My fiancee and i have both been baptized and made all of our sacrament s and i have attending churhc every sunday until i was in tenth grade. i have gone to church in about 6 years. Will a catholic priest still agree to marry use even if we haven't attend church in awhile. the other problem is that i am living out of town from the chuch that we are getting married at so even if i am required to start goign to church there i can't. will he agree to marry us anyways.. does anyone has experience with this. pleae help. by the way it is a catholic church
2007-02-06 09:47:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I hadn't gone to church in years, but my fiance and I also wanted to have a Catholic wedding. Plus, I wanted to get married in the church where I recieved first communion and got my confirmation, but have since moved out of the town where this church is located. When we met with the Pastor at this church he said he'll marry us eventhough we live in a different town BUT we would have to attend church there weekly. He stated he didn't want to be like a Vegas priest who marries a couple he doesn't know and never sees. So for the past year and half, we have made the sacrifice and drove the extra 25 minutes to attend church weekly at my old neighborhood. Now, he's all set to marry us on May 5th 2007 (Cinco De Mayo!!).
Because, you're from out of town, they'll have no witness or record if you've been attending church anywhere else or not. You don't even have to mention you haven't attended church in awhile. Even then, they'll just probably request...I mean pretty much demand in a polite way that you start attending again. You won't have an issue with that, but being out of town may be a problem. If we were not capable of becoming regular Parishoners at this church, our priest would not have agreed to marry us. And he does look for us. If we miss church two weeks in a row cause of overtime at work or something, he'll call us to see what's going on. You'll definitely have to set an appointment to meet with the priest and see if something can be worked out. It's the only way you'll know for sure. But get this concern out of the way as soon as possible cause there will be plenty more to worry about in your upcoming stages of wedding planning. Good luck!
2007-02-06 10:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by MTrance19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually, a couple should get married at the parish where either the bride, groom, or either's parents regularly attend mass.
Most parishes require at least a 6 month advance notice, and the couple is required to attend a marriage preparation course, which is usually about four class sessions, each about an hour long.
The priest will require you to go to confession. Also, if either of you have ever been married (civilly or in any religion), you cannot get married in the Catholic Church unless your marriage has been officially anulled.
The bottom line is this... start going to mass, and try to get married in a parish at which you will regularly attend mass. If you do not plan on being a practicing Catholic, then there is no point in receiving the Sacrament of Marriage in a Catholic Church.
2007-02-06 10:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter which Catholic Church you attend mass at as long as you and your fiancee are going on a weekly basis.
You are supposed to attend mass once a week. If you don't start attending mass, the priest might object to marrying you.
Marriage is a Holy Sacrament. You and your fiancee need to sho that you understand the gravity of this sacrament, and that you care about your faith and the Church. Having not attended mass in six years won't impress the priest. Returning to active membership in the Church will impress the priest.
2007-02-07 00:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Daver 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a convert, although not a recent one. I was drawn to the Church by the beauty of the Mass, the sense of community, and most of all, by the Eucharist. I was originally a Methodist, but I never found the peace that comes with the Presence of Christ. All that changed when I joined the Church and received our Lord in the Sacrament of the Eucharist for the first time. I love being a part of a chain of believers that stretches all the way back to the days of Christ and His apostles. Mass is beautiful -- far more so than any other church that I've ever attended. But the Eucharist was and still is the center of my life as a Catholic Christian.
2016-05-24 00:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to go see the priest and get information from him. I'm wondering why you want to get married Catholic if you are not a practicing Catholic - that is odd.
You would have to take studies, and classes, give proof of your sacraments, etc. You have to agree to raise the children in the Catholic Faith - and you and your guy have to seriously decide if you will really DO this, because it is important and not nice to make a sham of it.
2007-02-06 11:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here it is you will still have to take the classes in your home town and then set a meeting in the church of your choice but give your self at least 9 months and start to go to church nowwwwww
2007-02-06 11:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys have to go through your pre-cana/pre-matrimony thrugh the church. This can take anywhere from weeks to months (my church is 6 months). Just call the church you are getting hitched at and tell them :)
2007-02-06 09:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to take a marriage preparation course, we had to!
I hate to get an annullment tommorow however, some people are not compatible. I married a non-catholic
2007-02-06 09:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to ask the church. most catholic priests require pre-cana.
2007-02-06 10:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋