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Question

How do I get my 1 year old to stop throwing fits. Everytime I get up and walk away from her she screams. I don't know what to do. Nothing I do is working!

Answer 1

Your child is suffering from separation anxiety. It is normal and nothing to panic about. Work with your child. Get them busy doing something then step into the next room - keep talking to them and make sure they can see you. It won't be long and they will realize that mommy hasn't disappeared just because she's out of sight. It takes a bit of patience and whatever you do - do NOT rush back to you child and cuddle them when they start throwing their fit. That only reinforces the action. Just return at a normal pace, talking to them in a normal voice. Ask them "what's the matter?" "I'm right here, I haven't gone away." The length of time the child spends being anxious depends on the child's temperment and your response to their actions. Good luck.

Answer 2

Your child is probably suffering form separation anxiety. The best thing to do is to continue trying to get her to spend time away from you. I know it is hard to hear her cry for you, but it will get better for both of you. If you have a family member or friend that she likes try leaving her with that person for a half-hour, then work up to an hour (or however long you are planning to spend away). It takes time and consistency, but eventually your daughter will let you will leave the room without throwing a fit.

Answer 3

Keep walking away. She will eventually get it and stop crying to come see why mom is not coming to give her attention. Each time she throws a fit do it. if you are at a grocery store obviously you cant do that so pick her up and take he in the bathroom or out to the car. Consistency is the key.

Answer 4

Ignore her. If you give into her or even just address the fact that she is having a tantrum you are showing her that tantrums are the way to get what she wants.

If she's screaming, ignore it. Don't talk to her, don't pick her up, don't pay any attention to her little fit.

Do this each time and she will learn quickly that screaming is not the way to get what she wants. Look on the bright side: Most parents don't have to deal with this until their kids are 2 or 3..you get to nip it in the bud while she's young :-)

Answer 5

there was an article in msn about kids and how to deal with them throwing fits. You should know your child when they are throwing a fit do not try to reason with your child once they are calm talk to them nicely about how they are feeling. Let them know that you cant help them when they are crying or throwing a fit because you dont understand them. Most children start throwing fits when they are 3yrs old and its easier to deal with because they can understand more. if your child is throwing fits at this age its possible that something else might be bothering him or her. Try asking your doctor what he thinks you should do. Sometimes walking away is not an adequate response for certain personalities by this I'm not saying that if your child is crying because they want candy you should give them candy but you should try to comfort your child until they calm down and let them know why they can not have candy at the moment. i hope my information helps

Answer 6

hey take it easy, i know when you're a new mom the smallest thing sometimes irritates one, i know how it is, first you live a life just for yourself and once you have a baby and that too when she cries for no reason at all you get pestered but take it easy, do you know why your kid cries when you walk away thats because you are everything to that baby, you are that angel which god made your baby believe in, when god was sending your kid down to earth your kid was hassled but god reaasured him "baby that angel will love you more than me, she will be there for you all the time and she actually will do anything for you and will never let you be alone" trust me your baby thinks that about you. you are everything to that baby, and its all crap when people say you have a fussy baby or any nonsense no baby is fussy its just every baby loves his mother and they can't see the mom leave them even for a minute, think about this once today she is crying for you not to leave tomo she'll ask you to leave for she wants to be with her friends or alone, cherish this time whenever she cries when you walk out of the room think it's not going to last forever she'll soon out grow this and then you would want her to cry for you because your baby loves you unconditionally, well you can try few tricks that i tried with my daughter i always used to play peek-a-boo and then after 5-6 times i used to disappear, give yur kid something aboslutely new maybe a pen , pencil, any lid, napkin ring or just any random thing but a new one they will be occupied with that for atleast 5 minutes and you'll have a good chance of escaping, you also have to reassure your kid that mumma will be back in just a few minutes, if you baby is kind of insecure do not let her be alone for long,leave her in good company say with her father while you finish your chores or you can just make your baby sit with you when you work soon she'll outgrow this and she'll walk away, remember then you would want her to stay and cry because you then will know how much she loves you. don't sweat its a phase and she'll soon out grow it, you know its just the way god has created these things...mothers are so special

Answer 7

Keep walking. Do NOT give into her and she will eventually stop. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for. If you give in to her, she will continue to do it. Remember it always gets worse before getting better!

Answer 8

It could be that she is going through an attachment phase. There are several phases of attachment and they don't necessarily go from needing mom to not needing mom, it's more complicated than that. You may just have to give her time to work through this phase.

Answer 9

Ignore the fits and do not give into them

Answer 10

What you have is a spoiled child on your hands. You have to break it by not giving in to every cry.