How would you handle a mother who complains about how you raise your child?

Answer 1

You don't need to confront her or argue with her - especially in front of your children. Your best bet is to listen carefully to what she has to say, agree with whatever you really do agree with, and ignore the rest. Just don't allow this to become a big deal; you really do have a choice in how you react to this situation.

My mom had some good suggestions and I did follow them. However, some of her ideas made me uncomfortable - so I ignored them and, at the same time, noted to her the ones I was following, which pleased her without my giving up my own way of childraising. After all, she did raise me - and I turned out to be a pretty good mother.

Answer 2

The others who have made comments about your Mom and telling her to butt out, is the wrong thing to say or do You haven't given much information or an example as to why you think your Mom should butt out concerning the raising of your child. My brother and his wife has made serious mistakes dealing with their children, so I thank God that my Mom did speak up concerning my nephew and niece. My niece had a stuttering problem, that was attributed to my brother and his wife arguing in front of her. My mother had to stepped in for the sake of her grandchild. If you are basically a good mother and are raising your child in a pretty good and healthy environment, I would suggest that you set your mother aside and explain to her the way you want to raise your child. And then add, that no ones perfect and there are times your decisions may not always be the correct one but you would do your best you can. I also would suggest that you should still listen to your Mom but if you feel her suggestions are not the best ones, then simply ignore them.

Answer 3

Tell her she had her chance with her own children, but your children are your responsibility and frankly, how you raise them is none of her business. If you don't want to get into a fight with her, just ignore her. If it's hard for you to ignore her, don't discuss anything about your child with her, wether it's about health, education, anything. If all else fails, limit the time your mother spends with your child until she gets the message. The less she sees your child, the less she knows anything to complain about.

Answer 4

If at all possible, I would stay away from her.

People have different ideas about the "right" ways to raise a child. There is not only one "right" way. Maybe you should get a book out on child-rearing and check out if your way (or her way), or both, are mentioned.

Answer 5

You need to firmly, politely, and specifically set your boundaries. "Mother, I love you. I appreciate all the love you have poured into my life. Now it is my turn to raise my kids. I love you but if you complain over the phone, I will hang up. I love you, but if you complain while visiting, I will ask you to leave our home. If we are at your house, we will leave."
Then stick to it - my guess 10 times will turn the trick if you are consistent.

Answer 6

Complain back to her about the way I was raised.

Answer 7

The best way to handle your mother is just to listen to what she has to say, but don't say anything back. Just tell her that you understand what ever it is she's tryin' to say. And tell her thank you helpin' you and that you love her. Eventually, she'll get over it. But just remember that the only reason she nags is be because she just wants the best for her grandbabies.

Answer 8

It's very difficult to deal with confrontational people like that. First of all it is extremely rude of her to do this. I am afraid you are going to have to get in her face and be firm by telling her to mind her own business. It will hurt, but you have to think of you and your child first.

Answer 9

tell her she had her chance to raise a kid now it your turn to raise your child. tell her her mother probably didn't agree on the way she was raising her kids either but we all have our turns.

Answer 10

don't go around her if she can't deal with the way you raise your child.she need to no the that,that yours and nobody else so deal or move the hell on.