i just found out my little sister who is 14 is dating a 19 yo....?

Question

what do i do!? i told her what guys are like but she can't see it my way....when i found out she had a bf i couldn't believe it cause she's a little young anyway, then when he was 19.....

now she's telling me she's in love with him...i told her she's not and she's just mixed up....she can't be in love with a 19 yo guy who she's been seeing for a couple of weeks...can she?

you know, he's gonna want stuff from her that she isn't ready for soon enough...she won't listen!

she made me swear that i wouldn't tell our parents but if i thought they'd make her listen, i'd say something.....

how can i stop this!?

i'm 17, if you're interested

yea, i'm a guy

Answer 1

FYI That's statutory Rape.....Call the cops on the lowlife there is no reason a 19 year old should be dating a 14 year old....

Answer 2

I'd tell my parents, or any adult that she respects that you think would make a difference.

I'm usually not into policing other people's relationships, but when I was 14, I got involved with a 19 year old, who turned out to be one of the creepiest and most disgusting people ever. Luckily, I found all of this out afterwards, and escaped relatively unscarred. Not all 19 year old guys are that way, and not even all 19 year old guys who might be interested in a 14 year old girl are necessarily that way. But 14 year olds are too young to tell the difference (trust me) and most 19 year olds are old enough to do a LOT of damage.

Answer 3

Does he know how old your sister is? Maybe you should comfront him. Does he know he can do jail time and have to register as a sex offender if they have ever been intimate, (i.e intercourse, kissing and even oral sex) you need to let her know you are only trying to save her from him and herself and if he really cares about her he could wait until she's legal. Try reasoning, but good luck with a 14 year old. I know you don't want to be a rat, and your sister might not trust you with any more of her precious secrets, but your parents should know. if your sister thinks there is nothing wrong with them dating then she should have no problem at least telling your parents. think about it this way, what if your sister went out with him and he starts wanting her to do things she isn't comfortable with and he forces himself on her. Or how about if she agrees to have sex with him and catches an STD or gets pregnant? How would you feel knowing you didn't speak up. People nowdays are crazy, and I don't know this guy but I imagine he must have a couple screws loose to be dating a 14 yr old when he is pushing 20/.Might not sound like it but telling may be the best thing you can do. It could make the difference or save your sister's life. think about it he is closer to your age but older than you, what do guys in your age group and older usually want from a younger girl. Save your sister from herself, she might not thank you now, but she will later. All the best.

Answer 4

19 and 14 doesn't seem like a big age gap, but it does matter in this situation because she isn't mature enough to make those kinds of decision. I would tell your parents (and they can say then found out some other way, not through you) and if there was evidence of something more serious, call the cops on him. It's statutory rape.

Answer 5

I dont believe it ratting anyone out. But in this situation i think its in her best interests to talk to your parents. Shes only 14 and dating a 19 year old. If he hasnt already hes going to pressure her into sleeping together. Something im sure she isnt ready for. If she hasnt already done it. And inform him that if he does sleep with her he will go to jail.

Answer 6

trust me im 14 and and i have an older brother u big brother types are like crazy bout our safty but just tell her that u think she should go a little younger in age and she isnt ready for a guy that much older than her and the actions it may bring. if she dont listen than tell her that ur gonna call the cops on him cause he can go to jail for that u know he is way to old for a girl her age!!! if u need any more help just emal me in case u dont want it to go public. im here to help

Answer 7

1 if she is 14 & he is 19 he is WAY 2 old 4 her she is 2 young 2 be in love rite now so i would try 2 explain 2 her or get a parent 2 because she needs 2 understand what could happen...
HOPE THIS HELPS... Im here to help not get points so if u have anymore advice email me so it wont go public...

Answer 8

I think you need to calmly tell your parents that your worried about your sister and your not a big fan of the guy she's dating leave out the age thing. Ask your parent to have her introduce each other, let them do the finding out. If that doesn't work just tell them. She can't be mad at you forever!

Answer 9

Dont bring it up often, it will just make her want to go against you if she wants a boyfriend or not. You might want to keep an eye on her but not be upfront about it. Dont tell your parents, be trustworthy, and let your sister see what a good relationship is like. Do the right thing! _-*Sarah*-_

Answer 10

You sound like you are very jealous. But if you intend to do something about it, why not just go over to new BF's house and "reason" with him with a flamethrower? I'm sure he will see the "light".

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