My 16 year old left home ,can i change her school?

Question

the school says she falls into homeless act, she went to live with grandparents in a diff town but doesn,t like there h.s., we live in bedford massachusettes and believe that there wrong, she is not homeless,just doesn,t like our rules. I,ve had several talks with school officials and went and discharged her but my parents went and enrolled her right back. I have sole custody but she doesn,t want to live here because we are too strick. Her grandparent are not willing to work with me they feel we are too strick also. hope to find some help

I shiould not of used the word strick, we let her do her own thing while she was here,the one thing I was strick on was her lying to me, currently her father is in arreage of 87,000 dollars in child support and he walked away almost 11 years ago I am cuurently trying to find him and can not, but my parents have been letting him see her for the past 5 years without my knowledge, allhtough I have had a feeling, and she has been lying to me there was a restraining order against him as well, my parents are to blame also, but they have always been difficult, with just this one of my children . I guess I should of told a little more of background, so instead of dealing with me she went there and the change of schools comes along with the only I can do to try to let her know that there is a consequence to everything in life, and maybee if she wasn,t handed everthing to her she would be able to figure it out. but my parents went to the school and got her back where she wanted .

Answer 1

If you have sole custody of your child - and she is your CHILD, no matter how old she is - you'll need to have your lawyer become involved in this. Your parents do not have a legal right to enroll your child anywhere - or to offer her a home without your legal permission. Let your lawyer clear up this mess, and please follow his/her directions to the letter, including family therapy as needed.

This is about your child's safety and her future - and only you can ensure that both are handled well. Focus on what she needs, supply it, and love her the way only a mother can.

Answer 2

Ahh... This is a Hard one... Well, i would say to my parents, "My child is my Responsibility and I choose what school she goes to and where she lives" Because it's true you do have sole custudy.
And really every parents are supose to be Stricked... My parents were very stricked with me and look where it got me, I make good grades because I know if I didn't I would get beaten... And really if she is ill about you telling her not or yes to go somewhere, Just tell her that you don't want her to get hurt or with the wrong crew, then she might understand why your doing it, But if she thinks your to stricked, then I think you may be able to get more like less stricked so she will be nice and everything. (only a little more less stricked, not much because they will take advantage of it)... But will really help if you go up there and have a LONG chat with her. Really hope it works out!!!

Answer 3

Let her stay in the school she wants to be at, why do you care so much what school she attends as long as she is getting an education? And if your own parents are telling you that you are too strict maybe you should step back and analyze your situation, chances are you could ease up a bit. There are limits on how strict to be on a child. I'm not saying she should be able to do as she pleases but I have seen horrible affects on children whose parents were way too strict in high school...they rebel like crazy and end up worse than those children who had parents who let the rope slide a little here and there.

Answer 4

How much time are you and your wife and Amy's biological father spending with her? It sounds like she needs a lot more parental involvement even if she is difficult to deal with. Do you and your wife get along with her father? If so, maybe all of you could do something with her so she has her whole family around her. I think that many times when kids act out like this it is because they are not getting enough positive family involvement in their lives. Not to say that she won't act like she hates it, but you may give it a try. Take every opportunity to find positive things to say to her and involve her friends in some of the activites that you all do together. If her friends see how positive and loving you and yoru wife and her father are, then they will emphasize that with your daughter. I would not buy her another car if she was at fault for this accident. Instead I would drive her everywhere she wants to go.

Answer 5

i think you should think what's best for your daughter and if she doesn't feel comfortable with your rules and same with her grandparets (i'm not sure if they're your parents or your husband's) so if the grandparents and you daughter believe that you are too stricked then maybe you should leave the decisions with them, but don't try to exclude them from your life, try to make things better with your daughter if she is mad at you.

Answer 6

Unless you gain your daughters cooperation there is not much you can do, you could be in for much worse trying to force her to be where she does not want to be. She may evne fail school on purpose. She's not a child and you must respect her wishes.

Answer 7

hate to say it she has to go to school where she lives and i hate to say it but she needs to live with her choice and if that means a new school so be it.. she is acting like a spoil brat and your letting her.. you need to talk to the grand parents too they seem to be getting in the way of your parenting. you need to talk to social serves to see what you can do to get your daughter back home and work on your relationship....