I have seen so many questions in the last few days about being 13 & pregnant or i am 17 wanting a baby..Should i? I mean what is wrong with these kids?
And why aren't the parent's stepping in and being more strict with them before things like this can happen?
2007-02-06 10:08:26 · 18 answers · asked by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
TO BE HONEST, I DON'T THINK THE PARENTS KNOW, OR THE HONESTLY DON'T CARE. I KNOW IT IS A PROBLEM, AND I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU.
2007-02-06 10:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by bored_rena 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
With the way the system is these days, you can barely discipline your child in any way without it being considered abuse. I am not saying to abuse a child, lord knows that is not what I mean. I just know that these days you try to control your teens, but they even go so far as to threaten to call protective services on you and LIE if they don't get their way. I have 3 teenage step children and half of what is going on in their lives we don't know and the other half we do what we can to prevent, but we can't be there 24/7. Also, there are so many people that have to work so much to be able to provide even the basics for their children that they are not spending the time with them that they need. Just to pay for insurance it takes both parents working full time and a single parent having to work 2 or 3 jobs. The government should take a step back and help out parents with things like insurance and let the parents be parents without going to jail themselves.
2007-02-06 18:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it take's two to get pregnant, so it's not just about
some wild girls here, what about the wild boys ?? the
problem her is comunication, and it sounds like there is
none, The parents of girls and boys need to be talked
to, these parents are not demanding enough.
They put all of the responsiabililtys on the girls here, if A
parent has A girl, she is not suppose to do this, or not suppose
to do that, she may get pregnant, but if its A boy, go ahead
son do what makes you feel right, so the girls are tired of
this, they have feelings to and want to enjoy themselves, but
this is not the way to go at 13, it's really sad, the parents
play A big part, and the teacher plays A part, and even
friends play A part, the children do what they think there
suppose to do or what they see everyone else do.
2007-02-06 19:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by koko 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
13 and pregnant is vastly different from 17 and wanting a baby. However ...
Much of society frowns on it while a part of society seems to think it's okay. The part that frowns on it does so because a child should just be a child and enjoy being one. Those years fly by and they should not be taken for granted! (This tends to be the more educated and socially and financially inclined.)
The part that thinks it's okay consists of irresponsible parents who have no clue of how to raise a child and don't want to be burdened with the task of becoming a responsible parent. (This tends to be the less educated and socially and financially declined.) In turn, these kids have turned to making a family of their own so as to make up for the lack of a sense of family with their parents. There is often a sense of hopelessness and self-destructive behavior (smoking, drinking, drugs, etc.) on the part of the daughter who does this.
Where are these lessons learned? At school and at home where irrepsonsible adults tend to produce irresponsible kids.
2007-02-06 18:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Michael 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents have no actual control over the decisions a young person makes, despite all the best parenting a son or daughter will make bad decisions it is a part of life and being human. Most people posting these stupid questions have never had kids. People do not control other people like robots, going overboard and being to strict will cause the opposite effect and major rebellion.
2007-02-06 19:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you seem to have a lot of questions I have seen lately... :)
I read thru some answers... and I get the very distinct impression? some people just talk thru their rears?! and do not
A) have teens
B) have a clue about which generation this that or another is or was....possibly...
C) are "bored" and just want to see if what they have to say makes any sense
there is no "letting" my teen run wild....
I have a fifteen yr old.. she is a good kid... no drugs.. she does not run around.. and she, has never been on a date or kissed.... and not for lack of guys not asking.. she gets asked out almost daily... and she turns them down.. she is not ready to date (nor is she allowed except maybe doubles or a group) but she is very open with me about it... she is not ready for anything like "that" some people would say oh, she does not "really" know what is going on.. her daughter is sneaking off and has a guy or two.. nope..... my daughter and I have always been close... and still are.. I am mother, but? she comes to me and talks.. open communication... I have the same closeness to all my children..... and hopefully? I can keep it strong through the years and they will talk to me.. ask me my opinion...
the two parents working? goes out the window.. I have worked outside the house... all the way up till right before I had my fifth child was born... end of 2003...
lost generation? that one confuses me a little... my parents are now in what their late fifties... I know their generation would have been the hippies turned yuppies? but my family unit was more along the lines of Donna Reed... Father knows best.. and they were more like babyboomers.... they were not lax.. my father was a drill sergeant for more years than he was a comissioned officer... he was a lifer in for twenty three years.. when he retired? went back to work for the military... mom? she was not as strict maybe.. but the lines were always drawn what boundaries.. she and I were and are very close of friends.. she was a nurse.. until this past year, she finally retired... they raised four of us..... lost generation? is that what they are calling my generation? I was the one who would not be labeled... had not name... they called us "x" generation... and I hear jokes that our children would be the "y" gen.. "y'd" ya have them? that is.... no... it wasn't for lack of caring concerned parents that some kids slip thru...
I see the questions here asking about prgnancy... thirteen and pregnant.. but that problem/issues was always there! seventeen eighteen yrs ago it was all over the news... high rates of teen girls (13yr old btw) in good communities finding it "trendy" to have babies... it is not a new issue... it is old.....
why is it happening? why was it always? we raise them.. we teach them as best we can.. guide them... instruct them... but when it comes down to it? nope.. we ar enot there 24/7 it is their lives though and we are not supposed to put video feed on them and watch their every move.. bet they would still manage to do things we do not want... our best hope and prayer is that we did a good enough job that most of their choices are responsible and sound... mature even... but we can't expect perfection.. so we know once in a while? they will say oops... just like when they were toddlers and spilled the milk..
I disagree with the fact that I am hearing seeing people comment that it is lack of concern.. and comments referring to incubators?
oh, I am sure some are horrid parents.. or at least have a very different set of morals than most... or maybe they are so miserable in their lives, they have become ineffective parents... but to summarily lump all?... as we "allow" and need to be stricter?
by the way? I am NOT a strict parent... I do however have rules (a few) and I expect them to be followed..... but I am a fairly lenient mom....
also, I agree about the boys... put some of this on the parents of boys who con the girls who end up "oops" lol.... what did those moms teach their sons? anything? or is it up to "ONLY" parents of girls?
2007-02-06 23:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...I am 17...I have a baby one the way that was not planned but will be loved & cherished by me & the father...I will be 18 in March...I know what your talking about & most the time when your talking about kids getting pregnant young or wanting a baby yada yada...most times its the parents fault for not raising their kids right or not being around for them...alot of young girls look to older guys to "love" them because they dont have father figures in their lives & think its right to do what they do...which I understand...but dont believe in...Some parents could really careless about what their children do & where they are...even if the kid is like 11...& alot of girls now a days are acting like little sl*ts just because...
its a wieght between kids & parents...I think both are equally guitly for what the kids are doing...
2007-02-06 18:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkle in My Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some parents are working parents who don't know what the heck is going on with their children. There might be some cases that the girls run away, then come back, preganat, and what can parents do? It's not their children, but THEY are responsible to what happens to their children. Some girls even get raped, parents aren't sure what to do, and BAM! They're preganat. Also, it's the girls desicion whether to have an abortion or not. And you are right: Parents don't do anything. Parents, also, don't rule our life, we do. They're just their to guide us, no? So primarily, it's the responsibility of the kids themselves when they make those desicions.
2007-02-06 18:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by hellomotto89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a baby at 17 and neither of my parents were aware of my behavior, my dad had just divorced my mom about 6 months before and my mom had no idea i was sexually active until i told her, she was shocked, its not always the parents to blame and when you are determined to do what you want...nothing can stop that, my dad was not living with us at the time and he could have cared less, let the teenagers be responsible for their own actions...
2007-02-06 18:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my own theory without any supportng evidence
the current generation of parents grew up with conservative strict parents and don't want those restrictions passed on to their kids. Subsequently those kids are outta control
That generation will grow up and turn back into the strict conservative ones who don't want their kids to be as screwed up as they are/could have been
2007-02-06 18:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by r s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's a major problem. The lack of stable families breeds children who are so insecure and lack trust that they don't equate sex as an act of love. Just terrible!
I know of 2 mothers who basically have turned their daughters into sluts--they figure as long as they use condoms and pills it's OK.
The poor girls are totally messed up in the head now.
2007-02-06 18:18:36 · answer #11 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋