Having a baby or not?
I am 6 weeks pregnant by my boyfriend who I have been with for 4 months and my divorce from my ex husband is not yet final? However I am not sure if I am over my husband he wants me back we have been separated for almost 3 years but talking and were intimate up until I met my current boyfriend. I have 2 kids by my ex husband ages 15 and 9. My boyfriend is wonderful and supportive but I am terrified of having another baby. He has been trying to rush my divorce and started talking about marriage. I told him I didn't want to get married just because I was pregnant and he assured me that he wanted to marry me before he knew I was pregnant. My problem is if I try again with my husband he wants me to abort this baby and if I stay with my boyfriend and have the baby and it doesnt work I can never go back to my ex husband with this baby. What should I do?
2007-02-06 08:26:36 · 14 answers · asked by ms_sweet_real 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
the baby is a baby no matter how small, don't even consider Killing an innocent helpless life will only add to your problems, only this time it'll not be able to be fixed.
but i would try and make it work with your husband..
it's not the baby's fault you got pregnant by your boyfriend...
even if you have to give the baby up...at least you were a good mom to it and knew what was best for it!
Do what you believe is right, even if it's not convenient...you can always fix your mistakes correctly....
For the sake of your other children try and work things out with their dad...
2007-02-06 08:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide who the better man is! Why did you want a divorce in the first place? People really dont change you know and he might be the same way as before.
will your ex get evil if he finds out you are pregnant with another man even though you might still want the divorce and move on? Even if you have good man now. Dont rush things since you already have 2 kids and that might make for a very difficult situation, especially for your kids. I would not keep the baby since it is very early in your relationship. do you really know this person?
2007-02-06 16:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by nessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage ended once over something the two of you couldn't agree upon and likely will end again for more of the same reasons if you get back with your ex. My advice would be to get rid of them both and give the baby up for adoption. That is better than taking the life of an innocent unborn child. Then spend some real value time figuring out why you aren't on birth control.
2007-02-06 16:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you do do not abort the baby if u still havibg feelings tored ur ex and u for sure wants to go back u can let ur bf take care of the baby or u both make a decion and give the baby for adobtion..but if not just start a new life with ur bf.. but do not get an abortion u will regrat doing it.. just think before u do anything....get a papper and make a list of y u should go back 2 ur ex and y u shouldn't and y u should stay w/ur bf and y u should (when u do that do not think about the new babby) ...good luck.. and if ur ex really wants u back would he ask u for an abortion?
2007-02-06 16:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by missT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to figure out what is best for you. It sounds like you are putting too much at stake based on what these men want of you. You are the one giving birth, you are the one who may have a baby, and you are the one who has to make this decision. Take care of yourself. What do YOU want??? If you need help exploring this question talk with a counselor. There are many counselor's who see people on a sliding scale fee, meaning you pay what you can afford. Counselors are supposed to help you find out what is best for you. Call on your social support systems as well. Please take care of yourself!!!!!
2007-02-06 16:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by RedPower Woman 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Final out the divorce! Tell him, i don't need you in my life, i have moved on and i am going to life my life with a man that truly takes care of me and loves me.
2007-02-06 16:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Hi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all God told people to mot abort thier child. Maybe your boyfriend really does like you and does want to marry you. If you really want you ex then you would have all ready come back to him.
2007-02-06 16:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your ex is really serious about getting back together, he wont make you meet conditions such as an abortion. If he truely loves you and wants you back he will except your situation.
2007-02-06 16:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't want to be with any man that tells you what to do.
You need to make the decision based on what you really want.
P.S. Don't listen to all these pro-life fanatics...they are too brainwashed to be logical at all.
2007-02-06 16:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by renee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump the 2 of them reason being that if your so confused abouth the two of them you don't love them go ahead and have the baby its your body and no body should force you to do things that you don't want to do .ok no man should minulspe a woman and you decide your future not them
2007-02-06 16:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋