will i be cheating?

Question

if anyone that has answered previous questions of mine will know what i am talking about.(well if they read the questions properly and carefully)
my boyfriend died a few years ago.i have not been with anyone since,should i move on?wont i be unfaithful if i dated someone else?
would he forgive me if i was to date again?should i let him go?

Answer 1

only you know the answer.... are you ready to move on?

Answer 2

you know the answer to this.

he died. i don't think he'd be happy if you behaved like you didn't have a life. that's guilt and it's an unproductive thing to have right now.

of course you should move on.

he is a part of you already so even when you do move on, you won't be leaving him behind because you still have him in the most important ways, nothing will undo the influence he's had over you and the person you were when you were together and that's exactly what you'll be taking with you in your journey into your future.

he doesn't need to forgive you for anything. he would celebrate yoru new found happiness, and even if he was the kind of guy that wouldn't, i'm sure he'd understand that this would be the right, proper and natural course of events for you.


all the best

Answer 3

Yes, you can or should date someone else. No you are NOT cheating. Yes you should move on. You are not being unfaithful. And if your boyfriend loved you as I am sure he did he would want you to move on. You have mourned him for some time now and it is time to move on. You may not ever forget him, but as time passes you will be able to deal with it easier.
I also lost a loved one in 1998. I still miss this person so very much and I do from time to time reflect on my life with this person. I think it is normal and I do not have a problem with this. Good Luck, and I am so very sorry for your lose.

Answer 4

Oh huni,you`ve got to move on.No you`d not be being unfaithful,i don`t think he`d want you being on your own for the rest of your life so there`s nothing to forgive,i think you`ve probably had enough of it to,without sounding harsh here,just because your alive doesn`t mean you can`t be happy,you can`t just stop living,you need to go on and find happiness for yourself as i`m sure you deserve it after what you`ve been through.

For your own sanity then yes you need to let him go as you cant go on living in the past,you will always have him in heart and have your memories and nothing will change that,i wish you luck,xx

Answer 5

To answer your question......Yes u need to move on.You cant quit living living ur life because he died. You can still be sad, and no one said u have to move on just yet.Just take a little time to realize that it is time to move on with your life. And when u do get a new boyfriend, explain to him the situation, so that he will understand what pain u are going through.I am sooooo sorry about you loss, but i am sure that he would want you to be happy.

Much Love*

Answer 6

If your boyfriend is no longer living, you can date whenever you are ready. I am sure you loved him and he loved you. That being the case, I'm sure he wouldn't want you to put your life on hold. He's not coming back. It is time to move on. Go to grief counseling. Even if you were married, it is until death do you part, which means after death you can date or remarry and it's not being unfaithful.

Answer 7

let him go the other man is dead i'm sorry 2 tell u but just move on imagine if he would still b alive u probably would have broken up eventually and u really cant b unfaithful cuz hes not living now so move on u cant let ur past in the way of ur future!!

Answer 8

,I have not read your questions before, as I have only just joined this site.
Bereavement is the hardest set of emotions to deal with. Please do not feel guilty about wanting to move on. You are in this living and you have your life to lead, hopefully you will find happiness again. You are being faithful to his memory, he is no longer here to be faithful in the physical form. I am sure that he would not want you to suffer or deprive yourself of being close and loved by someone. He would certainly want that for you. Think about it, if you really loved someone, all you would want in your heart, is for that person to be happy. Move on Honey, keep him locked in your heart and you always have those special memories. Un- hook yourself and find someone who Will soothe your hurt and pain away. He will not hate your for it, but only love and guide you.
Let go and enjoy your life. All the best to you.

Answer 9

I think that your boyfriend would probably want to see you happy. It is better to loved and lossed, than to not love at all. I don't think that you would be unfaithful, just remember to take it slow and if it doesn't feel right, then maybe you're not ready. You don't have to let him go, because he'll always be with you through the moments and memories that you shared with him. I think that you have grieved long enough.

Answer 10

You cant live the rest of your life feeling guilty. You have to move on and not feel bad about that.

It is not cheating, he would want you to be happy I am sure of that. You deserve to be happy and to be loved whatever has happened in the past , you get to keep your special memories of him after all.

But by not moving on those special memories will fade and you will live your life regretting things instead.

Be strong, cause I guess it wont be easy at first but in time you will realise that you gotta move forward and not keep looking back.

Answer 11

A lot of people on here will know the pain of loss. Fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters and partners. We all wonder what they would think, what they would do. In tradition the length of mourning for a woman was a year and a day, mourning longer brought some rather unpleasant folk stories of the spirit of the deceased being unable to rest. You must carry on with your life...I lost my father when I was 14, and it hurt like a *****, but now I think of him as a source of energy in me. I am a pagan by choice, but I still believe that he will guide you to your next love...and he'll do it smiling.

Blessed be. (Hope this Helps!)