I am currently involved in a relationship with a 21 year old. I am 32 and recently seperated. At first I thought it was just for fun...hanging out and great sex. Well it ended up that we have fallen in love with each other and it has just taken a more serious turn. I know just comming out of a marriage is not the best case senario for any relationship but me and the hubby had not even been intimate in about a year so there is no residule emotions or feelings there. I guess what I'm asking is can this 11 year age diffrence really make "a difference" on whether we can have a long term viable relationship.
2007-02-06 09:57:59 · 11 answers · asked by devilishdame1974 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it depends on his maturity level and where he stands on relationships, remember he's 21 i'm sure he still would want to go out and party with his friends and have one night stands as most 21 year old guys...we 30 year olds have our minds somewhere else, you need to ask him what he expects out of the relationship...if you guys agree on that i don't see why it wouldn't work..good luck and YOU GO GIRL!!
2007-02-06 10:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Not likely...reality says that looks do play a part in a relationship. Those that are closer in age tend to get older together so the differences don't seem as obvious. But if there is an age disparity then they do become apparant and sooner than one might like. Certainly you can postpone it by staying fit, surguries etc etc etc but unless you're blessed genetically you're only postponing the inevitable. Enjoy it while it lasts!
2007-02-06 10:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by digdowndeepnseattle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people who are involved. Obviously you're not that much more mature (mentally) than him, so it will probably work for you. Just don't try to make this a final resting place for junior. I promise you he'll be done with you as soon as he gets all the experience and tricks down so he can use them on younger girls. Just enjoy the physical and emotional ride you're on right now and don't expect this to be til death do you part...11 years before him.
2007-02-06 10:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's completely up to the both of you. Age doesn't affect the lasting ability of a relationship(although many disagree). If you are both serious, mature(women mature faster than men), and willing to accept the age difference, you'll be fine.
Look at Ashton and Demi! :)
*remember-a relationship isn't about what you can TAKE, it's about what you can GIVE...
2007-02-06 10:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by dance4praise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have a similar relationship. I am coming out of a marriage also and I have recently been involved with a man who is 9 years my junior - I am 40 and he is 31. We have been together for one year and 3 months and he wants to marry me. We have had a wonderful time together, although he was in his bachelor ways of thinking and I was in my "I want to get married again and have kids" thinking for 11 months.
It actually took him one year to want to get married.I knew he was "the one" in 3 months and he thought I was "the one" in 1 year. Yes, there is hope for a long term relationship. Hang in there.
2007-02-06 10:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by hope 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you and him whether you two have any hangups about age. Also whether you two are too sensitive to other people's opinions will have an effect. Ask about children and talk about what goals you two have so you can be real with each other. Otherwise, enjoy it. Happiness is a rare commodity. Good luck.
2007-02-06 10:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by SteamboatWillie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cannot be sure about this one, as 21 is still quite young. But my Mother married someone 15yrs. younger. But she was already in her mid 40's and he was 30 something. Otherwise I don't think it matters too much....it depends greatly on each individual!! It could work out.
2007-02-06 10:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Yvonne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this sort of thing happened to me. i was 29 and he was 22. it was a great physical relationship and i fell in love with him. however, his idea of a relationship and mine were totally different. i assume it was because of our age difference. if your guy is emotionally mature, i say it can work out. good luck!
2007-02-06 10:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age shouldn't matter. It all depends on how the two people connect
2007-02-06 10:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what the younger person is looking for. I have seen mature young men and old immature men. so be careful and talk about what you are looking for
2007-02-06 10:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋