Kids or parents, how many spanks did/do/do you get/give to a kid? I mean i know age and all matters but still, about how many? And what did/do you get/give it with? No sexual stuff just punishment.
2007-02-06 11:38:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2007-02-07 02:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I usually got one or 2 from my parents no more than 5 times per year of my life. I would say that I got a total of 20 spankings from the time I was 4 years old till I was 12 years old. One good smack usually was all it took, and I never did when I was doing again. Sometimes they gave me more than one, if I was doing something really terrible, like trying to poke the cats eyes out with a pencil or something. The worst part about getting a spanking was having to go get my own switch from the back yard. The anticipation!!!! Oh it was the worst.
My son is 7 years old. I think I've given him 4 spankings in his life so far, one was for trying to stick a pencil in the cats eye. One was for peeing his pants on purpose. I only hit him once on the butt. Thats usually enough so that he doesn't do it again. I always sit him down and talk to him about why I am giving him the spanking so he understands what he did and what the punishment is. I also give him warnings before hand, so he has a chance to not do what he is going to do before he gets a spanking for it. I never hit him out of anger. Usually I'm sad because I told him that I would give him a spanking if he did what he was going to do, and he did it anyways.
2007-02-06 19:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got it a few times when I was real little and mostly at school. Not so much when I was in my teens-got away with alot because my parents never really hit me. Probably should have though. I wouldn't have done half the stuff I did.
I don't think there should be an age limit but there should be a certain way of doing it. And of course if it doesn't work on your kid, then by all means don't do it.
Reserve spanking for serious offenses and as a last resort. Doing it for every little thing would probably traumitize the kid. Spilled milk-no, open defiance-hell yeah. And don't overdo it. Whipping his bare butt 30 times with a belt as hard as you can is a bit excessive. A few swats on a clothed butt is more reasonable.
Just don't abuse the kid-parents have enough problems trying to discipline their kids with out people abusing their kids and giving these anti-spank nutjobs more ammo for the gov't to tell you how to raise your kids.
2007-02-06 20:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by HiTekRednek 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think the number matters as much as the severity of them, and that must be carefully measured. Also, each child is going to be different and may warrant a different approach. Some children may not even need spankings at all. Sometimes, the threat of a spanking is enough to get the point across. Others may require you as a parent to follow through with your threats. If you threaten, be prepared to carry through with your threat. Nothing works worse in the long run than an empty threat.
2007-02-06 21:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have spanked my daughter once and i hated the feeling i got after spanking her. i still want to spank her when she does something wrong but i know i will get that horrible feeling again afterwards so i don't do it anymore. i've been using time-out and it seems to work for right now anyways.
2007-02-09 20:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mom Of 2 Princesses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking should never be done out of anger. If you need to get the child's attention about something that could harm him then a swat or two on the bottom would be all you need and then talk about it after the tears stop. Don't ever use anything but your hand.
2007-02-06 19:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by JENNY J 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've spanked my 4 year old probably 5 times in her life. We only spank if it's to stop her from getting hurt really badly (like running in a parking lot). I was never spanked and don't feel it's necessary in most situations. Standing in the corner works great.
2007-02-06 19:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i was never spanked by my parents and ive rarely spanked my kids, the few osccassions i have has been because of some dangerous activity they were involved in and i guess i panicked. it isnt really the answer
2007-02-10 05:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I don't have kids. But I do know, that when I was a kid, my dad/mom spanked me because sometimes I would lie, or I would like, act out and have tantrums in public places or like the first person said, running in parking lots and stuff.. But also, standing in the corner or kneeling works as punishment too. My dad used to make me kneel a lot in the corner.
2007-02-06 19:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's fine. I was spanked. I'm not a criminal...nobody I know is...Everybody I know was spanked when they were little. Bare hand smacking on the butt, not newspaper or a magazine...
2007-02-09 21:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We didn't do spanking, we flick. That sounds weird but it feels more controlled, like you're not doing out of anger. If my daughter did something wrong we would flick her hand and if she yelled or spit we'd flick her mouth. It worked good!
For spanking, I'd say once or twice as long as you know you're not spanking out of anger and you're doing it for disciplinary reasons.
2007-02-06 19:48:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋