An honest female perspective would be much appreciated.
2007-02-06 07:56:15 · 15 answers · asked by Legolas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're with someone that is playing games like that you might want to reconsider being with her. Sorry, but "testing" is a game and I refuse to play games like that with the guy I'm with.
2007-02-06 08:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex used to do this and her main reason is because she wants to answer something on her mind but doesn't want to ask you directly because you might be offended or because she's uncomfortable herself. Putting you through a test was her way of getting an answer but sometimes the "answer" you give might not be your true honest feelings and therefore create more confusion and problems. Just tell her that you don't like the tests but try to be understanding to see what's her motive and reason for doing it in the first place.
2007-02-06 16:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by namedcal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st im a guy, but if ur going out with her already, she already likes u!!! Sometimes girls run tests on guys to see how far a guy can take it.She could be testing ur patience, or testing a certain situation that both of u are going through to get to know u better. If u feel deep inside u arent doing anything wrong,then just let her be. If she dont like u she wont be with u. theres no pity in good relationships. Its a typical female trait although guys do them too!!
Hope it goes well and just be URSELF!!!
2007-02-06 16:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by martin c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what kind of test she is giving u. if she is just being moody to see how you react, then im sure most girls would like the 'u seem a little down 2day so thort these flowers mite cheer u up, or this txt sayin how much i enjoyed last nite etc mite cheer you'
Its all relative to the test she seems to be givin you, is she really giving you a test or are you alittle insecure and reading too much in2 things.
Did you find her in bed with sum1 you know, in which case this isnt a test, its a big hint to run as fast as you can and find yourself sum1 who cares for you.
sumwhere only you can know between these 2 extremes lies your answer only you know and i can only advise with no details. just be yourself and react how you would normally react to a situation, if it is a test and she dont like your reaction, then ask yourself are you really going to change your own identity and personality for this girl or maybe find sum1 more likeminded to yourself.
seems to me yr a really nice guy an eager to please maybe it shud be your partener who is doing the pleasing for a change
2007-02-06 16:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is still with you you must be passing the tests. Good sign but if you are uncomfortable with it now it might be an idea to bring the subject up with her. Tell her you are happy with her and like the person she is. Com on now, how many tests will you have to pass before she is satisfied? If you keep allowing it to go on she might lose respect for you so sensitively tell her they need to stop now because it isn't fair.
2007-02-06 16:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound uncertain of each other.
If I were a man and I were being tested in the early
stages of a relationship I would be worried. She
could be a bunny boiler.
Talk to her and see what she thinks - let her know
how she is making you feel. Be prepared to go
find someone else.
2007-02-06 16:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she testing you? She must have problems with trust and insecurity. I would talk to her and ask why she is doing this to you as you dont need things like that in a relationship. I wouldn't do that to my Hubby as i trust him and not insecure.
Maybe you could not be showing her enough affection/attention in the relationship, not sure on her really. Best to ask her yourself.
Good luck and do it in a nice way.
2007-02-06 16:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u have to EARN trust, by testing u she is confirming or reaffirming that u r a trustworthy partner, if u have nothing to hide u should have no probs displaying ur honesty, infact, use it to ur advantage and show off a bit, being trustworthy and honest is the best asset u can have, play it for all its worth........thats as honest as it gets mate, hope it helps.
2007-02-06 16:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt sound very secure in herself, or with your relationship. You should talk to her and find out why she keeps testing you and explain that it could cause problems in the future if she doesnt trust you.
2007-02-06 17:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. She said yes, so she probably does, but then again alot of girls i know have said yes because they'r desperate. But talk to her, ask her why she keeps testing you. Maybe she just making sure you like her. Who knows, just talk to her, see how she really feels about you. Good luck!
2007-02-06 16:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋