How can I stop feeling bad about myself for being shy and sensitive?

Question

Things affect me so deeply and I'm hesitant to open up to others. I have very few close friends but I'm an incredibly compassionate person and try to reach out to others in my own quiet way. I'm VERY shy around guys and I am just feeling down about being shy and sensitive. People say it's easy to not be like that, but it's really not . I wish I could totally be myself around others and not have things affect me so deeply. Is there anything positive about these qualities? How can I stop feeling bad about being shy and sensitive?

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with being shy and sensitive. Honestly, though a lot of outgoing people wouldnt admit, but they all have qualities like this. There a lot of outgoing people who are shy and sensitive. Your an incredibly compassionate person? Thats awesome! If reaching out in your own quiet way is going well for you. By all means don't stop! Don't conform to what other people do. Don't be afraid to speak up either. For myself I find engaging myself in friends conversations, and stating opinions about different things definitely get me talking. I'm shy and sensitive too, but what I try to keep in mind is that there are a lot of people who have the same problem, including outgoing people, I know b/c my older brother has these qualities and he's outgoing. Shy around guys? That'll change with time, dont worry. Be yourself in your own way that makes you feel comfortable there's no other way to do it. Thats how a lot of other people/peers operate. If your a shy and sensitive person and your incredibly compassionate, you probably make a great friend, and people are probably drawn to your shy and sensitive qualities b/c you are compassionate about other people. Thats a good thing. As Eleanor Roosevelt would say.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
-Eleanor Roosevelt.

Keep up with what your doing, and keep what I said in mind. Your going to be alright. I know from experience because I'm that way too. Hope I helped!

Answer 2

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being shy and sensitive in general, unless you think there is an underlying issue? I have pretty much always been shy and sensitive, especially growing up, but in my early twenties when i started to avoid social situations, i knew there was other issues that needed addressing and after discussing it with two doctors i was diagnosed with social anxiety. I'm not saying this is the case with you because some people are just naturally shy, but it wouldn't hurt to speak to a professional if it worries you. Some of the most caring people who i know, or have ever met, have been shy and sensitive. It's just apart of who you are and it's an admirable trait to many people.

Answer 3

My best friend is just like you are. Even worse for him, cause he's a guy. All his life, people, including his own family, made him feel like being a quiet, caring, sensitive person was a bad thing. I think it shows just how screwed up this society is.

Since we've been friends (about four years) he has really come out of his shell. I think that's the answer to how you stop feeling bad about it. Reject the jerks and surround yourself with people who revere these qualities, even if they're few and far between.

As for there being anything positive, OF COURSE there is! Empathy and compassion are totally lacking in this world, and everything could use some. Pick your favorite, and you will be the best in your field. Like kids? Become a social worker, teacher, or coach. Like animals? Join a rescue organization, or become a vet. Like nature? Every conservation program needs people who really care.

Look at the selfish self-serving jerks around you every day, and then thank your lucky stars you're not one of them. You have a rare gift, girl, be proud!

Answer 4

There is hope for you. I figure you are a young lady. It's too bad in this society now that so many young ladies are too far out there.
There is nothing wrong with being a little timid. Just as long as you respect yourself and the rights of others you will do well.
Who said you are too sensitive? You have rights to your feelings.
I figure you are a person of principal and good morals....keep them. There are so many young women out there who wish they
could say they were sensitive. It's a sign of intelligence to feel others pain. After all who wants to be like everyone else.
In time you will realize that it's ok to be a little shy. Most entertainers are shy. So try not to feel bad about being shy or sensitive as you call it. It's a sign of being in touch with the world as it is.

Answer 5

i've been there. quiet, shy, etc. somehow i completely changed and now i'm loud and obnoxious. which was the me waiting to get out. i used to be really shy around the guys too now i''m friends with most of them. ITS NOT SOMETHING TO FEEL BAD ABOUT! yeah it can be anoying especially if you can't ask a guy u really like out, but its a good thing. being sensitive is something the world needs more of... A LOT more of. if more people were sensitive we probably wouldn't have the problems we do. so you should look in the mirror every morning and say "i'm beautiful and i'm gonna make a difference today" (i know sounds cheesy but thats what my councellor told me to do and i think it may have worked) or get the kind of friends that bring out ur wild side.

ten bucks says your a pisces ;-)

Answer 6

Well if you can't be comfortable around them, then they must not be worth being around. I am too a quiet person, but i need to speak my mind i feel its my duty to do so.

Being quiet is actually a good thing. But it is a known fact that guys will want to talk to you, becuz they find u so interesting becuz you dont talk.

The great quality is that, quiet and shy ppl have so much depth about them, becuz they are great listeners and plus its who u are, and that should be enuff.

Its good that you are cautious, but if you are this way, its gonna take a minute to change, and if you don't feel comfortable being VERY OUTGOING, then that's great, becuz you know who you are, u just gotta learn to be comfortable with that.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with being shy and sensitive. It's sounds more like you are lacking in confidence and self-esteem. If you are young, these things will come with experience and succeeding at things you are good at. You have gifts inside of you, things you're good at, that you don't even know you have.
Start thinking about all that's RIGHT and GOOD about you. Build yourself up inside, and then pursue your interests, and it will take you towards confidence.

Answer 8

People skill, communication, Sociolize, taking part Public speaking, confident, open minded, get involve Sports, Charity funds, Church choir, School events, Work related, self- image,get rid of self-concious. Sometimes it's good to be little shy and sensitive. When it's too open and too forward, talk too much get into trouble. If you like to reach out to others to make you feel better, you should move on with the those who have your same sensitive, compassionate characteritics. Shyness is one of Girls possitive quality, instead of being pushy. You have a good possitive qualities. Get involve, Sociolize, talk to Friends, little by little try to change your personality. You can go for studing psycology Human minds and behaviour. Their'e places you got to be act shy and be sensitive. It depends of places and people where, who associate. Being too sensitive, sometimes not too good, why? Because most of people are taking advantage of those who have good manners, compassionate qualities. Councelline may needed if you want and Education isone of thebest to understand and it helps to live , and cope with the people according to their'e needs and for you to be free and comfortable with others. You want tomove around ,share your thoughts, feelings, idias, with others ,then you got to open your self, want to be like them, then you got to, practice, start keep talking and keep move around with the same crowd untill you'll be able to change get rid of your shyness. Sociolise is one of the key and try to communicate with the people .

Answer 9

I knew a guy who taught me a few things. He never took things personally. He always put a positive spin on things no matter how badly they turned out and had a great sense of humor. Oh yeah, try to smile!

Answer 10

Don't associate your self-worth with being shy. It has nothing to do with your self-worth. Your self-worth should be associated with the actions you take in your life. Your actions are what you have control of and what you should be judged by.