i have a major problem with this guy.im in love with him,he knows it,i dont know if he believes it but i dont think he cares anyway.we meet every once in a while,after i chase him with texts and calls,we have a nice time and then he disappears.the last time isaw him he pretended to show some regret about his actions so i met him,he was very nice and caring and then after pretending he wants to c me again the next day,he didnt and he disappeared again.why does he do that?hes obviously not in love but why does he have to play me?and why he wants to see me and then not again soon?is he bored?im angree,im in love,im confused,i dont know what to say to him,it bothers me so much and it offends me..
2007-02-06 10:58:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to say that it sounds like this guy is using you. I think you need to try and let him go. What he's doing is not fair or nice if you are someone that he really likes. He's acting like he's ashamed to be with you but then he wants to be and then he doesn't ...make up his mind for him...forget about him. I know it's harder said than done but do try to find someone else. :) Good luck
2007-02-06 11:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth are you permitting this person to keep doing this to you? WHY? Can't you take a hint? You might like him, but he's pretty much made it clear in actions that he does not care for you very much. When he does show up, it's sounds like you've got him corner like a trapped mouse or something. So far he's been pretty darn nice to you about it. But believe me, it will change if you keep this behavior up. I think it's time you get a grip on your emotions, and find someone who likes you back. I hate to see you keep making a fool out of your self. Gee, you gotta be better than this! Take some time out, and instead of chasing this dude down , maybe work on your self-esteem, and self-respect!!
2007-02-06 19:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for it! I've been there, done that! I got pregnant and he left....
I was the best thing in my eyes for him...I knew he cheated but didn't care, as long as he came back to me. This guy did this to me also and he left me misreable and pregnant. Find a new guy or a couple of new ones...Make yourself have fun b/c this guy only wants you every now and then and you don't want that. Make yourself happy by going out and doing things that make you happy and don't worry, the right guy will fall into place when the time is right
2007-02-06 19:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but it seems he doesn't feel the same way. he's obviously just playing with you. i suggest trying to find someone more deserving of your attentions. get your girls together and go out, treat yourself. or rent an insanely large amount of movies and eat ice-cream. unhealthy but it works.
you just need to get this guy out of your system. keep telling your self that you strong, independent and you don't need any guy. tell yourself it in the mirror, scream it at the top of your lungs if you want. lol
your better off with out this guy. it may be hard to accept but its true. he's toying with you, he knows how you feel and he knows that he can easily mess with your head.
So stop chasing him!
If (and its a big IF!) he dose like you, he may come crawling to you if he discovers you trying to move on from him. play hard to get a little. he deserves it.
although that may be very bad advice. he may just want you in a position were he is free to manipulate and take advantage of you because of the way you feel about him. sucks i know but some guys are like that. he may just get a kick out of the power he gets over you.
be strong and move on, it will hurt and you will try and convince yourself other wise but you WILL be better of without him, i cant stress that enough.
wish you all the best friend. :)
2007-02-06 19:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by booboaba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read the way you written this I felt that "you are allowing this person to have TOO MUCH control in and over your life." You said you do not like the way you are feeling, ask yourself this question " would I do anything to hurt myself? I think your answer will be NO. The key to this is, find something or someone else to occupy your mind and time when you are thinking about him, find anything to do, read a book, watch a movie ect. the more time you spend doing other things, the less time you will have to think about him.
Please do not let this offend you. there is always going to be people that don't act like they should in our lives, that we can not change, but the way they make us feel awwwwwwwww yes we have control over that, and we decide who we let do what in our lives. I wish you a lot of luck, and remember, no one can do any more than we allow them to do in our lives.......Good Luck sweetie
2007-02-06 19:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ann J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you are right, that he doesn't love you. You are making it too easy on him, and so he may not actually take you seriously!
I know this is so much easier to say than to do, but leave him be. If he has any spark of an interest in you, then he will start to pursue you. I know from first hand experience that this is very hard, but it's your best bet - if nothing else than to protect your heart.
2007-02-06 19:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by tigerlilly511 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one thing to tell you follow your heart. its the only thing that can help you. But if it was me walk away. Stop calling him and texting him. then he will get the hint and chase after you. show him that what he is doing isn't bothering you even know it is. u may be in love with him but he is secretly in love with you that is why he runs away so many times. guys do that. dn't let it hurt you anymore let him chase you for a change.
2007-02-06 19:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by Steelers Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think that you are in love with him, but the reality is that you have to love yourself more. He is stringing you along for whatever the reason. May it be sex or whatever, but the fact remains that you deserve better than someone jerking you around like you are a yo yo. Be strong and loving and caring to yourself and you will attract same like persons to respect you and care for you as you deserve
2007-02-06 19:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what your going through. I'm dealing with that right now. This guy claims he likes me so much, blah blah blah...but his actions say otherwise. He isn't around much anymore. He doesn't call often anymore. So you should do what I'm doing. Just drop all communications. If he really wants you he will be calling. If not, F*ck him. Move on...that's my plan! Good luck girl.
2007-02-06 19:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds like he really dos not care for you or this relationship , so i think you have to make the decision confront him or move on. you sound like someone capable of finding a nice caring guy who really will appreciate what ever love and care you put in to the relationship, so tell him he either starts putting in some effort or your moving on. I think he'll relise that he is not irreplaceable
2007-02-06 19:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by leon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋