Who to date at 35?

Question

I'm a 35 year old male, I never dated until I was 27, dated a few people and found a girl that I stayed with for 7 years. She's gone now (passed away). So here I am out dating, and doing things again. the only problem is, I'm doing things I should've done in my early twenties and hanging out at clubs that I should have been done with years ago. Having a great time though, I even dance now all of sudden. But naturally, when I go out, I'm surrounded by people in their early twenties, and the women I find myself attracted to are early to mid twenties - Nobody my age is doing what I'm doing it seems, and I seem to have missed my 20's for some reason. I just don't want to look like an stalker when I start talkin to these women. Outside of work I'm involved in music and enjoy what is current, at least with the metal/goth/electronic genre, so I'm certainly not out of touch to anyone a bit younger than me.

My last relationship consisted of doing things that younger people would normally do as well. My old girl was big on goth stuff (We visited Hot Topic often...), heavy metal, sci-fi, video games, etc... Not to mention that I always get interested in things a few years later than most people anyway. Should I continue on and just pretend I'm not old, or are there alternative / goth / interesting / exciting clubs where people my age hang out? I have tried some online dating and have chatted with a few people my age, but they are so in a different place then I am. I feel like I'm lost in some time chasm or something. I take care of my myself and the only thing that would really elude to my age is my thinning hair and stability I guess. Responsibility wise I'm right where I need to be. I'm happy with myself, but I feel al little weird talking to women that are 10+ years younger than myself. But I feel even worse talking to women my age because we're so different.

I have more in common with women 10+ years younger than me. Whats wrong with me?

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with you. Age is something society brain washes into us.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with you - and you are right - you are rather caught in a time warp - but it has got to be fun. Cronologic age has nothing to do with emotional age. You should not feel bad about being surrounded by younger people and give the girls a whirl. There are lots of them that would love to have an older man who likes what they like. You can grow old together.

Answer 3

Hun, I think you should stop thinking about what is considered "age appropriate" and just have fun. Seriously, if you are looking for someone to be with then you want to find someone that you have things in common with or you feel like you two are compatible. You definately don't want to be with someone that bores you to death and doesn't share any interests with you. Who cares about how old each of you are. Besides us younger girls like men that are older and more experienced with life in general. I say do what makes YOU happy. I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

Go where you feel comfortable. I have dated women 15 years younger than me and 10 year older than me and found that on certain levels, I have a lot in common with all of them.

Answer 5

Dude. Nothing wrong with it. I am in your same boat. I used to struggle with it, but the facts are you can relate better to people that are single, younger, and probably no kids. If they happen to be in their 20's so be it. If they like you for you it won't matter. If it's an issue with women, then it's their loss. Good luck.

Answer 6

NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU. MY GUY IS 23 YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME, BEEN TOGETHER GOING ON 3 YEARS. AGE ... BLAAAA, STOP PAYING ATTENTION TO IT AND FOCUS ON THE PERSONALITY. HOWEVER A BAR/NITE CLUB IS NOT THE BEST PLACE TO MEET SOMEONE.

Answer 7

you are to old just to date a girl, you need to marry a woman now!

Answer 8

who is mad to date a spinster man