For those of you mom's that have head strong three year old son's...how do you get them to mind you when they are at their peak of throwing a tantrum??? I have tried time out, I have tried taking away toys, I have tried ignoring him, I have tried spanking the butt, I have tried just about everything...I know that my face and my tone show that I have had enough and he just keeps on pressing on!!!! Any different ideas??
2007-02-06 10:28:24 · 11 answers · asked by Ladybug 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Pick him up, put him in his room, tell him when he's able to act nicely, he can come out. If he comes out, ignore him. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Oh, and don't show any emotion. If he sees that you're breaking down, that's why he keeps pushing. Act like he's not there. Go outside, turn on the radio. Whatever. Gotta love this age!
2007-02-06 10:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by chnchita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember that children are grown-ups-in-training (not little adults; they're practicing for the adults they will become). Adults don't fling themselves on the floor and scream. There's probably a reason he's behaving this way (though it may not be a particularly good one...he's 3, after all).
The best way to deal with him is to treat him like he might honestly have a problem. Listen to him in the lead-in to a tantrum: what cranks him? Does he want something, is he lonely, is he tired, hungry, losing his mind, discovering a cure for cancer?? Find out what's going on in his head. Then talk to him. If he's being unreasonable, let him know. If he has a point, praise him. It's going to take some dialog, but it will be worth it. Once he knows that you take him seriously, he's likely to ease off on the tantrums.
Good luck--
2007-02-06 11:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to stay calm and let him know that you aren't going to give in to his behavior. Remind him calmly that he is making a poor choice and he's going to be in trouble later.
Sometime set up consequences chart. Let him know what you expect of him, the signs that you are not happy with his choices, and what happens if he doesn't listen.
The important part: Stick to it! It is hard to give in but you can't if you want the tantrums to stop.
Just try to let him know you understand he is upset BUT he cannot throw a tantrum. Tantrums = punishment. Lost off privledges, spanking, etc.
Good Luck. Consistency is the key! SD
2007-02-06 10:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by SD 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I pull my 3 yr old close too me and tell him to take a deep breath, after 2 or 3 of those I tell him in a quiet forceful tone that he better stop right now or he will go straight to bed, if he starts up again he gets a spanking and is put in his bed, tv off, no toys, and told good night.
2007-02-06 10:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the suitable element is to do is whilst he starts, you tell him that as quickly as he's finished that he would come and connect you. as long as he's not hurting all of us else, and isn't inflicting excessive injury to himself it relatively is risk-free to enable him enable his troublesome out. once you first doing this, the habit gets worse yet than he will end it. as long as you do no longer reward him for the detrimental habit their isn't any reward for that habit and he will discover ways to regulate his frustrate and to handle than in a extra calming way. After he has calmed down you ought to refer to him approximately how and why he would have been feeling that way. He needs to have a attractiveness for the sentiments that he's feeling so as that he can understand them. solid success
2016-12-17 10:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a phase, it will pass , but i agree with some other opinions - go in another room , or put him in another room and ignore, ignore, ignore...it is hard i know , but it s the best way ( in my practice ) .
Where is no audience - there is no performance .
He will get fed up with it sooner or later .
2007-02-06 10:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep on ignoring him so that he realizes it doesn't get to you. I give my son and daughter one drop of Tabasco sauce if they get in trouble, its way worse than a spanking. they dont like it and behave more now because they dont like it. It might sound mean, but it wont kill them.
2007-02-06 10:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by camrenalexis2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My 4 year old is the same. He doesn't have a father and this really bugs him. Do you have family to help give you breaks.
2007-02-06 10:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Destiny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just put him in his room right when he first starts. He can stay there until he calms down.
2007-02-06 14:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont.lol get him into something like a movie or something like that i have three boys and they are very hyper try not to give him sweets or pop find something that he likes to do
2007-02-06 10:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by tabby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋