My 12 year old daughter and my ex-wife have finally reached the point that they can't live together anymore. She is moving in with me this week, and changing schools. She is excited about this, as she has made some poor choices at her former school and has problems with a "bully bunch" of girls. What steps can i take with her to ensure she doesn't fall in with a "mischevious" crowd at her new school? I haven't been a full time dad in 4 years, and I'm very nervous.
2007-02-06 08:57:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be involved in her schooling and what's going on. Check in with her teachers from time to time- they usually have email if that's more convenient to just say hey, how's she adjusting. Teachers don't mind staying in touch with parents about their kids- they prefer it. Also, try to have her involved in after-school activities- sports, cheerleading, clubs, etc.-whatever she is intersted in. Allow her to invite her frineds over to your house (when you are home) and make sure to know who their parents are. Get in touch with their parents so you know the type of environment she is in if she goes to a friend''s house (not all parents have the same rules). Talk to her, ask her how things are going, and let her know you are there. Having a good, strong relationship is the best way to ensure she will come to you with problems and try to avoid bad situations. And remember that all schools have social workers that are good resources if you feel somethng may be going wrong. Good luck. Don't be afraid to ask for help from other parents, teachers, other school faculty, and counselors, etc. in your community. Better to have support in place than not.
2007-02-06 16:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be a tough one having a teenage daughter full time. Just make sure when you are at work she is supervised, she may think that she is going to have it easier with you. Hopefully she will meet some nice girls and not get into trouble. Have her invite her new friends over so you can get a feel for what type of girls they are. You need to be upfront with her about the rules and let her know before hand what wont be tolerated in your house. Remember you are her dad not her friend. Good luck.
2007-02-06 09:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her involved in activities on the weekend outside of school.
Dance class, music lessons, art lessons, martial arts, or a sport.
Sometimes they fall into a bad crowd because they are bored.
Stay involved and don't allow her to be secretive about how she's getting along in school.
2007-02-06 09:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysbombed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get involved with a good solid church and get her involved with some nice kids there, or she will fall back into her old habits, change the values of the kid, not just the address.
2007-02-06 09:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋