Ladies: How critical are you in determining.....?

Question

How critical are you in determing whether a man suits your needs financially, emotionally, personally, and physically by just looking at him? Nowadays, I hear things like a well groomed, nicely dressed, and handsome man is what most women want in general. Want to comment?

And what if the man has a disability (physical or mental or hearing or blind)? What would be your initial reaction even if he was good looking, had a steady job?

Answer 1

Im fairly selective. I know people always say that its superficial to just judge people by their looks or whatever, but I think alot of those people overlook how important image is. If I was just looking for friends I wouldnt be so concerned what they look like, how much they earn etc but in a relationship since a lot of key parts are physical, you absolutely need to be attracted to the person.

Answer 2

First impressions matter and it is only visual information we have to go on to start with. How critical depends on chemistry, and connection. Disability may put some women off, and may make it more difficult to make a good first impression. However, it may be that personality makes the disability seem less apparent or important. Some people, disabled or not, do better having first got to know people of the opposite gender, at work for example. You can't really generalise, it's about attitude and open mindedness and the personality of the people involved.

Answer 3

I planned on being fairly critical. I wanted somebody who shared my religion, shared my political beliefs, had gone to college, had a good job, and was very attractive.

I ended up with an atheist anarchist who dropped out of high school, works at a deli-- but he IS very hot. And I couldn't be happier (we're getting married in July).

I love him because he's EXTREMELY intelligent, very affectionate, loyal, articulate.. we fit together. So I think the answer is that a lot of women have ideas about what they want, but if you make a connection, I think (I hope) that a lot of people are smart enough to realize that they were wrong about what was important.

I do think, though, that a lot of women kind of automatically "pre-screen" guys based on hygiene, the amount of effort you put into your appearance, and whether or not you're obnoxious or rude in initial conversations. So even though you can find somebody who loves you and wants to be with you without some of the above qualities, it'll be a lot more difficult to meet different women if you give an automatic negative impression.

Answer 4

my boyfriend is 12 years older than me. he does not shave regularly and he works in construction. so needless to say when i met him he was in work clothes and had not shaved in a few days. and he is italian with black hair so it was noticable. his fashion sense is not quite what my "age group" is wearing but i think he dresses very hot and manly. because he works in the building and construction business he is never gaurenteed work.

on top of this he has an incurable eye condition where he is almost gaurenteed to go totally blind. probably within the next ten years without expensive treatment. he is already 100% blind in his left eye.

but I adore him, even though i knew all this when i met him. he still wants to live life and have kids and get married and all that. but when i met him i didn't care about his nationality, of the way he dressed, or how much cash he had in his pocket. all i cared about what that he was a nice guy with ambition to keep going despite what life has thrown at him. he is amazing to my son and will make a phenomenal father to the children i hope we will someday have. he has his moments but noone is perfect. many people want their significant other to be PERFECT. but nobody is, not even me. not even the damn pope.

so why are people so critical and anal about thier men when it comes to appearance and money and health? and we wonder why all the good ones get overlooked.

Answer 5

For me, I look mostly for a good personality. Someone who is warm, smart, and a good sense of humour. Looks count for sure. Clean, neat, a sense of style are all important. A great smile...teeth that are looked after...thats really important!
As far as a disability is concerned...well..ofcourse it is a consideration. How will it effect our lives together? How will it effect children...housing etc. But, if everything "fits"...if we are compatable, and there is little to worry about around the disability ...I say "why not!" As I get older, I think less about looks and things the person "cant do"...and look at the person inside...and what they can do. :)

Answer 6

i wouldnt date a man with a disability. because it wouldnt be in my nature to take care of a man. i wont take care of an able bodied man either. i would stay clear of relationships that would require me to be a caretaker. i have four children, i dont need another. and so far men are very "manly" and clean when you meet but then become messy wittle boys after some time together. and i am not suited, as you say, to those kind of men. a dirty unclean man is just a sign of NO self love. he doesnt love himself enough to clean his cracks n crevices then he wont love anyone else. you can NOT love others when you dont love yourself.as for financially suited, i think him having the ability to support himself is what is important. he wouldnt need to support me or my kids, i can do that on my own.

Answer 7

My opinion is that the person interior is the most important.
If there is feelings involved between them, that's what it matters.

A couple must be compatible and they must trust each other, feel comfortable together, feel love and passion.

When there's love, the person loves the other the way they are, no matter what disabilities or defects the other has.

Answer 8

hmm i mean sure it depends on the girl and everything (personal preference) but..i find that the girls background and how she was brought up can sometimes reflect the kind of guy she wants to be with, just because..its comfortable, you know? i mean..thats not always the case but usually i would think. Also maybe consider too that it depends on what he/she wants out of the relationship. for example If its something as serious as marrige and children i mean yeah shell want somebody financially stable to be able to support/contribute to all of it. If its not as serious standars might be lower.

For me, haha lemme tell you i'm fifteen so..no marrige or extremely longg kinda relationships or anything yet, and okay yeah i'm still young BUT if i have a boyfriend i think hygene is important i don't want anyone who doesnt shower or brush their teeth, hah. How they dress..uh i don't expect ties or slacks but..i dont want them to look like they slept in their clothes and just wore them the next day (Jeans, sneaks and a good shirt's fine by mee). I think fitness is important..i don't want anybody jackedd out (meat heads..ew) but somebody who cares or plays a sport and is involved in something. If you wanna go beyond looks even i think its important if your in a relation ship for the person to have the same values as you have. Like..i value my family alot, respecting each other, i value my time and having space sometimes to be free to do some things on my own that i enjoy.

long and the short of that...ususally (not saying always) but usually a girls gonna want a guy who reflects who she is -looks, values, personality, intrests..etc

As far as disablilities go, i can honestly say that i don't think it would bother me that much. I mean in general im going to honestly tell you that women try and stay away from those things, depending on what they are. Like for example ( i hate to keep using the marrige thing but..) if your completley in love with somebody whos blind, it doesnt bother you, you love each other your married..its all good. But! You wanna have kids, whats the cchance that the kids might be blind or have a disability, too. As a parent you wouldnt want it for your kids, not to insult your lovee who has the disablility but..it is what is is. Or..maybe they would stay away from it in terms of..how is or would it affect our relationship in an emotional sense or a physical sense. One of my friends has kinda like..this anger management issue. And hes fine most of the time but..every relationship he's tried has failed because..they couldnt deal with it..it wasnt easy or fun or enjoyable and it hurt them as a couple.


anyways,..i hopeee this helps with your question. I didn't say anything to offend anyone or..yeah. But i just gave you a generalization like..what my friends say, mom says, her friends, aunts..everybody i know (and mine).

good luckk ;)

Answer 9

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Answer 10

All of the above are ok but no one really knows who they will fall in love with, the first impressions would get my attention but to keep it takes a lot more, disabilities are acceptable.