When I get out in public my almost 3 year old acts so bad, and screams if you try to stop her. WHAT TO DO?

Answer 1

you need to stay strong. Discipline her, even in public. I know its hard i have an almost 3 year old son, and he used to do that all the time, now its just every once in a while, but everyone that stares. I used to just let him scream and cry. Now if he is acting up or screaming for no reason but he didn't get his way, I just pick him up, and take him to the nearest bathroom, spank his bottom, and tell him when we go back out you are going to do whatever it is he is supposed to be doing. i say ok, and he says yes mom, and we continue on our day. It works for the most part, but instead of me getting more upset, or more frustrated i do that.

Answer 2

She has become accostomed to getting her own way when she screams. You have to shock her- (I don't mean literally)- you have to surprise her... the next time you are going somewhere, tell her in advance what you expect of her. "We are going to Walmart. While we are in the store, I want you to use a quiet voice and sit in the cart." Give your consequence as well, such as "If you use a loud voice or stand in the cart, we will have to leave the store." Make sure that your consequence is something that you are willing to stick to. It does no good to tell your toddler something that you will falter on when she challenges you (for she WILL challenge you!). If she does the offending behavior, say, "We have to leave now. We'll try again another time." This lets her know that you acknowledge the negative behavior (this is why you are leaving) and you also let her know that there will be another chance later to try to redeem herself. This is an important step in the process... she has to know that it is ok to make mistakes and that you always have another chance to make it right.
Instead of leaving the store for good, you can also say something like you'll have to go sit in the car until they calm down. The reason many parents "give in" is because the child is acting up during an unwanted activity (unwanted by them- which is all that matters to a two-year-old) and it is an activity (such as grocery shopping) that must get done. In this case (if you really can't leave and go home) you can use the car as a "time out" area. Take your child there (in a "football hold" if necessary) and tell her that you will go back in the store and finish what you started as soon as she can get a handle on her behavior. Then, sit in the car for as long as it takes for her to calm down. Then, give her the option of whether or not she is ready to go back in. "Are you calm enough now to go back in and finish shopping?" If she says yes, thank her for controlling herself and pulling it back together. If she says no, give it a few more minutes.
The reason that many children do this is because it is boring to do what adults have to do, they are asserting their autonomy, and sometimes they do it for attention. Make sure to have things to do... you can easily make your child a part of the shopping trip. Cut pictures of things you commonly purchase (such as cereal, milk, bread) out of circulars (or take digital pics of the ones you have). Mount them on construction paper for your toddler to take with them to the store so they can help you look for items. You can also take small snacks when you know you will be going somewhere... a pack of raisins, some fishy crackers, etc., since another reason children tend to get cranky is that they are hungry. Hope these suggestions help!

Answer 3

You've got to be willing to leave the public place if she screams. You'll leave a few carts in the grocery store, but once she gets that you're not going to put up with it, she'll behave better. Spanking won't work -it's just a short term fix. Here's a link to a bunch of ideas for you. Best of luck!

Answer 4

In my opinion, if you leave she is getting what she wants. They all go through it, which does not make it any easier. Give her a warning that you have some place to go and go. Don't buy her something so she will behave. You sometimes have things you have to do, just do them. She will get over it. My 3 1/2 year old use to do the same thing.

Answer 5

It might be a little embarrasing but i remember when my brother was about 3 he started throwing a fit in the store and my mother sat on the floor wrapped her legs over his and held his arms down until he calmed down. He never pitched a fit in public again. Thankfully my son is not in that stage yet.

Answer 6

Dr. Sears has great advice for this. Check the link. Here's one of the best pieces of advice he give. Give a positive message. Give your child clear messages of what you expect. Be positive and specific in your instructions: "I expect you to be polite at Grandma's. We can show her your new books and maybe she'll read one to you. After lunch, we'll go home." This is more meaningful to a child than "I won't tolerate tantrums, and I expect you to be good." You can't reason with a child during a tantrum, but you can before it occurs.

By the way, I agree that spanking won't help. Other forms of discipline are more effective in the long run.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Watch her throw her fit and after shes done then leave the store. And once you get home take her straight to her room. Try to go without taking her if possible. I agree that spanking doesnt help at all. I have three kids and I have only had one act up in the store and she still does that but she also knows that if she acts up she doesnt get to choose her snack and stuff. Try to have your child help you make a list and explain that you need her help in public.

Answer 9

1.) Babysitter
2.) Don't bring the child
3.) Disipline

Answer 10

tell her that people are laughing at her if that don't work threaten That she will stay in the car an if she still wont let up put her in car an close Dore start 2 walk away stand where you can see her but she cant see you it will never happen again or if it Duse tall her i will put you in the car again