I have a 4.5 year old male Bichon and a 4 month old female Lasapoo. They've been together now for 2 months but they still don't seem to get along that well. I make them do everything together but every time the puppy wants to just sit beside the bichon, he growls. He hates it when she comes near him but it's ok for him to come sniff her. I can tell she loves him a lot, always wants to play and when they sleep she wants to be near him but he prefers not to be. He usually sleeps with me on the bed, but since the puppy has learned to jump on the bed too, my bichon wants nothing to do with her and will sleep on the floor facing the wall. What should I do?
2007-02-06 09:37:03 · 17 answers · asked by princessk 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
If they fight then i'm sure they'll have their problems.
2007-02-06 09:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by angelsloveslight 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like to me that eventually your male will get along with the pup. Don't forget tho that he was the first one in the house. He might be going through some emotional things right now with the little one in the house. I would have to say this. Try to just spend a little time with your male as much as you can. Take him for a walk, just you and him. Give him some extra attention and love, with out puppy being around. He might feel like you don't love him any more since the new one came along. As long as he isn't going after the baby or attacking her. I really don't see any thing happening as far as him hurting her. I would say since you had her in the house this long and he hasn't really harmed her. It should be getting better soon. Adjustment is hard for any one, especially pets. When only 1 pet has been the center of attention for such a long time as your dog. It's hard for him to accept the new one. Let him know that you still love him and that he will always be your baby. As far as the sleeping arrangements go. Well, again he's feeling left out :( poor guy. All I can tell you is if you think you could put the baby in another room at night and let your male be in the room with you. That might help too. It's your decision tho. Hope this helps you out. It sounds like they will be ok with each other. You are doing great on giving them a good home.
2007-02-06 17:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened with my dogs; still does, but much less now. One is a shiba inu, male, the other is an akita inu, female. We actually have three dogs, two are female akitas. One, Luna, loves to play with Doc, the shiba, the other, Sole', only wants to play with him on her time. When Doc came to our house as a 7 week old pup, Sole' tried to eat him, really.......well it seemed like it. It was very scary. It has been two years since then and things have gotten so much better. She still growls at him from time to time....usually a few times a day, but wouldn't hurt him. I think she has grown to love him, very much! They do play together, when she wants to, and even some times when he's agging her on. Egging or Agging? Is that the right word, haha? When she does get growley we say her name in a strict but quiet voice, and she'll stop after we have done that twice, or will get up and walk away. I would give it time with your two dogs. But remember that, dogs are like humans, in that, not everyone likes each other. And I'm sorry if you are feeling bad when your bichon won't sleep with you, I know I feel that way when Sole' will leave the room if Doc is bugging her too much. Good luck with them!
2007-02-06 17:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal but not desirable. Your male is taking the role of the dominant dog and your new dog is being the submissive #2 dog. There is nothing you can do about the pack order - your older dog will always be top dog. The larger problem is that the older dog does not seem well socialized with other dogs and after two months has not accepted your new dog and is acting out with his behavior. You may not be able to fix this at age 4.5 years unfortunately - socialization has to happen at puppyhood and he may now be happier as an only dog.
2007-02-06 17:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Bichon is super jealous..............just try to lavish some extra attention on him so that he does not feel you are replacing him, he has been king for a long time and now he feels like you are bringing in this new dog...........Try to lavish a bit of EXTRA attention on the original dog to make him feel OK about the new puppy ......... the new puppy won't really notice as I'm sure she gets enough attention.
Good luck, they should be OK in time. Are you having any issues with the bichon pooping/peeing in inappropriate places? This can be an act of defiance too.
2007-02-06 17:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Avon Lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't force the issue. I'm sure your Bichon isn't impressed at how you "make them do everything together". Dogs don't like to be pushed into anything. Keep them separate. Let the puppy visit the older dog but don't force it. Give your older dog a break. Puppies are rather annoying to adult dogs. Your older dog needs more attention to reassure him that he hasn't lost favour in your eyes. He needs to be reminded that he's still loved.
2007-02-06 19:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by heathen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what happen dont let any of them sleep on the bed , the older or the bigger dog usually make his point that " i am the boss " so dont worry about the way they play as long as there is no crying , i dont think that he does not like it when she comes near him , the age different is really big so you might need to take them out and socialize with other dogs , buy them alot of chewing toys and chewing food and the bite going to be softer ,, if you dont know anyone with dogs then you should look online for social classes ,,
the younger one still not adult so she still wants to run around and explore the world , and the older one is adult and proberly just wants to chill out ,,
2007-02-06 17:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Spicatt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to give them time to get the pecking order between them down. That is something they are going to have to work out between them.
By the way most adult male dogs don't like playing with puppies unless they are real young also which your Bichon isn't.
2007-02-06 17:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called jealousy. But just keep an eye on him so he doesn't whip the puppies butt. He may very well do this if given the opportunity. But over time he may except the puppy. I own five dogs and have a slightly similar problem. Not an issue with me as I just keep my problem dog/s separate.
2007-02-06 17:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your Bichon is "top dog" and has been for over 4 years. He has been your "baby" and now you bring in "her"......lol She will learn to leave him alone. Just make sure you give equal amounts of one-on-one time with each dog.
2007-02-06 17:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by vomdeitrichgiants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is normal. they are jealous of each other. the older dog is used to just being them in your life and the puppy comes. Let them just spend some time together and see what happens. or take the older dog out for a walk just you and him and then take the puppy out just you and him.
2007-02-06 17:49:33 · answer #11 · answered by Theresa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋