I have been with this guy for over 18 months. He has yet to introduce me to his mother or bring me to his house. he lives with his mother. he is in his 30s. I know his brother and neices by default. they used to be my neighbors. But he never introduces me to any of family by choice, nor his friends. it appears he seems embarrased to be seen with me. I am 40. I have 3 kids under 12. but i have long, dark hair, and i am not unattractive, i dress good, and have a nice job. I work really hard, this saddens me, every other man i had was proud of me. what is wrong
2007-02-06 10:04:11 · 15 answers · asked by honestgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you sure he lives with his mother in not a wife. It sounds like he hidden something. Something is going on. Do you know were he lives at least. If not you need to find out. He might be hidden a wife from you. He might have you all fooled. Something not right here. After 18months in you no nothing. Right there when you said he has not brought you to his house. That a red flag. One night when he leaves from your place you should follow him. Or have a friend do it. Or if you can't. Be cool play the part like he going to come over to your house. Leave the lights on. Leave a note on the door. Tell him sorry his name I had emergency I had to go. Park down the street have the kids babysit or tell them to be quilt in the car or have them lie down, bring them some blankets. Anyways when you see him leaving from your place following him. Girl you need to know. Something not right. Trust me I did it, when I just knew my husband was cheating. And he was. Trust me you don't want to be the other women. He will never love you 100%. I forgave my husband. But he did it again and again, with the same women. To make a long story short. I thew him out, he now lives with this other women, but he still calls me crying and missing his family, and he wants to come back home. My husband don't love this other women 100% because he still loves me. This other women and that can be you was only for fun and pass time. A married man will never love you 100% he can't he's married. I think the guy your dating is married. Check it out.
2007-02-06 10:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is cheating on you which I hope I'm wrong about or he's just a guy and doesn't realize it means so much to you. Talk to him about it. Don't accuse him of anything just ask him why he hasn't introduced you to his family and where he thinks the relationship is going?
2007-02-06 10:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Brilliant B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him about any of this? That should be your first step. Otherwise, just by hearing YOUR side of things, it sounds like he is not that into you. I was gonna say that he may be embarrassed that he's 30 something still living with mom, but you haven't even met his friends? That's a red flag...you need to talk to him and deal with that.
2007-02-06 10:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Luvly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong is that maybe he does seem embarrassed to show you 2 the world as his girlfriend..what u should do if just talk to him in a nice way and ask him why he doesn't take u anywhere or introduce you to his mom...just don't yell or anything because that might make things diffcult
2007-02-06 10:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by van_112011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think he is ashamed of his family, and why is a man in his 30s still living with his mother.
2007-02-06 10:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's never taken you to his house, how do you know he lives with his mother? I take it he just comes over for a booty call. You're better than that. Run!!! Now!!! Find someone who will appreciate you, want to be with you and want to take you places and show you off.
2007-02-06 10:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is embarressed by his family and not by you.
Maybe his mom is an old fashioned prude.
Maybe she is crazy.
Maybe he is like Norman Bates..Maybe his mother spends all day and night in a rocker by the window.
2007-02-06 10:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn;t introduce you because he is not in love with you and he has no intentions of a serious relationship.
You are only some he can use, because he have let your self be used.
Dump him.
2007-02-06 10:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he is afraid that his family would tell him he is in a ready made family or something....But that shouldn't stop him from taking you out to dine. Talk to him about your concerns.
2007-02-06 10:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Prudent World 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he is married and has kids... if he is embarrassed to be seen with you.. hes not for you.. if he loves you he will take you as you are... thats along time to be hid from his mom.. have you asked him why he wont take you to meet his mom?
2007-02-06 10:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by ~~~Buffy~~~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋