I am 17 and my mom has the worst boyfriend ever. He is a straight up out of control drunk. I have told him to get out of both my moms and my house and life. He has assaulted my mom and me several times both physically and mentally. He has come after me a countless number of times and I have had to call the cops on him three times for assault. To top all things my mom has been there for all of our fights. After all of these things my mom still will not kick him out. Please send me all of your suggestions on what all of you think I should do or say to get my mom to kick him out.
2007-02-06 11:15:20 · 12 answers · asked by Jay F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a 17 year old dude and my mom has the worst boyfriend ever. He is a straight up out of control drunk. I have told him to get out of both my moms and my house and life. He has assaulted my mom and me several times both physically and mentally. He has come after me a countless number of times and I have had to call the cops on him three times for assault. To top all things my mom has been there for all of our fights. After all of these things my mom still will not kick him out. Please send me all of your suggestions on what all of you think I should do or say to get my mom to kick him out.
2007-02-06 11:29:11 · update #1
dis regard the very first paragraph.
2007-02-06 11:30:38 · update #2
I tell ya, I do not for the life of me, understand mothers like this. This is how woman and their children get killed every day! First I would go to the local court house and get a restraining order. They usually have no fee for people who have no money. Fill ou the paper work, and I am sure the Judge will have no problem signing the order. Than this so called boyfriend will not be able to come 500 feet near you. Which automatically means your home. If your mother chooses to go meet him, and get her butt beat, she's on her own. The laws have changed, so if he does go against this order, he will be going bye-bye for some time. Maybe long enough for your mom to get therapy. Good luck!
2007-02-06 11:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't he in jail if he has had the cops there 3 times for assault? If your mother or the police won't get him out of your home, talk to your school counsellor about the possibility of childrens protective service finding you another home until you turn 18 and or graduate from school. Let your mother know that you will go this route if she doesn't kick him out of your home because you don't feel safe with him there.
2007-02-06 19:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your Mother is afraid if she gets rid of him, she won't have anyone else. Or he is so controlling that she believes that without him shes nothing. This is the usual way they feel. You are too young to be in the middle of this, I know you love your Mother, But only she can make this decision. You can speak to relatives, a pastor, AA and see if you can get some feedback. Maybe you should go to the meetings for teenagers dealing with alcoholics. and get yourself some help. I with I could do more than this. But again Mom has to make a decision/.
2007-02-06 19:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your mom has subjected you to this man. I don't know what to tell you. I can't imagine a parent letting a person treat their child like that. Is their a family member that you can go live with so that you don't have to live like this. If so tell your mom that you shouldn't have to deal with this situation and that you will be living elsewhere since she doesn't seem to be concerned with your welfare and safety. Maybe the family member could talk to your mom also. I wish you the best of luck and hope your situation improves.
2007-02-10 22:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by hollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Mom you love her but she needs to make a choice, him or you. The abuse will only get worse. your Mom must not love herself enough to think that's what she's worth. Talk to her calmly about what you value in her and how you've seen her change since him. Reassure her that she's worth more and can have better if she'll only love herself as much as you do. Take the police reports and go to your local courthouse and ask for a restraining order. Protect Mom but be careful not to allow him to bring you down to his level. Next time he gets that way call the police and ask them to have him removed. Good luck and I admire you in trying to help your Mom. She'll thank you one day.
2007-02-12 01:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation. What did the police do? If you have been physically assaulted, you should have been able to press charges. If you do that will you mother allow you to stay in her home? Perhaps you need to get a relative you trust to intervene.
2007-02-06 19:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think u should go stay with someone and get away from this man, he is jealous of u always will be, too bad your mom can't see him for what he is. your mom has a very low self worth, settles for these types of men as she feels she can't get better. as long as your mom has no self worth she will continue to attract these loosers in her life. your mom needs some therapy, your mom has probably had a very hard life, settling for less than she should have, due to not wanting to be alone. your mom should be sticking up for u and not the drunk man.
2007-02-06 19:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a dad? If you do try to go live with him and tell him whats going on.If not Tell your mom you dont like him living there and if you end up calling the cops again tell them your tired of the same thing going on and if i were you i would hide his beer from him and see if hes any different.Good Luck!!
2007-02-06 19:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Nanas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should see if a family member will let you come and stay with them untill you get on your own. If you mom tolerates this abuse then let her stay with him. Next time he puts his hands on you bring him to his knees.(kick him in the nuts with all you have girl)
2007-02-06 19:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the cops that he tired to touch you sexually then that should get rid of him
2007-02-06 19:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋