I am a really nice but also really shy person i am described as cute looking or pretty i am in good shape and have a decent body 5 ft 6 110 pounds.But i attract possesive, controling,often have a macho personality and manupulative type of guys and i dont understand why?I always try to see the best in people and am friendly so whats wrong with me?I like feeling protected and safe in a relationship is this the problem?
2007-02-06 10:13:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
These are the only guys that ask me out!?
2007-02-06 10:16:27 · update #1
No i dont like these types of guys but nice guys never ask me out?
2007-02-06 10:23:03 · update #2
Well, maybe because, you need to pay more attention before you accept another guy's invitation to go out with him. Maybe because you present yourself only available to those types of guys.
2007-02-06 10:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Danny S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people, including guys, are not self-confident, so they feel they have to control someone (or many ppl) in order to feel secure, or manly. Whereas I think there's nothing wrong with you, and u should not change the way u are regarding friendliness and being possitive, you could probably use some "stay away from me, macho man" kind of mentality. People will be attracted to you for being friendly n good looking, but the ones who'll ask u out first are those who are more extrovert (outgoing). If you can keep'em away, maybe there'll be a chance for a guy who's a bit slower (shy, more introvert) to approach you. Though shy guys may have to overcome their shyness cuz when they see u reject those outgoing/macho man/I'm the hottest thing in the world type of guy they may also think they have no chance in this life to go out with u. But u never know...there's gonna be one crazy/nice guy out there who will :D
2007-02-06 18:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by ironman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well needing to feel protected and safe is a normal thing for any woman, but you don't need someone that is massive and possesive. That is over the top. It's not what you control, it's what you choose. You don't have to decide to date the guys but you do. You say they are the only one's that ask you out, but do you consider talking to anyone else? You may just like these type of guys because you feel that they are the only types that can protect you. That is not so. There are others out there for you if you just look. Maybe you should try to talk to other guys instead of letting them come to you.
2007-02-06 18:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, wanting to feel safe and protected in a relationship shouldn't be the reason you attract controlling and manipulative guys. It may be that these turkeys sense that you, being shy, will be easy to control and conquer. Keep being friendly to nice guys and one of them will get the idea one of these days. I'd like to think about this a bit and perhaps respond later if I may.
2007-02-06 18:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the guys you attract..it's the guys you are willing to date.
These kind of guys are easy to spot so why do you keep dating them??
That's what you like so that's what you get..
2007-02-06 18:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, u shouldn't try to change, oh no. but if thats u, then u be u! and do u like these kinds of guys? and i guess thats the way u r, so sorry honey!
good luck
heather
2007-02-06 18:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by ☆♥~chickgirl~♥☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋