Girls why do you?

Question

go out with guys that treat you like crap, cheat on you, and abuse you physically and emotionally? You can break up a hundred times but you'll still go back with him. You girls choose these guys over nice guys that would treat you right and i want to know why? a lot of girls fall into this catogory and i know youre going to say that im wrong but i see it all the time.

Answer 1

those girls which do that are stupid and shallow.. they don't deserve those nice guys let them live on their own little shallow world

Answer 2

Well, most females have the mindset of hooking up with a "bad boy" and that is exactly what they get. Most females go for a certain appearance and attitude instead of the personality and the willingness to love that the person carries. This is why you see so many pregnant teens walking around without their baby's daddy, all because they go for the bad boy. I guess these guys are in style now and all females want to have whats hot right now. As far as the good guys go, there is nothing wrong with a good guy. Most females though, they like the sense of power in their other half and the good guy just doesn't possess that characteristic. It seems as if all the good guys are too soft or weak, almost to gentle for a woman and that is not what we are looking for. We need the sense of being protected and although we may need protection from that "bad boy" that we are dating, we know that if we are out with him, we don't have to worry about anyone else. And some people may be just flat out dumb. They see a guy that is handsome and no matter if he has two strikes, is a sexual predator, bank robber, or a criminal, they still want him. It all depends on the mindset of the woman but don't give up because they do this. Sooner or later someone will figure out that they want a good guy and just mite come knocking on your door!

Answer 3

Smokey, ol' pal. THIS is the question of the universe. Women who do this, never really stop doing it. Really GREAT women, find themselves dating and marrying the same personality type guy all their lives until and unless they get some perspective on this self-destructive pattern. These are the women that "NICE GUYS" knock ourselves out over, but finish last with. What a waste. Women don't know why they do this either, which means that MEN have no idea what women want and can't find out. This is the mother lode of questions.

The repetition of bad selection has been tested with male scent of all things (Columbia University, if I remember). It seems that ovulating women are attracted to the scent of males whose immune systems are complementary and avoid males whose scent tells them that they are genetically similar. The research shows that this selection pattern is reversed if the woman is on the pill. Presence of unusual amounts of hormones is suspected. The pattern also less predictable (low kurtosis) if the male has lots of artificial scent added.

It may sound dumb, but women really CAN "smell a rat" The problem is that they wind up attracted to the rat. Go figure. Good luck.

Answer 4

well i only fall into the treat you like crap category, never been abused at all, but i've got to say, because we've yet to meet anyone who doesn't. I'm all for moving on with mister right, but every guy i've ever met who was worth a crap belonged to somebody else. I don't know if u've heard the recent census info for here in the U.S., but there are many more ladies out there then men these days. makes it ruff.

Answer 5

What a generalization. That would be like me asking, "Why do you guys always go out with the big busted blondes who spend all your money and cheat on you but then spend so much time complaining about being broke and used?"

You may see what you described quite a bit, but I'm also sure you see lots of girls dating great down-to-earth guys. I think you are pointing out exceptions, not the norm.

Answer 6

Girls do it because they don't think they can get the good guys or they can't find a good guy. i used to date the bad guys. I wanted him for 3 years after I broke up with him because I did love him and although he treated me like crap he still taught me what love was and I learned alot from him. I couldn't find that good guy nor did I think I was capable of getting a good guy. But Ill tell you what...the day I met that good guy....I was happy and i did get him and now I am married to him. My friend just can't stand a nice guy...she wants to barf when she sees a nice guy but I think she will like the nice guy when she grows up...and she is 20

Answer 7

No, you're most definitely right. I don't really know the reason and I won't pretend to, but I believe it has a lot to do with low self esteem that just gets trampled to death when a girl stays with a guy who treats her like dirt. If you're told something over and over again, you start to believe it. They think the problem is with THEM and not with the guy.

Answer 8

I see my friends fall for the wrong ones all the time. I don't know why it happens or why they do it. But I have never done this before. I have good enough judgement to realize which guys are good for me & which guys just want to use me...ect. It's good to know that guys like you care. Any girl would be glad to have someone so considerate.

Answer 9

Some b*tch will answer that they are looking for someone to protect them, someone to look after them, a guy that can stand on his own. All Bullsh*t!
Bottom line, they don't think they are good enough to get anyone better. Its easier to pick up sh*t than dig for gold. As a judge pro-tem, I approve literally hundreds of restraining orders against these sh*ts, who take care of thier girl friends by beating the living sh*t out of them. They get what they deserve.

Answer 10

there are alot of girls out there that have a lot insecurities. alot of them think that this is the only kind of guy that will have them or the only kind they can get. they are afraid if they leave they wont be able to find someone else. or no one else will have them.too bad they dont know this is farthest thing from the truth.

Answer 11

i'll admit i do it. i'm doing it right now. i know my boyfriend is cheating and he's not aware i know, but i stay with him because he made me feel the happiest i've ever been in my life. even if he doesn't actually care about me, i'd rather feel like someone does than know for sure that no one cares. so i stay with him because i fear i will never find anyone better.