If my parents both cheated on each other is it highly likely that I might cheat as well? My Dad was just a rogue and had flings throughout the marriage and my Mom had an affair when I was 16. She actually went off with this man and divorced my Dad although the relationship didn't work out. I have definately thought about it but never had an opportunity to do it. What does this mean?
2007-02-06 08:36:56 · 19 answers · asked by Michele 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The choice is yours. You acknowledge the idea that cheating is there and you don't sound like a fan?! so have some self control and some courage to show people you don't have to be the person they think you'll be!
2007-02-06 08:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by **Red** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. My father had an affair most his married life and obviously my mother was being cheated on. Does that mean that i will have an affair AND be cheated on? / As for a male friend of mine, his father was also cheating all the time but this friend is totally against affairs, never had one and knowing him most probably never will! Everyone is individual and has their own values. Nothing to do with the parents
2007-02-06 16:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by sbro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont. Consider others feelings. How did you feel when your parents did this? Maybe this is just some doubt in you forced in by family problems. Make it a goal not to hurt the feelings of whoever you are in a relationship with. Just because you think about it doesnt mean you are. Im sure lots of guys have seen other girls and thought about it while they have a girlfriend but that doesnt necessarily mean theyre cheaters at heart. Stay true, and remember the feelings of others and know these actions from your parents dont go through generations. Its a choice..make the right one!! _-*Sarah*-_
2007-02-06 16:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It depends in different families and when. If a little boy sees his father beating his mom at a young age, chances are that boy will grow up thinking that is normal and will exhibit those traits. However, in my friends case, she took it the opposite way. She saw her dad be a total jerk to his wife. One of the things was he would come home drunk with a hickey on his neck. And she witnessed physical and verbal abuse. She, and her brother, have vowed to never ever end up like their father, and they are the most outspoken people I know about infidelity and men cheating and beating their wives. It varies. You, I think you realize what damage cheating can do to a family. I don't think you are at any more higher of a risk to cheat.
2007-02-06 16:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Namaste 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is both yes and no.
As role models your parents failed and hence make you more prone to repeat what you see. But the other side is that you recognize this as a non-example.
So you get to choose weather you are going to be an adult (prepare yourself to be a good parent) and seek out giving relationships with Simone else ready to be a giving parent or act like the selfish children both your parents behave like.
2007-02-06 16:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen nor heard any 'statistic' on cheating, nor do I think that it should 'make you' cheat simply because both of your parents cheated. I'm sure you know of the 'pain' that cheating can cause, so why don't you simply NOT DO IT! My grandparents and mother were all 'alcoholic' but I don't even like 'feeling drunk' ... even though according to 'statistics' I 'should be an alcoholic' ... but I don't 'have to do' what my 'elders' did just because they did, and you don't have to do what your elders did, either.
2007-02-06 17:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing how with our generation this seems to be the norm. Since you have witnessed this problem first hand, and are aware of the devastation it brings upon a family you can decide for yourself if it is worth it or not. It's not hereditary it's a choice. So make the right choice. Get involved with God and a church, this works to.
2007-02-06 16:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your personality whether you turn out to be a cheater or not. My parents were also both unfaithful to each other,so when i got married i was more than determined to stay faithful to him and not end up like my parents.This sadly did not work out, but it wasn't for the want of trying, i was the one who stayed faithful(despite my coming from a split family!)
2007-02-10 14:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have 2 be a cheater if u dont want 2 all i have 2 say is cheating on some1 doesnt run through genetics...
cheating also hurts people badly so dont ever do it my bf cheated on me and now no1 at my school will talk 2 him...
HOPE THIS HELPS... Im here to help not get points so if u have anymore advice email me so it wont go public...
2007-02-06 16:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that your parents were cheaters doesn't mean you are. You can learn from their mistakes and decide not to be a cheter, you've seen what it can do to a relationship. If you learn from your parents mistakes instead of making the same mistakes as them you'll probably be able to have great relationships
2007-02-07 14:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Robyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋