What's wrong with me?

Question

so i've been through many things. and i've been getting better, but every time i get better, things get worse again. but i don't want professional help. i keep promising myself and my concerned friends that i'm gonna try better, but i just lose the motivation. what's wrong with me?

i don't want to get professional help, because i don't want to admit i need help. i dont want people to think im crazy or something. ir that i can't help myself. i feel like i can help myself... i just have to work at it more. the problems are: anorexia, depression, suicidal tendencies, stress disorder, and some other small things. but i've never gotten meds or prefessional help. just my doctor telling me im anorexic. but i didnt take anything from him..

Answer 1

it is impossible to say until i know what those things are.
yup
good luck though

Answer 2

sounds like some mix of generalized anxiety and mild depression.

Promising to try harder -- that's a sign of someone on the verge of a nervous breakdown -- those are the words of anxiety.

Then, all the grinding wears you down into a depression. This leads to incapacitation and lack of motivation.

The whole thing is a big feedback loop.

I recommend you go see a Psychiatrist and take some meds that can jar you out of this cycle. It might seem like a cop-out to you, but I guarantee you will not feel that way after you do it, and you will feel dumb for not having tried it sooner.

Meds can give you the mental space to maneuver into a better situation for yourself. Once you have the freedom and energy to move, the conditions which served as the basis for the cycle you are stuck in will have been remediated -- hopefully enough to avert a relapse.

You just keep at it and you will eventually get it right. Then, the world will be your oyster.

Answer 3

If you don't want professional help, then you probably won't get any help at all. I get medication from a doctor for depression; if I had a choice, I would rather not have to do that, but life doesn't work the way the you want it to. My brother has bipolar disorder, he used to say "but I don't like to take medication." His wife finally made him go because he was acting like a jerk-she said go to the doctor, tell him how you feel or I'm out of here. He got put on medication, and he's better, not as mean and hateful as he used to be. At some point, you're going to have admit the truth; and it's better to do it now than later.

Answer 4

OK anorexia isn't anything to mess with.You will die if you don't get control of it. And seeing or talking to a professional. DOES NOT mean you're crazy.It sometimes helps to have an outside party to listen to you and give you a new perspective on things. I know a lot of people who get professional. help. And they are tremendously happier since .And admitting that you might need a little help is the first step to getting better.Plus if anyone does give you a hard time about getting help those are the people who will only don't really want what's best for you.And you don't need them around.Make sure you do what is best for you and don't worry about what other people think. Your true friends will have your back no matter what. Good Luck to you!!!!!

Answer 5

try sam-e, gaba, omega 3 supplements. Hey I'm still in the suicide club too. Somedays the symptoms go away for a while but they always return even with the meds.
You are your own worst enemy. Get proffessional help and meds because that will help keep your motivation up. Most people don't realize that you can't keep up motivation if you are depressed. Its a serious illness and can pull the carpet out from under you. Will power will not make it better because its a physical illness.

Answer 6

Well, the first step is to admit that you have a problem, which you seem to have done, but the next step is getting help. It sounds like you have some heavy burdens on your shoulders, and with suicidal tendencies you should definitely talk to someone, it is important, suicide is so final and scary, been there, tried that myself. Just keep reminding yourself that a strong person will stay and fight, a weak one opts for suicide. I think it would be very important to seek help, no one can face these problems alone. Good luck and I hope all works out for you.

Answer 7

I know its hard to admitt when you need help thats hard for everyone to relize and admitt to but it does not make you any less of a person for admitting that. We all go threw things in life where we need someone eleses help and we cant deal with or own problems and there is nothing wrong with that its only natural. Dont be afraid to ask for help when u ask for help you are actualy helping yourself more then you know. Join a support group where people can motivate you all the time I know I need motavation for lots of things. I use to be depressed and wanna just die and I got into a good suport group and they really helped me. I understand why people dont like professinal help sometimes its a bunch of crap but maybe you might meet one that you will like I have seen many people over the years and never liked not one of them and then one day I met a consuour who changed my life litaraly and it was the best feeling to know I could talk to her about anything and not worry. If you are aneraxic that can kill you so you should get help from a doctor for that before you get really sick. Good luck to you in all you do and god bless you.

Answer 8

I would say, based on your two posts, that you do not like yourself. My guess as to the cause of that is that you haven't gotten from your associates any satisfactory evidence that your existence, as you are, matters to someone. Note the phrase, "as you are". You say you have friends and that they are "concerned". Is that what you want? Do you want them to be concerned? Is that the only way you can maintain their affection is by making them concerned? I would suggest you try a different way of getting people to like you.

You say you are suicidal but I'm sure you want to live because you say you are "afraid to be fat" and "don't want to be anorexic" so you do not see a state of "no life" ahead of you. You have not yet reached the point where your death is real in your mind. I would like to suggest that the suicidal thoughts (and attempts?) are just another way of drawing attention to yourself. But the depression is real.

Saddness is an emotion, one of the six basic emotions we are born with. It comes on when we perceive something which invalidates our well being. A derisive comment or a failed goal may trigger a sinking of our feelings. In its more serious extreme, where it lasts a long time and is so intense it prevents normal life or normal thinking, it is called depression. It is very serious when it leads to suicide attempts. As I pointed out in the paragraph above, I don't think you are there. What you have to do to get over it is change your depressive thinking and negative outlook on life. You say you lose motivation to change yourself.

I want you to try forcing your thoughts, the next time you have a depressive episode, toward positive things that have happened to you or about things you really like to do. It is hard because negative, depressive, thinking is self reinforcing. A negative thought brings on a sinking of feeling and that leads to more negative thoughts. But when a negative thought tries to break through just will yourself to think about something enjoyable. If you succeed you should feel the depressed feeling start to lift. If you continue you should be able to break the depression!

Once you are feeling good try getting in contact with one of those friends and giving of yourself. "No man or woman is an island." Tell them about your positive accomplishment and I'm sure you will get their approval. That is what you need, approval of you, in positive behavior mode. Keep this up and soon you will be interacting with your friends with an exchange of love and positive outlooks.

Answer 9

I have been there. But no matter how much I wanted to help myself, sometimes I just couldn't do it alone. I have finally got off my meds but went through a big change in my life to do it. Do seek out a professional or atleast a support group. Then what really pulled me through was prayer. I just found out that God can help me in everything. He made me and He can fix me. It did take time, it's not an overnight thing. And others helped in praying too. Find others to help pray.

Answer 10

I do not like to go to the Dr. office or deal with so called proffesionals either, but sometimes our problem gets to be to much, and then it is time to seek help. I, a long time ago went to a therapist, because my problem was too much for me, and after a few sessions with that person, everything changed, and I started to feel good again. Believe me there is some very good proffessional counselors, or therapists out there and they can help you to feel good again too. Do not be afraid to seek out help if there is something that bothers you so much that it makes you sick. If your friends are sincere and care about you , talk to them about what is happening with you, and maybe you all can come to an conclusion as what to do to make you feel better. Life is never the same as it changes everyday, and we have to learn to cope with it. Sometimes that is not easy, but with the right mental tools, you can overcome this.good luck..........

Answer 11

I know what ur going through. i don't want professional help either. they didn't do anything for me when i was talking to them. so everytime i get really down i call my boyfriend and he reminds me to breathe and helps out a lot in general. i always feel fine duringthe day or early in the morning but slowly as the day goes on i get more and more bummed out. by 10 or 11 i'm so freakin messed up its not funny. i've had a few nervous break downs and i'm trying to quit smoking so all that stress builds up and its really depressing for me. so what i would say you should do is talk to someone when ur down. and no matter how bummed out u get don't kill urself, its a permanent solution to a temporary problem.