I was recently involved with a man who strongly persued me. We are both divorced. I have been for a year and a half but he has only been divorced for a few months. I was unavailable in the beginning and he was aware that we could only be friends. He kept insisting I give him a chance and assured me I wouldn't be disappointed. We began to talk reguarly and he expressed to me how much he was beginning to care about me. He said all the right things I wanted to hear so of course I gave in. I really started to like him alot and wanted to develop a relationship with him. When he realized I was beginning to have those type of feelings he quickly pulled away. He stopped showing interest and didn't call near as often. He said he decided he wasn't ready for a relationship yet and gave me the "it's not you it's me" line. Now he completely ignores my messages and won't even respond to my texts when I send them. What could I have done to make him feel this way???
2007-02-06 08:22:33 · 15 answers · asked by Missy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He just wanted some ***...you haven't done anything to make him feel this way, it's just the way he is...it's too soon for you to get into anything serious, just enjoy single life and take care of you...you can't love someone else until you love yourself...
2007-02-13 17:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by elrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong at all he at first wanted to see if he could still have those feelings and attract women.But b/c of his insecure and selfish ways he decided to pull away after he already had you involved. He probably will go back to his wife or try to work things out with her get the picture familier ground he broke that comfort zone. There is someone out there for you dont worry dont blame yourself for his stupid mistakes. God Bless
2007-02-06 08:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more important question is, why does it matter? This guy obviously passed up a really smart and intelligent woman. He dumped you cold turkey because he noticed you were having feelings for you. That's usually honorable that a man would let you know before leading you on. But he's not even responding to your texts. I say forget this man, it definitely is him. You had nothing to do with it. Quite frankly it's his problem, not yours.
2007-02-06 08:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Namaste 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He thought he was ready, but when you started to have feelings, it freaked him out. Maybe he's still dealing with commitment or self-esteem issues from his divorce. It really wasn't you! He may be scared to get close anyone again so he goes after women he can't have. Show him that you want to be his friend (if you can handle only having a friendship with someone you have feelings for) and he'll probably warm up to you again. Maybe your friendship will eventually grow into something more.
2007-02-06 08:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Katie L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he was more attracted to the idea of having you than the reality of it. It seems as though some men will desire someone they cant have very strongly, then if circumstances change and they can actually have that person they cool off on the idea. Men like that are emotionally immature.
2007-02-14 01:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's not you, it's him! He wanted to see how far he could get, but when you finally opened up and let him in, he backed off, maybe thinking you'd be clingy or high maintenance. My suggestion, let it go, leave him be for a minute, and let him miss you. Stop sending all the text's and messages, because now you're jocking! And that's a no no!!!
2007-02-06 08:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by paytaymak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coming out of a marriage into another serious relationship does not sound like a good idea for either of you, however it seems like he just wants to have fun. I am sorry you were hurt in the process but it might end up being whats best for you.
2007-02-06 08:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are able to imagine about the ex and not in any respect get mad. you will see him and not in any respect lengthy for him. you will see him with yet another lady and not in any respect be jealous. then i might want to say you're over him and in a position to work out who else is unquestionably worth your even as. be choosy tho. some men presently are sleaze luggage... in case you have not to any extent further all waiting spoke of.. lol
2016-10-17 05:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happens just know that its not your fault. Apparently this guy didnt like you for your feelings or actually care about you. He, like most guys, was probably just there for the chase. I know its confusing but, hey, its guys. Let me know how everything works out and best of luck!!
_-*Sarah*-_
2007-02-06 08:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything and it's not your fault. This guy is what's known as a loser. He's just playing head games with you. He's not worth your time. Forget about him and go find someone else.
2007-02-06 08:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋