I hurt my boyfriend but we are still together (incredibly long story not the point of my question). This didn't happen too recently so time has already started passing. We are back to "normal" in the way we talk and act but there is still some distrust I think. (like 90% instead of 100%) which is understandable even after this long. So, what can I do to help him trust me again? It may only need more time but is there anything I can do to help also? I'm wanting more actions then talking to him (we've already done that a bunch.) If you don't think there is anything but time or talking just tell me that too. Creativity would be appreciated. Thanks
2007-02-06 09:10:29 · 7 answers · asked by Amanda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
o.k amanda when you hurt a guy it takes a long time for them to for give you .because when i cheated on my fiance it took him a while to for give me i dont know what you did. what i did to help the process was i always told him i love him and did stuff for like cooked and small things just to prove to him that i did loved him just make him feel special you know do small things for him and little bye little you will get his trust back and dont lie to him that will also help. i hope everything will be o.k good luck.
2007-02-06 09:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Cassie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a hard thing when it's been abused. Time is the only thing that can help. And even then, sometimes no amount of time will heal whatever wrong you did -- and that's just a fact. You'll have to demonstrate that whatever happened to violate his trust will never happen again. And you'll have to show concrete ways in which you're making sure it will never happen again. Without knowing what it was, it's hard to give you ideas though.
2007-02-06 17:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Yamson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is one of those funny things that are just hard to get back. I don't think it ever really comes back fully. Sure we learn to kinda trust again and we may forgive but getting the trust back all the way may never happen. Always in the back of our minds i the well they did it that one time 20 years ago so why can't it happen again?
2007-02-06 17:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cameron G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty the only thing you can do is be faithful and don't do anything that will make him think that you are not trustworthy, plus time things should get better. When you hurt someone, depending on that person, it takes time and they watch and listen to everything.
2007-02-06 17:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do to him that he still doesnt trust you after this much time?
2007-02-06 17:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cool_Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time can tell. just let him know that you're there for him. he'll move on when he's ready
2007-02-06 17:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time..thats all.
2007-02-06 17:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋