How do you tell if your boyfriend is sincere.?

Question

We used to be able to see each other on the weekends but now we have 200 miles between us and we can't see each other as often. He tells me that he plans to marry me. He is away at college studying to be an Electrical Engineer and I am in school back home. When he comes to visit he tells me about places that he has gone and how great it is there. Then he says "God, there are so many girls!" Now I have heard this more than once. How can he love me so much and say something like this. Is this just a young guy talking or is there something to this? Remember, he has said this to me more than once.

Answer 1

i'm sorry sweetie, but i think i would be kinda unsure about my guy saying "god, there are so many girls!". unless they are of interest to him, he shouldn't have even noticed, much less paid enough attention to mention it several times later. all i can say is trust your instict. honestly, you cant be there to see what he does so you can only go by what he tells you and i really don't think he would admit any wrongdoing in the first place. maybe he's trying to communicate indirectly with you by saying that to you. perhaps he has developed a wondering eye and doesn't want you to wind up shocked as well as hurt just in case something does happen.

Answer 2

There is a possiblity that he may want to move on, there is a 200 mile distance right? But then again he could be saying these things to see how you will react. By striking jelousy into you and getting you to be closer to him. Beleive it or not guys like be told that they're appreciated too. This also could be a way for him to see if you've been looking at other guys, by getting you to agree and talk about how many guys there are around you.

Answer 3

Interesting question!

I think though that because of emotions you might be missing the point. If I were you I would stop worrying about if he is sincere. The real question is how the hell can you even HAVE this kind of relationship?! Been there, done that. It's a REALLY BAD idea.

\The mature way ot handle it is to break up and you guys date other people etc etc and then smile and say "Hey if in X years you want to try again, great!"

Good luck.

p.s. In my experience long term relationships are about being in love with being in love. Think about it!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Everyone is different. He may just be trying to get you to be jealous. he may be worried that "back home" there are plenty of guys. He may just be trying to say he has chances, but he'd rather have you. Thats how I read it. He's a guy, would you rather him notice every girl he see's and not tell you, or notice and let you know? or notice and not tell you? At least he is being honest. Oh, and it doesn't hurt to talk to him! ;)

Answer 5

If you trust him (which you obviously have issues with), then you have to believe him. However, that should be tempered with common sense. If he stops calling you as often, or blows you off repeatedly, you may be better off cutting your losses.

You are young, obviously, and just remember that while it may seem that if you lose your man it will affect you forever, it is NOT as bad as it may seem and there are plenty of men out there I'm sure would be glad to treat you how you would like to be treated.

Answer 6

I think he is a young guy and his sexual interest is where it should be. Ask him if he wants an open relationship meaning he can date who he wants well he is away and if he says sure sounds great you have your answer!!

Answer 7

Move on, if hes that interested in other girls let him go for it

Answer 8

guys can be dense sometimes... they forget when they are talking to their guy buddies and when they are talking to their girlfriends...
you just need to ask yourself how you feel about him and if you trust him...

if you are still mixed up then sit him down and talk to him about it.

best of luck!

Answer 9

you should move on.