for the last 10 years, i've had an on-off relationship with this guy. he says he loves me and wants to get married but when we start talkin details, he comes up with excuses as to why now is not the right time. i love him and want to get married. am tired of waiting cos we've been together too long with no plans for the future. he keeps on saying he doesn't want to make any promises as he's hurt me so much in the past. do i cut off completely and move on or do i hold on for a time cos we have so much history and i love him? need advice fast.
2007-02-06 11:55:37 · 7 answers · asked by rambo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have been on and off with him for ten years, then obviously there is some meaning in this relationship. give him some time, and if he continues to do this for longer than it should, then i would just try to move on. maybe he honostly doesn't want to hurt you, and he's not ready for that type of commitment yet. so give him some time, especially if you really do love him.
2007-02-06 12:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough...but no matter what happens, always be "family" friends w/ him...so one day ur kids could play together...blablabla
and if he seems unstable MOVE ON!
and if he seems undecisive and won't commit MOVE ON, your not getting any younger by waiting for him and might miss the one you'll love even more...
tell him you want to have a family with or without him...if he doesn't want the same thing as you do, well maybe get married and have kids (make a hole in his condom...)
and if he seems like he'll not be there for you 100% MOVE ON, but keepe in touch as friends!
2007-02-06 12:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey if this hurts,but this guy is using you.
Ten Years come off it,he's not going to marry you.
Stop being a doormat,call it a day and go and finds someone who really cares for you.Your obviously wasting your time with this one, and your worth much more.
2007-02-06 17:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's alright loving someone but if he doesn't want the same things in life as you then you are not going to be happy with him. It seems like he has got you exactly where he wants you - on his terms.
It won't be easy moving on but you have to start thinking about yourself for a change.
2007-02-06 12:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Scotsman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, actions speak louder than words. I suggest you quit "him" cold turkey and move on. After he's really lost you, he might realize that he needs/wants you in his life... or not. Either way, you're not getting any younger so find someone who knows for sure that they want to be with you. Good luck!
2007-02-06 12:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate.
You have no reason (do you?) to not believe his declaration of love for you and so you must be clear with each other.
He has to be told that you are thinking of leaving him.
And then you will know the answer to your question.
Because either he will see your point and agree it is for the best or, which I suspect, he will be horrified that he has made you feel so desperate.
:-)
Please.
Talk.
2007-02-06 12:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away if your unhappy. life is too short hon
2007-02-06 11:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋