My wife was a former exotic dancer?

Question

I love my wife dearly but I am very insecure about her past. I mean the stereo type is that strippers have no respect for themselves; others and I feel a woman is not a woman if she is willing to exploit herself. I mean I could sale drugs but I choose not to because I have integrity. I am just wondering the typical profile of a stripper. I am unsure if she lived a promiscous life style before me however she tells me they were paid to entertain and it is only a job nothing personal. I just worry about walking down the street with her one day and have someone from her past come up and tell me things I just don't want to hear. I mean no one is perfect but I think she hides a lot from me in regards to her previous occupation. What is the typical exotic dancer profile?

Answer 1

You love your wife despite her past - that is love. You are insecure about her past. Does she act like your steryotypical "stripper" You know the real wife. The most important thing is that she chose you - probably because you hold with more respect than those other men did. And of all men in the world she chose you. It wasn't personal, but it is normal to feel insecure. She probably feels the same way "does this guy like me or think of me differently because of my past? Oh man I'm so lucky to have him" is what she's probably thinking. And if some jerk comes up and says stuff about her past in regards to her occupation, that guy is a looser. What kind of idiot just stops on the street and points at your wife "ohh, she was a stripper and she bla bla bla" That just shows that he couldn't get a girl to like him so he payed one. Just say "I don't know what your thinking but that was in the past and I hold my wife with respect, and I don't want to hear you talking like that to her or about her,"

Answer 2

Honestly, these are probably questions you should have asked before you married but you've got enough people telling you that so I'm moving on... OK, my mother was an "entertainer" while I was growing up (yes, I said my mom...she looks younger and better than me, her 21 yr. old daughter) so I had the privilege of going to work with her sometimes. The reason I say privilege is because all of the women my mother worked with were extraordinary ladies! I really wondered why they were even there and most of their reasons were for the same as my mothers. They all work full time day jobs but they need extra money and part-time at Wal-Mart just doesn't cut it so they all went to work at this salon (back in the day they were called salons) and it was very exlcusive, it was not a strip club where any Joe could walk in and throw a dollar. The men had to pay a minimum of $150 just to see the women with clothes ON! For clothes off, the girls got to pick their own prices. For a while, the business was great, men were happy to pay that kind of money to spend time with a beautiful woman. Here is when things take a turn. It took one woman to mess the whole business up. Women started getting greedy and trying to hustle men, they offered whatever they could for the money, including themselves. After that, men started coming in and requesting more than a strip show, that's when my mother and a couple of her friends got out of the business. It started getting so bad that if you didn't put out, you weren't making any money. Now, people argue with me all day about my mom being that kind of a woman but to meet my mother, you would never think that about her...she is very classy and I like to think she was in the business when it was actually a business. Now, we are dealing with different kinds of women. They are younger, will do more for less and have no respect for themselves or others. I think it's all about maturity, so many women don't have the level of maturity that it takes to make it in the business. To sum my story up, I don't think you should sterotype your wife but I do think it's ok to ask questions. You are entitled to that. But just know that the past is the past and you can't change things, some things are better left unsaid, just build on what you have and try your hardest to make things work. There is no such thing as a failed marriage if you really tried!

Answer 3

Hey dude lighten up.
What do girls like doing most ??? DANCING
Yea yea I have heard all the stereotype judgements about strippers and some indeed have issues around sexuality, but those types are found everywhere else.
Most however have a certain pride and respect for their work.
you should feel flattered that after experiencing all the nurds and jerkoffs she would consider you a cut above them.
Her past is not an indication of a perverted nature, on the contrary it is an indication that she is quite qualified to assess the sincere qualities of a man when deciding who she wants to be with.
Be proud

Answer 4

Hi well first ov all you are a lucky man to be chosen ,
Im an ex dancer and adult actress so i can tell by expirience takes a spetial man o must b ritch o treat the lady with extream respect and makes her feel like a princess not a pice of meat to b the one to stay with her forever , so if a man walks up to you and tells you ye i know your whife i seen her naked you sinply anser well i know you had to pay her lots of cash just to see her birthday sout i see her evry night for free and i ghet to touch her ... So you can laff at him .... He will feel uncomftable and will walk away ... Unless you have a short temper and yo Ko him lol ...
And one last thing if we leave the past behind we certenly dont want the other harlf to rub it in are faces evry other day o will never be a past ...
Hope it helpt
Best of look with your insecurity's
From
Ely pink
Ciao

Answer 5

I'm sure you have a past too. We all do.
You knew about her danceing. If you paid attention to what the normal man gets paid on his job, compared to a womans salary, you'd see why some choose a professions that others may seem bad.

You should be proud that she's beautiful and she made a good living. You can't CARE more about what others may think IF you LOVE her!!

Let the nimrods walk up to you and bad mouth her.........all you have to do is be a man, and knock their lights out.

Most dancers find men repulsive after they have had to entertain them by dancing.

Get over it. She's yours now and so what that she use to dance.
She at least got out there and made a living.

Answer 6

So... She is a person with a past... You won't find many without one! And shame on you for lying to her & marrying her, when you have these hang ups! You cannot change your past and neither can she! If I were your wife & ran across this question on here, you'd better believe the hurt you caused would NEVER be able to be undone! You knew what she did for a living before you married her, how dare you lie & throw it back in her face / behind her back!

Sounds like you really are insecure! Get real or tell her how you feel & let her be happy with someone who will appreciate her for who she is!

Answer 7

Why are you borrowing trouble? You married her fully aware of her past occupation. There is no typical exotic dancer profile. Some are in it for sex, but most are making good money. That's the only reason they dance.

If you can't trust her, you have a serious problem because your marriage is standing on a mud foundation.

Answer 8

Maybe you should have asked all these questions before you married her? You don't seem to know your wife from the way you are posing this question? I also see you categorizing exotic dancers...some are lawyers, doctors and teachers now. Some needed to do this for money to get them through school. Some are drug addicts or have just lost their way in their lives but ALL of them are woman, sweet, delicate women that are human beings and no matter what the reason they danced that way, should not change how you feel about her, walk down the street with her or hear what anyone has to say about her. You should be asking her this question and letting her know, that no matter what, you love her. I am sure you must, if you married her.
Right? Think about it.
Good Luck

Answer 9

Look at it this way... a stripper has no problem getting naked in front of strange men in a public place. How do you think a stripper arrived at that point where she lost modesty?

Did you know what you were getting into when you married her? It is a little bit late to be worried about it now. Nevertheless, the both of you should be tested for STDs, HIV, HPV, et al.

Answer 10

Don't be stupid the past is the past. The only thing you need to be concerned about is what is going on right now. Sounds to me like you have some insecurity problems that you need to deal with that have nothing to do with your wife. Plus this lady is your wife, these things should have been dealt with before you were married.