disrespectful daughter?

Question

Nala Grace Jones is the most disrespectful child ever. She's my daughter so no worries... We shower her with gifts yet she STILL talks back/hits/kicks/punches it's getting to be way too much for me to handle. I shower her in gifts because I feel sorry for her and I love her. Should I buy her more gifts?? we have the money I'm serious I hear bribery works miracles

Answer 1

Then if you have so much money use it to send her little button to boot camp or counseling or some other resource and buying her gifts is not going to help her your just making her worse by giving her everything she wants

Answer 2

I am saying this with all the love...What diluted world did you grow up in??!??
Why should you feel SORRY for your own daughter. Is she loved? Is she provided for? Then she has all she needs!!!!!!!! She is disrespectful because you demand no respect. Children will mirror your behaviors. When I ask my daughter to do something I say please and thank you. When she asks me a question, I say 'yes maam'.
Children are not unfortunately born without ettiquette and maners, they HAVE to be taught and molded. I totally understand you love your child, but you there is no better gift than time. She will love you more if you spend time and attention on her. That will prove to her that she is more important that anything (i.e. toys, clothes, jewlery...) The only thing bribery does is undermine anything that you are trying to teach you child and teaches them to be deceitful. They will do what you want to get what they want, not because it is the right thing to do. If you have any true love for your child, you will stop NOW!!!! You are truly hurting her by giving her anything she wants. She will learn no respect or responsibility for herself, or others.
I honestly hope you are asking this question because you are wanting to make a change in the way you are handleing her. I wish you the best of luck. If you do it right and stick to it, you have a very long, rough road ahead.
Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

Don't buy her MORE gifts. You're just spoiling her. Not only that, she will think she's being rewarded for all her disrespectful antics. She will also think she has both of you in the palm of her hand, and that she can do whatever she wants, and STILL not only get away with it, but get everything she wants from you, like toys, clothes, etc. Be strong, and softly but firmly discipline her. If you need to, occasionally give her a smack on the hand, nothing drastic. Whatever you do, STOP buying her more and more gifts, especially after she has behaved badly. If she doesn't deserve them, she shouldn't get them, and she has to understand that. Punish her by taking away something she loves. Let her cry and kick by herself. That's how she'll learn.

Or you could call Supernanny.

Answer 4

MY PERSONAL OPINION. Is that the more you baby her by buying gifts the more disrespectful she will be. If you reward behaviore such as that with gifts you are not teaching them anything. You can't buy someone love or respect. I am 20 years old and if my mother would have bought me gifts when I was disrespectful I would do it all the more worse because I would know I could get away with it. I say as hard as it is to say no to your child you have to. You can't expect to be the nice parent all the time and gain respect. Because one day she will be in the real world and with an attitude like that she will get no where. So my advise is show tough love. When my son gets old if he would hit me or even disrespect me I would most definately punish him until he regrets his actions.

Answer 5

stop feeling bad for her, and stop showering her with gifts, that sends her he message that you like it when she misbehaives because you reward her with presents. As the parent it's your responsibility to teach her the right lessons. and honestly, i don't know where you heard it from but bribery is the worst method in the world. If you keep showing her this, she'll start misbehaiving in other area's of her life. Don't be scared to put her in time out for 5 mintues..more if needed, hey, my kids have been in time out for an hour, spank her...it's not abussive. It's called displine. if you don't teach her that, then she will end up not being a great person.

Answer 6

I had a friend in high school who's parents would pay him to go to school because he would never go. His parents also had money and would pay him daily for everything! He could get up to $25 a day, and this was back in the late 80's. He made more than any of us who worked. After a while the money wasn't enough and got a nice car,guitars, and high end video/stereo equipment. With in 2 months he dropped out of school at 16. In his case he should of been locked in his room.

Answer 7

don't ever do that. By giving your child gifts you are only rewarding her for her bad behavior. It's called tough love and if you truly loved her you would teach her to be a respectful young lady. You'll regret it when she's a moody teenager and continues to be that way.

Answer 8

Take away EVERYTHING. Don't bribe her more for her to behave, tell her that you won't buy her anything if she continues to act this way. Put her in a room by herself. Let her think about her actions...and the original fake "sorry" won't cut it. Restrict her from candy, toys, friends, everything she does. Make her do work, homework, spelling, and no tv, games. etc. Just don't starve her..That's weird. Uh, and if this doesn't work, then call Super Nanny. or, whatever that lady's name is.

Answer 9

um stop buying her gifts. bribery does not work it can only make things worse. you need to start taking things away from her. like her favorite things to do or certain objects she uses that aren't necessary to get through the day.

Answer 10

a million/ why did you enable the little ones flow swimming even as they're meant to be grounded? 2/ why are you giving her funds for victoria's secret even as she treats her stuff like crap? provide her adequate $$ to commence determining to purchase at purpose or none in any respect till she possibilities up her personal stuff.....have everyone help you sparkling the domicile...get the dad to %. up the dirty underware.....it really is what i do -- no longer that it extremely works each and every time yet oh nicely....keep at it... also, if one lady is disrespectful that eggs on the different lady ....sturdy luck!!