Here is my situation: I am 25 weeks pregnant and live aprox 4 hours away from my immediate family (parents, aunts/uncles, ect...) and aprox 3 and 1/2 hours from my husband's family. My sister in law and brother live 15 minutes away and around x-mas time she aked if she could throw me a baby shower. What made her offer ohhh so appealing is that we wouldn't have to travel a long distance to have a shower AND wouldn't have to worry about how to get our new baby gifts back home (4 hours away).
So my question is: Not many relatives from either side of the families are willing to travel in March to my shower and that is fine, but I have about 25 work friends that I want @ the shower. How many is too many work friends becasue I don't want it to seem we're being greedy by inviting more people for more gifts when that isn't the truth at all. I just know when we got married we had 3 bridal showers and we had to travel all over the state to attend them. I just didn't want to do that again.
2007-02-06 10:37:45 · 12 answers · asked by qteapie210 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The shower is being held @ a resturant so space isn't the issue, my sis-in-law has a very tiny apt and she suggested having it somewhere other then her home.
2007-02-06 10:39:54 · update #1
I would only invite the work friends you have a relationship with other than work. Otherwise, I think it looks like you are scamming presents! How many of these people will come and see the baby after you have it? And when you are not at work which ones will you still have contact with? These are the ones that I would invite.
I knew a girl who invited everyone from work and had a gift list and all presents were over about $30-00,it was so obvious she wanted gifts - the people that thought that simply said they were busy and didn't go.
Give something in return. If people are expected to bring a gift, make sure you put some money over the bar or provide some food or something. I went to one baby shower where there was about 50 people. We weren't offered anything to drink (had to get our own) and it was at lunchtime and there was enough dip to feed about 5 people. I was pregnant at the time and was about eat the leg off a chair. I thought that was rude. It's no different to a birthday party, you invite people to celebrate with you, they buy a gift for you and you provide food and refreshments.
2007-02-06 11:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are two groups with totally different relationships. Your work friends don't know about the time your brother smeared peanut butter in your hair, your parents don't care that Maria can stuff 87widgets per minute into a packing box. Each of these groups has a different perspective of you, and each would be more comfortable with people who know you in the same way. This is your first child, so it isn't as if you have to fret about entertaining younger children, cousins etc, Why not have two separate showers so each group can enjoy it fully. As far as not wanting to drive - 3 1/2 to 4 hours isn't that much of a drive. Do it for your family. They'll be doing it for you once the baby is born, because grandparents do come to visit.
2007-02-06 10:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't disclude anybody. if you cut people off of the list people's feelings WILL be hurt. i threw a baby shower AT work once and we had 30 people there easily. most people really do want to help BUT i would suggest not registering for 1. super duper expensive stuff and 2. totally useless crap. THAT is when it seems greedy. you should find out from other mothers what things were really handy. like you can really never have enough diapers, burp cloths and onesies. whenever i go to a shower i usually buy one thing off of the registry and then find other things that i think the mother would use but wouldn't think of. even tho i don't have kids i am pretty good at getting good things.
so yeah, don't register for a $300 stroller and a $150 car seat and then like silver spoons and picture frames and wall hangings.
register for stuff that is affordable made for the baby to use or for you to use on the baby.
good luck!!!
2007-02-06 10:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just invite the people that im closest to. I know that out of 25 people there are maybe 10 that you are most closest to. Just hope you're not going to feel bad about others that didnt get invited and may say something to you about it. Or just put out the invitations. Do you think all 25 of them will actually come?
2007-02-06 10:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is funny you ask this. We are planning a baby shower right now for my coworker. She is due in march, and we are also having it at a resturaunt. We invited everyone. No one thinks about being greedy.I think that everyone at your job would love to go so they can share with your joy. I think that people would get there feelings hurt if they didn't get invited. I say that you should have whoever you want. I wish you much peace and happiness
2007-02-06 10:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by katiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all of them are your friends invite them all. With my first child I didn't just invite girls, I invited their spouses as well. I had a total of about 100 people, and about 20 were from my work. Don't think of invited your friends as being greedy, think of it as a pre celebration for your child. All of your friends will show up because they will be glad to be apart of the celebration, and helping you by bringing stuff for the baby.
2007-02-06 10:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you're limited by space invite them all. A friend is a friend and people love to celebrate new babies. Everyone is free to decline, and you can let them know that you would enjoy their company with or without a present.
2007-02-06 10:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite lots of friends from work, the ones that live closest to you are more important. Make sure they miss you when your gone on maternity leave. That way you will know a lot more people to babysit, when you need a break.
2007-02-06 10:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
invite them all! if someone brings up the issue that you are doing it for the gifts. Tell them point blank that they are all friends and it would be completely wrong to not invite one of them for fear of how it would look. Its for your child not you. So let loose and invite away!!!
2007-02-06 10:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by redheadwithadditude69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
INVITE AS MANY AS YOU WANT THEY KNOW THAT THEY ARE NOT BEING INVITED JUST FOR THE GIFTS. THIS IS A CELEBRATION OF BABY AND YOU. YOU CAN PUT SOMETHING FUN ON THE INVITE LIKE COME FOR DRINKS, FOOD AND FUN! ALL WELCOME GIFT OR NO GIFT!
I KNOW THAT THEY WONT FEEL THAT THEY ARE SUPPOSE TO BRING SOMETHING! FRIENDS ARE FRIENDS!!
2007-02-06 10:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by LOVE MY LIFE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋