I met this girl a few months ago and we were working toward a relationship. We went out a few times and she said she's not ready. She really meant i wasn't her type but she didn't want to let me down hard. I bugged her about giving me another chance for about a week...texting her and talking to her online. She called me a stalker and banned me from her myspace page and stuff. Now i feel really bad cause i didn't ever want to hurt her and now she don't want no part of me. Help!!!
2007-02-06 08:47:34 · 11 answers · asked by Q 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's not much you can do in this situation. The thing about a girl is we can't let guys down bluntly we'll just tell you exactly what she told you and you just have to deal. If you're a nice guy like you just made yourself out to be then someone will like you for you. =]
2007-02-06 08:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by desiree g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, this sounds like what happened with me, without all the begging and texting of course. The girl I'm speaking about got engaged and is about to have a child. I told her a few weeks ago that I was getting married and she freaked out. Telling me to have a "picture perfect life", "How long have I been knowing my fiancee" and "When I make it big, she's gonna take my money." Hmm, and I thought we agreed to be friends. The point here is that while you still have feelings, you should respect her wishes, as this will actually make things easier for you. And what exactly does working towards a relationship mean? Did you have a romantic relationship with her or were you guys just going out to places and spending time together? Begging and pleading can make you look weak especially if you two didn't have a romantic relationship. All that begging and pleading actually made her more upset at you eventhough it seemed like the noble thing to do. Focus on you. Go out, have fun, enjoy YOUR life and sooner or later, she will be on your mind even less and if you let it, someone will take her place. Don't get too carried away, especially if your relationship with her didn't escalate beyond friendship
2007-02-06 16:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing , its gonna be very hard to get her back even as a friend. I am a girl, and trust me we get irritated easily. Shes probably just overwhelmed because she still has feelings for you, but she doesnt wanna hurt you.What i would do is just give her a break, so she can think things over clearly, then out of the blue, just simply call her and just talk to her like nothing ever happened.She will be a bit confused but she might just go along with it. But if she says shes not ready to talk to u yet then just say thats ok and tell her to call YOU when shes ready to talk.
I really hope ive helped!!!
2007-02-06 16:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a month to chill
then maybe call her
if u just keep coming back she will get annoyed
(and mad)
give her a while to let her know your okay and then call her
best wishes
good luck
<3
2007-02-06 16:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by alexisjo95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have a relationship, u break up then its not a good idea to talk to eachother the next couple of months. after some month, then go back to her, b friends again n if u want go on relationship again or stay friends.
2007-02-06 16:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by lsfrssn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a stalker there is no way to get her back, leave her alone. Why would you want someone who doesn't think you're attractive anyway? Why would you want to be with someone who wants nothing to do with you? Come on move on to someone who is worthy of your love. Good luck honey.
2007-02-06 16:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it all tell her that u didnt want 2 hurt her at all the key is communicating!
HOPE THIS HELPS... Im here to help not get points so if u have anymore advice email me so it wont go public...
2007-02-06 16:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya man, just forget about it being a nice guy doesnt work in this world expecially if you want to impress women.
2007-02-06 16:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go man, best thing you can do is walk away from the situation, she will pick up on the fact that you gave up and moved on, and sometimes women respect that and she may call you.
baseically its out of your hands, you keep kicking that door open and pursuing her its gunna get worse.
best wishes
2007-02-06 16:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her about what happened, and let her know that you wanna stay friends. And just play it slow and simple. Don't go fast for anything...just relax and let it happen.
2007-02-06 16:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋