my parents are not supported of our relationship and we are getting married this month , my family isn't even coming to our wedding ? how should i deal with the crude comments towards my fiance and me . my fiance family is very happy that were toghether , my fiance is in the military and he doesn't look 34 he looks like he's 26 so to me the age doesn't matter at all.
2007-02-06 10:16:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Only thing that matters is Love and LOVE ALONE!
2007-02-06 10:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear your family is not supportive. My fiance is 22 and I'm 32, but thank God her family loves me. I also look young, so whenever someone throws that old "rocking the cradle" joke at me, I always just say "it's not my fault I look young and can't attract girls my age." But anyway, just Ignore the crude comments. What matters at the end of each day of the rest of your lives is that ashely1 and her husband is happy. Plus, there may be another chance later for them to acept him. I have coworkers who have said their in-laws were not accepting in the beginning either due to race differences or other things. But their first borns always magically brought the families together. You're right that age doesn't matter. What matters is that when you both look into each other's eyes and say your vows on your wedding day is you both truly love each other. On May 5th of this year, that's what'll matter to me and my fiance. Good luck!
2007-02-06 10:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by MTrance19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the age does matter, and you should listen to those with more life experience than you. Around six to eight years would be the absolute max in age difference. There is something wrong with a guy his age if he is after a girl your age. I'm sad you are hearing "crude" comments, but maybe you should listen to the people trying to warn you. Losing family support isn't going to be easy....
2007-02-06 11:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your wedding. I am sorry your family does not approve. Age is not the issue. If your family is making disrespectful comments about your fiance it is a bigger problem than an age difference. You need to respect yourself and not allow people to make such comments. Just say Clearly and Calmly " I do not appreciate that, please do not say things like that in my presence" You cannot control what people say, and feel, but you can control what you will allow.
PS, Time heals, and especially if you prevent hard feelings now, you may see a change in your family.
2007-02-06 10:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by mliz55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if ur really really reaaaallllly sure that u love him and age wont cause a problem for the two of u then go for it. But I tell ya, my sister is married to a man 16 yrs older and that age difference caused her many problems like him getting tooo jealous of anyone. I personally dont like too much age difference btwn a couple, but as u said, u really love him then it should not be a problem just make sure everything btwn u is figured out and u understand each other very well. ur parents should go to ur wedding cuz no matter what decision u take, ur still their daughter and what makes u happy should make them happy. good luck
2007-02-06 10:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the number that probably bothers your family is the experience. They probably believe that he has experience in life issue that you have not had a chance to experience. They probably believe that you have not expose yourself to enough! Putting all that aside!! If you love him and you have no regrets than you are in a good place and you should surround yourself with people who love you and your fiance and remember that you and your fiance are the most important people that you should concern yourself with and when you and your fiance become a married couple pursuit happiness in spite of the nay sayers!!
2007-02-06 10:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not such a big age difference. Your fiance is in the military that is perfect. it gives you a good reason to move away. get some space from your family, but don't alienate them, they will eventually get used to the idea. and if not, don't let it bother you. you are your own person and you should never have to conform to someone else's idea about what is best for you. Only you know.
They will be sorry they missed your wedding....even if they don't say so.
2007-02-06 10:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm having the same problem. . . i am 28 and my fiance is 43. my parents have never like him and have done everything in their power to try to break us up. . . they have even gone as far as calling social services to try and have my son taken away from me and now are threatening to take me to court so i talked to a lawyer who advised i have no further contact at all. . . sure this is a very difficult decision but since we haven't talked (since december), i am having fewer panic attacks and feel less stressed and relaxed. I figure as long as you and your partner love each other, that will conquer all. i hope you have a long and happy marriage together .
my fiance and i are getting married in july. . . his family is very supportive of our wedding and as excited as we are. his dad told me that he'd walk me down the aisle if i wanted him to as well which i think is very cool that they are helping me tremendously through this difficult time
2007-02-06 12:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by princessmelokia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be your decision to get married,not your family's, but do consider their thoughts, concerns, and feelings as they are your family. Look into why they feel the way they do toward your fiance, try to make peace with them about it. they're the only family you've got.
2007-02-06 10:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Katie Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love, you're in love!!! Either your family will accept it eventually, or they won't. As for those who have crude comments, you need to make it VERY clear to them that unless they are going to be supportive of you and your decisions, they should just stay away from you. Sorry that your family sucks.
2007-02-06 10:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 13:05:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋