Every boyfriend I ever had cheated on me. I was convinced for a while that all men cheated. Then I met my current boyfriend who managed to convince me he was different. I honestly believed he wouldn't cheat. Tonight I found out he is and need to break up with him. I know that I am going to be so scarred from this. Prior to this man, I refused to be in a committed relationship, just in fear of getting cheated on. He broke me from that and tonight tore apart all he built up in me. I am 28 years old, and feel like I am way to emotionally messed up from being cheated on to ever obtain my dream of getting a ring, a mortgage, and lots of babies. I don't want to have babies with a man I am not married to, but at this rate, I can't seem to find someone who won't cheat on me so that I can atleast get down the aisle. I have a rule...you cheat...your out, no forgiveness. Is that wrong for me to have that rule? A family with the white picket fence, is that an unobtainable dream?
2007-02-06 11:38:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all men cheat, but most of the jerks that women seem to prefer do cheat.
2007-02-06 11:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your rule is excellent. The problem is that you need to learn to separate the wheat from the chaff and that's been the problem. There are TONS of guys who'll not cheat and who want a family with a white picket fence. The problem is really not quite finding them, it's not finding the turkeys then the good ones will be left. Doing that isn't rocket science but it does take a critical eye, a bit of discernment, maybe some skepticism but a willingness to test and trust a little bit and see if the trust is well placed, then you can trust a little more. And it works both ways. It can be done.
2007-02-06 11:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men cheat that is a given but not all i mean you really have to check every guy and try to find one that is somewhat religious like a nice christian guy but you're not going to find love with the attitude you have now
2007-02-06 11:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Blood_Child69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone who's happy to be with their partner may or may not cheat. It's a matter of choice; it depends on the person. Have you tried nocheatersdate.com? I hope you find someone faithful and goal-oriented. As for forgiveness we all tresspassed (knowing and unknowingly) therefore we must forgive so we can be forgiven also.
2007-02-06 11:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not an inobtainable dream --- it could be you expect the guys to cheat so they do --- not all guys cheat and some that have cheated do honestly change (i am one of them) --- your rule is not a bad one --- there is someone out there for you that shaes your dream --- dont look too hard they will sneak up on you
2007-02-06 11:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men cheat.You have just been unlucky enough to find the ones that do.Unfortunate for you but by no means should you give up.There are a few of us out here that also want what you're looking for you just haven't found the right guy.KEEP LOOKING WE ARE OUT HERE!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-06 12:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not all men cheat. someone will come along and show you that there are decent men out there.
2007-02-06 11:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by pooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋