To refer to my step mom as STEP MOM when someone asks? When she refers to me as her own daughter! See we're very close and I love her just as if she were my own mom. I have just never really thought to call her mom! I know my mom wouldn't care a bit. What should I call her when I refer to her?
2007-02-06 09:28:44 · 16 answers · asked by Nacole 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You see we my dad and my step mom/2nd mom live a few states away from one another, and we talk on the phone almost every night. I tell her all my problems I mean she is like my MOM, but when Im speaking directly to her I call her by her first name which she doesnt mind a bit, but I quess what Im trying to ask is that If Im with her and Im introducing my dad and my little brothers and sisters (which are my step brother and sisters but I dont ever call them that and to them Im their older sister) What do I refer to my step mom as??? If she is introducing me she alway refers to me as her daughter! Maybe I should just let it be!!!
2007-02-08 09:41:52 · update #1
It is entirely up to you and what you are comfortable with whether you call her mother or step-mother. And since you two are close, I am certain she would be understanding of your decision either way. It's wonderful to hear from someone else who can say that not all step-mothers are evil!
2007-02-06 11:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when someone asks, it is probably because they are confused about her not looking the same as the last time they saw your "mom", or the story you have told doesn't match something, so it is OK for clarification sake to call her that. I think that you ought to sit down with her and ask how she would like to be introduced to your friends, maybe "my 2nd mom" or some other endearing name. It makes me wonder how you refer to her at home.
My stepsons lived with us, and their dad worked 10-12 hours days, so I was the parent they spent the most time with. They asked if they could call me mom, but I recommended they do their best not to refer to me that way when they were with their mother. Call me by my name. I know they slipped some because she would get mad, but I WAS their mom for 12 days out of every 14 and they chose to call me that. I think they felt uncomfortable calling me by name to my face because they were only 6 and 10 when we married.
You are lucky to have such a good relationship, as I did with one of the boys but not the other, and still do 10 years after the divorce.
2007-02-06 17:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just call her whatever you feel comfortable with. You do have your own mom and so she can't be replaced. I always refer her to others as my step mom, because my father's wife sounds to impersonal.
When I approach her I call her on her first name and she is fine with that.
2007-02-06 17:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is difficult in many families, but I think you should refer to her as whatever makes you feel comfortable. I have a friend who loves her mother-in-law, but doesn't want to call her "Mom" because that name is only for her real mother. Perhaps you feel the same way. If you feel that it's a concern for your stepmother, you could talk to her and explain your feelings so she won't be offended. But I personally think that your way of doing things sounds fine.
2007-02-07 02:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a step-mom, I don't see that as rude as all. My step-daughter calls me by my first name and introduces me as her S'Mom, and I introduce her as my S'Kid. You just work with what you are comfortable with.
2007-02-06 18:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Suzanne D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with referring or introducing your stepmom as STEP MOM because technically that is what she is. I have a stepmom too who I love with all my heart and I call her by her name. She loves me as her own and that is all that should matter.
2007-02-06 18:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by ginluvsrob06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are speaking to her call her mom
When you are speaking to others refer to her as your step mom so they know what the relationship is.
The most important thing to remember about manners is to always do what will make other person feel the most comfortable.
2007-02-06 18:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by edoubleyou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have a close relationship with your Stepmom and it would seem seem you are both comfortable with that title in terms of reference so not really an issue for you or her.
You have said your own mother does not care so good for you for having solid relationships with your Mom and your Stepmom!
2007-02-06 18:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was married twice. Me and one of my sisters were from hubby #1,and two brothers and my other sis were from hubby #2. Whenever people ask why we have different last names we simply say we're still brothers and sisters. We don't use"step" around here.
2007-02-06 20:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're speaking to someone else about her say "mom" but if the conversation keeps going if you'd like drop in "she's my step mom, but i feel as if she's my mom", but it's really whatever you feel comfortable with.
2007-02-06 19:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by leroy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋