be sure you're there for her. Good luck--
2007-02-06 12:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest she quits simply because I am guessing that she is getting to the age where her children will begin to suspect what she does. All though she has managed to provide a good life for her children, I think it is time she saved some money for school, got a post-secondary education and supported her children in a job which is more socially acceptable. I can only imagine how it would feel to know what your mother did to support you.... It would be difficult.
The most difficult thing she will come across is that most of her clients were probably buisness men. If she tries to get into most fields, it may be difficult to find someone who WON'T know of her past...
2007-02-06 15:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not have a bad thing to say about that woman.
She has made a huge sacrifice for her kids and it makes me actually want to cry. If I was facing the same problems as her I may have done the same thing. She has single handedly got herself out of the sh1t and made a good home for her family.
Now, she needs to use the money she earns to perhaps do a course in something else. If she has the money behind her now, the world is her oyster. She has done the hard yards now it's time for something to come back her way.
2007-02-06 12:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any MOTHER should ever have to resort to being an escort or a stripper. I hate when people use the excuse that you have to do what you have to do. If that's true, then she should have kept those 2 jobs to support her children. And she's in college, once she gets her degree then she can get a good paying HONEST job. I would rather be on government help than to go so low as to "sell" my body for money. No self respecting woman should ever do that. Especially a mother who has overcome so much. I don't believe there is any excuse for having to do that instead of getting a real job. Only women like Paris Hilton should do that. Not someone with kids.
2007-02-06 12:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
More power to her.
The only concern I would have is whether or not she enjoys what she does. It's the same concern I would have for anyone that was making good money at their job. If you hate it, it's not worth it.
"Escort" does not mean "prostitute."
Why in the world should she make her children suffer just so she can have a more "socially acceptable" job?
Pat her on the back for me and tell her to keep doing what she thinks is right for HER AND HER CHILDREN.
2007-02-10 00:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by astreastar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the instant - it sort of feels generic to them. I believe you - i could have been a great deal greatly surprised to boot. tell him it rather is to not take place lower back. it is your place and you do not opt to stand up interior the process the night or early interior the morning and run into strangers on your place. Or might desire to devise breakfast for travellers. Or have strangers interior the abode once you go away for artwork. that's an argument of understand. sure, he's your son and you adore him. even nevertheless, it is not his abode to do as he pleases.
2016-09-28 12:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it is fine, she can finally spend time with her kids and be the mom that she wants to be. As long as she isn't doing anything illegal or being with the wrong place at the wrong time I don't see anything wrong with it. She is doing what she feels she has to do in order to live her life.
2007-02-06 12:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now this is a hard one..but i know that there are alot of better jobs than that and pays just as much if you are willing to hard at it..i say collect some child support from the father...and find a great job...i mean it cant be that hard being that she did attend college.
2007-02-06 12:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if it is taking care of her children then i would support it
when you have kids they are suppost to be you main consern
and since she is doing it for her kids and not just to get money i congradulate her on putting her children before herself and what others think about her you have to be willing to risk it all for the people you love that is alot of what love is!
2007-02-06 12:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by caldwell333 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
truth be told i am very proud of her. she has pulled herself out of a bad situation and has made her life better and made a better life for her children. i dont think that she should quit this job. if it works for her and her schedule and it works for life then i say she should stick with it.
2007-02-06 12:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by want a princess baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋