Anyone feel the same?

Question

I was born from a one night stand that makes me feel worthless and that no one really wanted me it just happened.I don't know my dada but I do know he doesn't care about me but he does care about my half sister which hurts so much.I have only seen him twice in my life.I feel that Iam a burden to my mum,I make her life hard,Iam a hassle (shes disabled and has had financial problem and a nervous breakdown because of me).She shouldn't of had me.Does anyone understand?Does anyone feel worthless and that they shouldn't be here??

Answer 1

Who cares where you came from. It's where you're going that's important. Your make your own destiny.

Answer 2

Your "worth" has nothing to do with where you came from or who your parents are.

Or what the color of your skin is. Or how much money you have in the bank. Or how many talents and gifts and special abilities you do or don't have.

Your worth - if you want to use that word - is what you make of what you've got. You have as much right to be on this earth as any other person who is here. What you contribute - what you do - what you make of your life and your time - that's your call.

You may never be famous - but you can change lives. You may never be rich - but you can ease the suffering of others. You may never see your face on the cover of a magazine, but you might be the inspiration for someone else.

There is only one day when your "worth" can be assessed, and that is the day after you day. And others will do that. While you're here, enjoy and spread the great riches that there are to be found in life. You can't change the past - you CAN create the future.

Answer 3

Why do you make your mother's life hard? If your mother is diabled and has financial problems, you should be helping her all you can. I'm sorry that your father is not around for you but he will discover some day that it is his loss. At least you have a mother who obviously care about you if she is having a nervous breakdown because of you. If she didnt care; it wouldn't affect her at all. Your not worthless. Your life is worth a lot and you are here for a reason; you just have to find out what that reason is and make every day count. You're probably young and I know life can be hard growing up. It gets better trust me. Just try to do the right thing and everything will jive together for you.

Answer 4

Make your own path. Richard Pryor was born in a brothel to a prostitute and didn't know who his Dad was. I have not seen my real father since I was 10 years old and am now 47 - but I am a successful businessman with two great kids. Don't ever think you are not good enough. Life is what we make it. Financial problems and nervous breakdowns are not your fault. You are a kid. Do what is best for you. Not sure how old you are but still, you can help at home or make your own way depending on your age. You are important. make a difference and show you are worth something in this life. No one else will do it for you. You must do it for yourself. Good luck

Answer 5

Sometimes I feel like I am hurting people so much that it makes me feel like I do not belong here. I mean I have splitted people up, caused fights and disputes when all I want is to live a life that is worth living (I wasn't breaking nay laws or doing anything that was not considered normal).
Then I realise that since I have 'happened' there is nothing that I can do about it. I will have to make the best of it. If I suddenly decided to end my life, I would wonder how much my mum will be upset. She has raised me through financial troubles and all, but she has got through it; meaning that she loves me dearly and if I decided to end it, it would hurt her thousand times more than if I did.

Your dad (no offence) never asked to be in the family, and he doesn't deserve it either. Your mum, you and your sister have became stronger as a family because of it. The bond between you girls and your mum should never the be broken.

At the moment, I have always asked myself how I could make things ten times better than it is now, to stop the pain and the hurt. I kinda used my life as a way to trying to make things better for all the people around me whilst not to hurt them in any way. Your life counts as much; you can find ways of helping your mum and your sister to have better lives and live more happily. Never think yourself as a 'mistake', you are a blessing and only you can make things better than everything is at the moment. You can make more happier things happen than if you were not here.

Answer 6

OK, so you are looking to see if others feel the same, I understand the comfort in that, but hopefully that's because you have had a particularly bad day today. DONT group with others that feel negative and feel the world is cruel / unfair / against them, cos that breeds anger and resentment. Seek out inspirational people, sensitive intelligent people, who will enrich your life. It is a wise admirable person who asks for help when childhood nurturing has been... lets say..scarred by one parent.
This world and what is has to offer is yours as it is mine.
Yes I understand, but don't dwell on it and let your frustrations multiply.
P.S. my mum was given away at birth and lived all her life in orphanages, she never knew a mum or dad and was never lucky enough to be adopted. She's a hero.

Answer 7

Well, half the people of the world just "happened". You have to take control of your life and be responsible, do the right things, stop putting your feelings onto your mom. She should never have told you about being a burden, etc. I just know you have to fight yourself to rise. Don't give in to the feelings of worthlessness. They are worth zero! Put one foot after the other and work yourself out of the predicament! First thing tho, is get right with God and pray that you can do the right things for yourself. God answers prayer mornings, noons and nights!

Answer 8

I have felt worthless and hopeless in the past and struggle with it sometimes to this day. The statistics prove that you are not alone, the number of people who suffer with depression is astounding. What you describe sure does sound like you're feeling depressed and reaching out is a good way to start to heal. Please check with your family physician or a counseling center close to you and start to see that how you came to be on this planet is not nearly as important as what you choose to do with your time here. Lot's of love and hope to you!

Answer 9

You have every right to be here! You obviously are a sensitive person which probably means you are a very nice and caring person too. You can bring a lot of joy and happinees to this world if you share those qualities and in doing so you may begin to realise how worthy you are. Good luck, I wish you all the best! x

Answer 10

As I hear your issue, My boyfriend is in almost the same situation, his mom goes to the hospital every other day for her kidneys, and he has no father in his life, and basically all he has is me, which he did leave to better himself as an individual. When i look at it outside of the shell, you should know you still have your mom which loves you deeply, and just look at it this way, you may have so many mixed feelings about everything but really, there is always one other person which has is harder then you, someone that may not even have their mom or dad. Life is to short to dred or even dwell. Try and be happy, life is to short to worry about everything. you are your own person.

Answer 11

Consider this, my ex wife left me to bring up my 9 years old son and one day when I was a bit down I said I wish I'd never met his mother. After a thought I said but if I hadn't I wouldn't have had you. His words to me were, dad if I was meant to be born I would have anyway. That was so deep and philosophical it brought me to tears.
Think of yourself like that, you were meant to be born and you have a purpose to fulfill, don't give up, everyone is a worthy soul and some day you will find a man that will love you for who you are.