I was moving from MA to MN and wanted to find a new home for Chloe my cat. My ex wanted to keep Chloe so she wouldn't have to go to a strange place. Six months later Chloe is acting up with Luke, the 15 year old cat that is my ex's. Chloe was brought to the vet for tests to see what is wrong with her. (she is two now)
My ex wants me to give *courtesy* money for the vet bill. Any amount of the $170 I want to pay. What do you say I should do? I feel the ex is not going to put this toward the vet and let that bill go for now. She doesn't have a lot of money but shops on ebay for posters and t-shirts from her favorite singer. I believe that is where the money will go to. What do you think? I never would have brought Chloe to the vet for doing what 2 year old cats do.
2007-02-06 09:35:15 · 18 answers · asked by Diana 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
You are absolutely NOT obligated to pay Chloe's vet bill. You gave up ownership of Chloe. Your ex assumed all responsibility for Chloe when she insisted on keeping her to prevent her from going to a "strange place". If it was up to you, Chloe would have a whole new family -- who would be responsible her vet bills. Chloe is no longer your cat so you are in NO WAY responsible for her care. Your ex is her sole provider and therefore solely responsible for her well-being -- which includes her healthcare and all resulting bills.
Your ex must think you are some kind of fool. "Courtesy money?" Ha! Nice try.
2007-02-06 09:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by bloodycorinne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, considering I too am an ex, there are a couple of options:
1. If you feel your ex will not put forward any $ that you may wish to contribute and you really do want to contribute to the vet bill and there is a current balance for treatmen, then I would send a check directly to the vet for whatever amount that you choose. Ask your ex for the name and mailing information.
2. If you do not wish to contribute to the vet bills now or in the future then I would (in a nice way of course) tell your ex that the cats medical expenses are no longer yours since she opted to take responsibility for Chloe.
Good Luck it is a tough spot to be in a few years ago I was an ex with 5 pets here and three pets there! However, I worked at a vet and chose the medical responsibility myself.
2007-02-06 10:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be like adopting a dog from a shelter and asking the original owners to pay your bills. it doesn't make sense. she wanted the cat, she got the cat, she got the responsibilities of owning a cat. You gave your cat away, therefore you reliquished all rights as a pet owner. You owe her nothing. It almost sounds like she's just trying to get back in contact with you. Don't give in. And, if you feel you need to pay something, then do like the other poster said and send a money order for part of the amount to the vet directly. that way, she's not spending the money and not taking care of the cat.
good luck!
if you feel obligated to send something, send a note with a penny taped to it. lol good luck!
2007-02-06 10:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Silver Thunderbird 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I probably would get the name of the veterinary office and make some sort of payment to them on Chloe's vet bill. That should be the end of your reponsibility as far as your wife and the cat are concerned.
You might consider getting the cat from your wife if she and the other cat are not getting along. That way you will always know she is being properly taken care of.
2007-02-06 11:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cat is considered to be an object. You give it away, it is no longer yours. Whoever hat is now can do whatever they want to do with it, including take it to the vet and pay their OWN bill.
2007-02-06 09:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by robert43041 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that you should have to pay the vet bill after that long of a time..Its your ex responsibility now that is theirs..
2007-02-06 09:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"She came unannounced with the dog and for the first time ever, she walked in with her dog on a leash at ground level. Our dog immidiately ran over and attacked her puppy. " So the ex did NOT shove her dog in the pit's face, the pit RAN OVER AND ATTACKED a leashed dog. Unprovoked. Actually, the person on the hook for the vet bill is your mother in law. She had care and custody of your dog, so it happened under her watch. A judge *might* find you partially responsible as owners of the pit. From now on keep your dog at home. Obviously your mother in law has NO control over it, and you have proved time and again that you are unable to stop the stupid ex from shoving her dog in your dog's face. How many warnings do YOU need? This incident was entirely preventable. EDIT: "1) She did not have permission to enter the home" Where does the Asker say that? Many people allow friends or relatives to come in unannounced, meaning they have a standing invitation. Either the ex-wife has a key, or the door was unlocked. EDIT #2: "I do not feel that our dog should be left at home and never get to be taken anywhere" No one said not to take your dog anywhere. Just don't leave it unsupervised at your mother-in-law's since you KNOW the ex visits with a dog that your dog hates. That was an accident waiting to happen. "I dont think it is fair to exclude our dog from her house completely while the ex's dog is welcome over whenever." Did your mother in law tell the ex she was forbidden to bring her dog over? Because unless she did, your MIL is responsible for what happened in her house. And whether you think it is fair or not, you are now on notice that your dog will attack the other dog if he gets the chance. If ex doesn't have a key, keep the doors locked when you are there so you have a chance to control the situation. If ex does have a key, continuing to take your dog over there would be risking another attack. And really, it is up to your mother in law to decide which, if either, dog is allowed on her premises again. "I said very clearly," and from the time that she first started bringing her dog over to my mother-in-laws house she has literally shoved her puppy in our dogs face". I understand that there is alot to read here but please read carefully before you decide to start lecturing me that she DID NOT do that. " I'm not sure if that is directed at me...if it is, then I simply copied YOUR OWN WORDS (first sentence in my response) that your dog RAN OVER and attacked. There is no way your ex could have shoved her dog in your dog's face if he had to run over to make contact.
2016-05-24 00:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your "ex" accepted ownership of the cat she accepted all the consequences of being a pet owner. Such as vet bills.
2007-02-06 09:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
go with her to the vet , or give her the address and let her as the vet to send the bill to you , or you could write a check to the vet's and it's name and make sure that the vet only the one who going to use it , but in anyway you really dont have to do that , she is the one who should be paying for it
2007-02-06 09:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Spicatt 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
well i think a person has to do what they feel. Me i gotta do the right thing so id pay half the bill and send it to the vet do it in a money order and put his name and address on it the reason they might want you to pay the remainder so now yu have done your part you side of the street is clean what he does is his business.
2007-02-06 09:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by bone g 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋